Romance is defined by the couple. Who and what they are, how they are with each other, there are so many variable that goes along with it. Some couples base their entire relationship around it and others could care less.

When people separate or divorce they usually consult a lawyer, a priest and or a doctor, if not all three but they never do this before they get married. People often enter a relationship with unstated expectations (some of which may be fanciful or unrealistic) and with the passage time their expectations emerge and the friction begins and all notion of romantic love has faded like awakening from a dream......Tis sad but need not be so

doing things simply for the benefit of your partner

Effection...Respect...listening...being responsible

Probably more important in seduction than in a relationship. Many relationships thrive with no romance whatsoever so it is more icing than cake.