Oh please, the guy is quite off the rails of common sense. That's what lesbians arte waiting for, dating advice from seperated husbands.,
My advice: never talk to this guy again, in any form of communicatuion.

can you get a restraining order?

Go forward before he gets a chance to. Report him to your boss.

Violence and counter manipulative actions are not worth the advice people are giving. Go directly to your boss and tell her what is going on and the threat that you live under and she will understand and even console you herself. Honesty is always the best policy.

My boss messaged me and said I can't get fired for him calling. I left out what he would say. It's all good now.

Talk with your boss and stop talking to the dbag. I also recommend getting mace and learning how to throw a punch but my friends tell me I can be a bit aggressive lol

What is concerning me is how problematic relationships are still to the forefront of your life.You have every right to walk a tightrope over a very deep valley, you are more likely to fall and hurt yourself than if you walked into your local shopping mall.

Thank you all for great advice and help!

I would mention at work that you are having serious problems with him, and that he is unstable. You don't need to go into details, but if they are broadly aware of the situation then if he does try anything they'll see him for what he is and it won't reflect badly on you.

Talk to your boss, tell what happened and exactly what he's threatening you with..also Save the messages...and bring charges against him.

I suggest you get a restraining order with a warning from the judge to keep away from your work

I think you have much more leverage on the dirty low life scum. I also think he's just trying to press your buttons and full of shit. also, there is not, whether true or false anything wrong with having feelings as you haven't said anything. it's just hearsay. I mean if it came to it you could say to your boss that it's not true and why would you believe a sex offender who is blackmailing you.

If anything I think she likes me. Or used to, that way.

The best defense is a good offense. be tough, don't back down, make sure he knows you won't. hang in there you can do it.

Since your boss is gay, she's not going to be shocked that you have feelings for her - so chances are if he does that, she'll just say "And what of it?"

PS - well done for ditching him, he sounds like an utter dickhead.

I would also contact the police and tell them the story. Even if they don't find any reason for charges, they can still make it clear that his conduct must stop.

There have been so many great responses so I will just add that I hope all goes well for you and it’s great to see how much people care on this site. You are not alone!!

Get your proof he’s a sex offender. Keep it with you. You can’t be fired for saying someone is attractive. If you are, you can sue.

I see nothing wrong in having feelings for your boss provided you don't act on them.

It's not going to do you any good to obsess about him - but definitely cut off the verbal communication; and if you must communicate, keep it to text or email that can serve as evidence. IMO. no boss would be willing take any calls seriously from a crazy person smearing an employee of theirs. In a pinch tell him you'll report him to the authorities for harassment if he does so, which he should not want to risk. If he doesn't stop threatening you, follow through with the cops; particularly if he causes you any actual trouble, an d be honest with them.

You did the right thing. Just breath and try to relax. He can't take anything away from you like that

restraining order?

I agree with the consensus here, so I won’t repeat it... I’ll just say, be strong, keep your dignity and integrity intact, and one cannot be emotionally blackmailed or extorted if one does not engage in it . Honestly, you have nothing to prove ... to him, I mean... any chance someone like that gets to try to get you to engage is a full on victory for them, to get you to “defend yourself”... no need to defend yourself from bull^}%%}. I know sometimes that’s easier said than done, and I wish you all the best, and I hope you realize that blocking it , going to your boss proactively, is certainly a testament to your capacity to disengage. All the best to you ... feel free to message me ...

I suppose hiring some goons to rough the man-child up is not a good Idea.

Hi Sarahroo29,

I read your request for advice and the one problem is that none of us are law enforcement or attorneys. The best thing you can do is contact your local DA. Which in Colorado Springs is Dan May's office. I would also avoid telling your boss, unless your "ex" or one of his cronies approaches her. Do not alarm her about something that may not happen. If anyone approaches your boss you can take legal actions against them. Good luck, and remember friendly advice is no substitute for professional counsel. Dan May's website is ...
[4thjudicialda.com]