I don't want that type of armor. I'd rather hurt like hell occasionally. Although I'm not in any rush to hurt that way again.

Who was that woman...

no one is heartache-proof, and armor is the worst possible thing to try. try being open to love, but not seeking it, and being critical of with whom you hang.

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I don't think there is any armour except disdain to care or feel, and that is hardly worth it. I'm glad I am not heartache proof

Not yet.

Nothing seems to work. I am still in love with a woman who threw me over about religion 60 years ago.

Armour that works? I don't think there is any. Ok either dive in and accept the risk or stay on the diving board and miss out on the potential.

The only armour against heartbreak is death of one sort or another. Or you're psychotic in a way that allows it.

I find avoidance works. I just don’t bother.

utterly dead inside,and comfortable with it. this life has shown me all it has to offer, time for oblivion or what ever else comes next.

As far as I know, there IS no armor that works.

The only heart brake I've ever had was when my grandmother died.
We were very close, and it very hard to get over, I still really miss her.
But as forrelationships, I've never had a bad breakup. In fact I'm still friends with most of them.

I quit MANY years ago. This is a site where there can never be too much info. I weighed a lot, lost 200 lbs and lived the life of a fit, 140 lb woman for 8 years. All it ever got me was laid, every which way but up, when I figured out it wasn't 'that' I moved on, some 20 years ago. No interest, what-so-ever, not even a tad. I'm not lonely, have 2 pugs, a beautiful piece of propterty, a garden to die for, what else could I want?

I learned that I am done.
The walls are up, the armor is on, and that's okay with me.
Everyone else is free to do as they please.
I am done.

Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.

Sure, don't love anyone. Otherwise, there's no armor.

I was in love for many years and I fully expect to find that again. It’s amazing to share your life and love with someone. I can’t imagine not wanting to despite the pain I have endured, I know it’s worth it.

Well . May I give u an advice ? Broken heart means alive heart . U played your best , something to lose / something to gain , pain for sure at times , but . ALIVE . Armoir won't do any good . 100% is the only way to go . We only live once ?

I feel that I've calloused enough to endure, though I hope to not go through heartbreak again. Maybe that's why I prefer singleness: deep emotional vulnerability in regards to romantic love is the only cowardly thing about me unfortunately. Otherwise, I'm a fairly ballsy broad.

I thought a woman will never break my heart... and then less a month ago... my daughter died and I refuse to recover!

Story of my life. A heart made calloused, then unnumbed after years of effort, only to be trashed back.

The armour is easy...just don't care. Problem is life is pretty bland when you don't care about anything. I wouldn't recommend it but I did it for years in my youth

I don't think I can be heartache proof. The sweetest eyes can tell the worst lies. I can only prevent it by being careful who I make commitments with using lessons I've learned from the past coupled with what I know about myself.

I was there only once as a teen. It didn't work.... Never again but don't know what/if I did anything knowingly to control it. It's like I lost all my feelings altogether and gradually over time as I grow old they are trying to come back..... I don't know what for or why.

I wouldn't want to be. How can I expect another to love me completely if I'm holding back? I still hope to be loved that way! Doubt that will ever change.

Buddhist philosophy has some great insights on this. They discuss attachment and its role in suffering frequently. Appreciating experiences for what they are, not what you want them to be is profoundly helpful. Everything ends, it's appreciating what you have while you have it and accepting the nature of the relationships that heals your emotions.