How many of you are willing to date long distance if you know the Person on the other end is genuine?
I prefer texting,sexting, phone relationships. I gave up dating sites, work odd hours,had too many bad experiences with men, don't have much of a social life so it's a great alternative. Unfortunately most men who would get involved with a woman only through texting phone calls and sexting are married.
My boyfriend lives 3 hours away and we usually see each other e/o weekend. We met via an online dating site, but I honestly wasn't putting that much effort into him initially because I was dating a couple of others who lived close. I wasn't keen on dating someone who lives 3 hours away. But I'm grateful he was persistent because he is amazing and we're super happy! I seriously didn't know what I was missing before meeting him and am thankful for the lessons learned from marriage/divorce that led me to him. I have the luxury of working from home, so we're planning on me starting to stay with him for longer periods of time this month. We both find my telecommuting very convenient if I end up moving there which is what we're working towards. So I say, if someone is looking for the same things in a relationship as you are, give it a chance!
If it were guaranteed to be short term and one or both of us had solid plans to shorten or eliminate the distance.
My other half and I were together for several years before he took a job that required him to move cross country. At the time I was taking care of my disabled father and could not follow. We texted constantly and visited each other frequently, but it was damned hard. I sometimes don't even understand how we ended up making it work.
I was able to move to be with him after two years, and things were good again immediately. I admit I wondered if that would even be the case, if perhaps we'd grown in different directions and that was why those two years had been so difficult. Nope, it was just the distance - we're as close now as we ever were. We will not be attempting long distance ever, ever again. Where he goes, I will follow.
My opinion is that the relationship can be strong, however, you need to be able to spend as much time as possible with the partner. The more time spent in their company, the stronger the relationship will be.
That is not true.. If you spent all the time with your Partner, you'll get sick of each other. I think there should be a healthy distance....
@HariKrishnanM if you have the option to see each other 6 times a year instead of once, I think it will be better. But yeah, some say the cucumber tastes better pickled.
As it happens, I am planning on moving a considerable distance in the near future, as soon as I can sell my house where I'm at right now. I made the decision on a trip there, and then met up with her: she had been a non-romantic friend before this visit, and upon our meeting this time around, the sparks really flew and, well, now I have a lot of extra incentive to finish up the moving project.
So for the time being, it's a long-distance relationship. Which is okay for now, but much less than ideal. It's a challenge to develop the relationship this way. She and I could have made a lot more progress developing our relationship than we have because phone calls, texts, and other remote communications are just not the same as being together in person.
Update: I spent a pleasant weekend there, much of it with her.
My profile has now been updated to "single."
At least we parted ways smiling and may maintain a friendship.
Provided there was a possibility that the distance could be greatly reduced at some not too distant future time.
I am datting Dan who I met here - he lives 3 hours from me. We are making long distance work.
Three hours apart isn't so bad it would be impossible to pursue the relationship. Hardly convenient, to be sure, but you could make weekends of it.
Good luck to you two!
I want physical interaction and affection in my relationship, so it's a no for me.
@SACatWalker But you never know how long that will take or if that will ever happen. A lot of people want physical intimacy in their relationship. That doesn't happen too often if you live very far from each other.
I am currently in a long distance relationship. I know the other person is real because we meet as much as we can and have a great interest in each other. Now the fact we are a long distance apart does make it difficult - but it can be done and be very rewarding. The hope is of course - that it won't be "long distance" for a long time