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Do you give compliments with honesty?

As a side of a question I posted in the singles group, do you give honest compliments?
I mean do you give them easily as a way to break the ice or do you think about it and only make them with honesty?
On a side note of the side note, do you use compliments as a way to advance on the idea of picking another up?

Akfishlady 8 July 18
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I give encouragement, or try to. I compliment when I can, and I always try to be honest, but we all need encouragement.

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I really don’t compliment often. I always thought giving compliments were kind of insulting. Idk, I guess I’m weird. I think I perceive people’s usage of complimenting as a manipulative tool. I need to break myself of that, but some others need to stop dishing them out like Halloween candy.

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I will compliment people, even those I don't know. I always try to find something nice about someone to compliment them on but sometimes that is easier said than done.

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At this point in my life, I don't say anything that I don't mean.

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always honestly compliment. rarely just out of the blue to a stranger.

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I do give compliments and with sincerity. I know how good it makes me feel if someone compliments me so if I like someone’s hair or notice a cute new outfit or even if they just look especially happy I’ll give them a compliment. I do that to strangers too.

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Here’s an article about what can happen to women who agree with the compliments they are given. What a weird response from this guy, yet not unusual. The Twitter comments are telling. They oddly veer into a book discussion but then continue after that. [scarymommy.com]

UUNJ Level 8 July 18, 2018

This. All of this. And I wonder why I struggle with self-acceptance. Can't be pissing off the men by owning that I might actually be pretty.

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Very rarely but when I give one it's sincere. I generally go with the assumption that a person is smart enough to look through false praise.

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Whenever I give anyone a compliment, I do it with complete sincerity.
People are always really quick to tell you when you're fucking up, but they hardly ever make the effort to take the time to say something nice.
Whenever I have the opportunity to pay someone a real compliment, I'll do it.
Especially strangers.
I've never used a compliment as a pick-up line.

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On the side of your side side, compliments on your note !! ?

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I don't think I give too many compliments so when I actually do, it's meaningful. In the case of picking up someone, I might be more generous with my compliment and emphasis it more than usual.

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I don't give compliments easily so when I do, I mean it.

And yes, if I'm interested in a relationship with someone I will give her compliments to communicate my interest. Her reaction will tell me if she reciprocates my interest.

Strabo Level 6 July 18, 2018
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I only compliment when someone has done something noteworthy. Praising someone for personal gain is ass kissing. These lips weren't designed for that.

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I compliment you on this post. It is a very nice post. Just like the rest of your posts.

jeffy Level 7 July 18, 2018
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I give genuine compliments without expectation of acknowledgement or reciprocation. If I did that would be insincere or manipulative.

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I use compliments when people deserve them-I don't use them unless they are sincere.

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A compliment given any way but honestly is no longer a compliment.

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If I see something that deserves a compliment then I provide it honestly.
The second question is a bit more complicated. I may offer a few more compliments to someone I'm interested in, I think that some may see this as insecurity or over compensating, but that's how I am.

Offering false compliments just isn't my thing.

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I do not give gratuitous compliments. All that I give are earned.

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I say them as I see them.
Makes most uncomfortable most of the time.

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I don't know why anyone would give a compliment that wasn't sincere, unless they were being paid to (service industry, etc)

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why wouldn't I?

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I never give fake compliments....that is until entering "dog world"...which I learned is a "when in Rome" thing. The only time I do it is if I'm dying to know what heinous creatures threw such an abberant specimen. I hate that, but it's a necessary evil.
Sad as until that dawned on me it was bizarre to be losing it over someone's dog only to have them look at me as if I'd an arm growing out my forehead. Yes those were REAL compliments lady! But still. I don't gush over a dog I don't like, ever. And NEVER give fake compliments or blow smoke in that world online.
/more than anyone wanted to know about dog world. lol

Qualia Level 8 July 18, 2018

@Akfishlady No I mean it's a real thing this phenomenon that people sleuth dogs(when you can't tell who they are when not in the ring w/the band on handlers arm to look in a catalog) with fake compliments. Sad but true. I didn't know this until later so at the time at a show when I lost it over this woman's girl she looked at me funny & at the time I couldn't figure out why.

@Akfishlady it's really very catty & it sucks. Apparently I'm a dork that doesn't do this fake thing IRL in any other facet of life. So this world has taught me it's a thing.

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well yes i give honest compliment whats the point of having a conversation without honesty

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