I wouldn't necessarily worry about telling her about every casual date. If somebody becomes regular and is likely to meet your daughter, that is the time to let the ex know what's going on.

unless there are unresolved issues i doubt your ex will be expecting you to lead a monastic life your daughter is the only one you would have to protect in such a situation does your ex keep you informed of her dating life? if so just follow her example

Without knowing the circumstances of how you became exes, this isn't something you really NEED to tell her unless you want to have a conversation about how you'll manage your dating around your daughter. That may be a non-issue as well since your daughter seems to have reconciled the situation. When and how you expose your daughter to your potential partners might be something to consider. It all depends on the relationship you have with both your daughter and your ex. There's no rulebook here. You're not on a mission to hurt the ex, nor should she be hurt by your desire to meet someone since your romantic relationship with her is ended. Hope this helps.

Fix your ex up with a friend (or an enemy, if it's a forced cordial), then she can't really say anything.

I wouldn't worry about your EX, she is EX for reasons. Important to have your daughter on board about it and talk to her first. This will save hurt feelings later.

It's not the ex that is an issue. You life is none of her business It is your daughter.

And 14 is a critical time.

She's going to be into the world and on her own so soon it will give you whiplash of the heart.. You owe her every fully focused moment you have remaining. Don't miss those.

Wait no business pf the wife unless it is someone she knows.

Don't do that. Not on this or any planet in the known Universe.

I totally get this dilemma. It’s as if you were pretty sure we all “moved on” and there was closure. But this is now the double check mate, an added thing. My guess is to address it only when it’s pragmatic. No need to remind ourselves of a failed thing we put our hearts into, when we don’t have to.

I totally get this dilemma. It’s as if you were pretty sure we all “moved on” and there was closure. But this is now the double check mate, an added thing. My guess is to address it only when it’s pragmatic. No need to remind ourselves of a failed thing we put our hearts into, when we don’t have to.

Say you are dating. Then there is no ambiguity and awkward conversations further down then line.

I don't think that is any business of your ex, however she may get nasty, who knows. Also I have found that it is very difficult for men and women to date when they have teenage children, especially if they have teenage daughters. A lot of daughters get possessive and completely destroy the relationship. Good luck to you. I think you need to have a good talk to your daughter.

Release a sex tape !

The issue here isn't telling your ex. It's none of her business, the marriage is over. And I'm pretty cordial with friends and I don't announce to them when I'm dating someone. The issue is your second shift job & the time you have with your daughter. It's going to be hard enough dating with a second-shift job. And I know this from experience because the person I've been seeing for the past 5 years works second shift. I get to see him every other weekend and even then I'm dealing with him catching up on sleep. Add a14 year old into the mix and that's going to even be less time that you have to see someone.

Being a single parent and working a full-time plus job, sometimes you have to get creative with your schedule to be able to fit in all the people you want to see while you're awake. Skip telling the ex and review your schedule to see what you can realistically do as far as dating and having time with your daughter. (Edited typos & lesson learned about talk to text while on a treadmill.)

That you're feeling self conscious about it tells me there is a salt in the wound factor.
So don't rub it in her face, just say you've got plans or something. She'll figure it out and even tho you two are done will appreciate the kindness, or I would. Then again never been in that situation.

She is your ex why would you even care? Does the fact that your relationship failed require you to live celibate for the rest of your life does she expect that you do? Does she tell you that she is dating and does it matter to you if she is?
The only part of each other's lives you need to be sharing is raising and the well being of your daughter. If that is not where it ends then you have a lot of unclaimed baggage.

To be blunt (I always am), it is none of her buisness. I can see that if you left her, and not the the other way around, she might be a tad sensative about the issue.

It's none of her business whether you're dating or not. Just like it's none of your business if she is, or not.
You don't "owe" her an explanation or a heads-up.
Live your life.

Divorce his divorce, and I don't think it's necessary to let your ex know every little detail of your life. If a relationship becomes very serious to where the woman is around you frequently, then I would tell her.

Not having this life experience, I can only speak in general terms. @Belrieve makes a good point, is the person your ex is dating a known convicted felon? Or what about the person you choose to date? Should you check their background as well before you get more intimately involved? The bottom line: concern for the well being of your children regardless of their age. I have either read or been told horror stories about people invited in to a family and the danger they pose to teenage daughters.As far as hurting your ex's feeling, is she an adult?

Your sex and dating life us no longer any of her business and her sex and dating life is no longer any of yours. You're divorced. End of story. You not required to tell your ex anything. Those requirements went out the window once the papers were signed.

The less the Ex knowns the better. Unless you still have a strong bond in friendship, than likely she won't screw for money.

if you want her to know that you're in the dating mode again you just kind of bow up and tell her.

If your kid knows, she's probably talked about it with her mother.

My money says get in early -maybe before it even happens. Who knows, she may even be relieved. Once you start sneaking about it can all get very complicated and messy. No need to go into the gory details with her but don't hide it from either her or your daughter. I'd keep the new date and daughter apart though at least U ntill you've an idea of wether it's going somewhere.

I don't think she needs to know....that's why she is X

I am of the mind that when it becomes serious then he should know. If it’s still casual then let it ride for a while. I am not even telling my son about it until I am sure it’s going somewhere. No need to get the emotions involved until then.