Just got a call from my 90 yr old mother. I have a very dysfunctional relationship with my family. My father died 3 years ago yesterday. I found out about it 2 days later. I answered a post on FB yesterday reminding her I was notified 2 days later. My mom said I should have lit a Yazheit candle(prayer candle) and prayed night before last showing respect for my father. I reminded her I don't pray. I also wanted to remind her how I was physically and emotionally abused by them as a child, but I stopped there. What would you have said?