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Does anyone call and hope the person you are calling doesn’t pick up? Whenever I call I get an odd feeling and hope the person does not pick up

jab60 6 June 13
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i think it's happened but not often. if i don't feel like talking i usually have email as an option. i do not text, as someone here mentioned as yet another option. i just don't.

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Being an introvert all the time.

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It does feel like an intrusion, I am so grateful for texting. It is a standing rule that you text me first to see if am available. Most of the time I am but sometimes I just don't want to talk. Of course I never say that. I just say I will get back to you I am occupied. That way they don't feel rejected by me ignoring their call.

Vyn951 Level 4 June 14, 2018
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I do that all day long in my job. My mantra when I dial is please go to voice mail... I work in short term disability claims.

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The same as calling at a house and hoping they aren't in ?

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Sometimes. I'm guessing on those occasions you're calling out of duty?

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I have a weird dread about talking on the phone. I don't like answering when someone calls. It feels like such an intrusion. I hate small talk. I don't know where all that comes from. I feel a little silly admitting it. ?

Deinan Level 4 June 14, 2018

You're not alone!

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I hate phone communication more than any form.

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Yes I have called the whitehouse.. but all I get is The President is currently in Mara Lago...???️‍♂️

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It really depends on the call. I'd usually rather talk than text, but there are some people I just don't want to talk to at all.

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Each and every time. Texting is awesome.

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NO. /old school here.

Qualia Level 8 June 14, 2018
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I hate to judge or critize people my age with little children anxiety.

@Athena You can call me out.... I grew up being very sensitive but able to manage monster in the closet, under the bed and in the backseat of the car. Coming from a generation that experienced everything from Nuclear Scare to now. I see too much "weak", too much "sensitive", in my house I was never reprimended by fighting with another kid, when "bullied" told by an uncle... come from behind, hit him with your metal lunchbox and do not be satisfied, remember is a bully and hit him again. He will never forget your sneak.... he did complained that I had the lunchbox full of rocks and his 2 inch gash will never grow hair but I was never bullied again. What I meant to say was My grandmother raised no victims, she raised Men that will handle their business. How far do you have to go is up to you. I don't get people "polling" here. I never asked a single individual in my life... "My wife wants a divorce, what I am going to do? I reckon my formation was cemented in the "lone wolf gunfighter" of the 50's cinema. I am against ownership of guns by civilians and my son owns shotgun and 9mm and my ex wife love to go target shooting (a fact I remember about her, always). My favorite phrase is "Fuck the nra". Don't do much phone. I never answer the phone. Those close to me if they really need to talk to me know the protocol, contact my sister, to let her know to tell me to read my texts. By her line of work, her phone is not allowed in her office in the building. So everything about me will be a delay. Only my 3 kids, my ex wife, former gf nearby, my buddies for 50 plus years and sisters will get a return call right away. Romantic interest is another matter handlex in a need to know basis. Hate not to be nice, but the reason this country is so Fucked Up is in the lack of a spine at the core of the individuals and guns do not give you a spine if you already did not had one in the first place. And then again you may think there is nothing wrong with this country and its population. I am a romantic, enjoy sadness as a vehicle for creativity but I am an island able to withstand a hurricane. I don't consult my anxieties.... I squash them like "Shane". Can not believe I said that but... I know is more than what you expected... Enough.... Being in the city for 6 weeks during 80's, I love your "handler" Athena.

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I like calling and don't worry if they answer or not. However, I detest texting when trying to have an actual conversation. Not because I'm old but because it rates right up there with "meet & greet". Blech!

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I'm one of those terrible people who are heartily glad that texting came along, for this very reason. These days I can chicken out of having to have a conversation over the phone and send a text instead — and if not happy, it certainly makes me feel relieved to do so.

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I've never experienced this, so i ask respectfully, what is the purpose of a call if the caller doesn't want anyone to answer? Is it that the person calling really doesn't want to interact, calling out of obligation? Or is the caller afraid of something else?

I'd appreciate understanding. Thanks.

just a thought and not speaking for OP but it has crossed my mind that people better with thinking about words they use before typing vs speaking prefer text.

Text is kinda fun when a person has a way of tweaking grey matter in a way they can't convey in spoken word but dammit. I hate text convos because I can require a lot of words before I get my point across & don't feel like writing a college essay each convo.

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What the heck sense does it make to call someone that you don't want to answer? That's like pulling down your pants to take a sh@t that you don't really feel the urge to take. You don't want them to answer DON'T DIAL THEIR NUMBER - it's a duh kind of thing.

It's anxiety I'm guessing.

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No. If I phone someone, it's because I want to talk to them. If I don't want to, I don't phone them. I'd rather get whatever business it is done than pay phone tag with their voice mail.

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Many times, I hope to get to speak to their answering machine and be done with it.

legna Level 4 June 13, 2018
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I rarely call anyone. I text and I answer if my kids or dad calls.

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All the time

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I wait for the voicemail to kick in and if I get a real person I stumble over my tongue. I swear I am an idiot. lol

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Sadly I do. I must try and work on that...........😕

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Yes. And that's also a Seinfeld episode. 🙂

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No. I only call the people I want to pick up.

Good grief THANK YOU.

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