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When do you feel safe to talk about your beliefs/nonbeliefs?

Does anyone else feel like that one kid who knows Santa isnt real, but understands they have to let the other kids find out for themselves so they play along? I've noticed that some atheists will out themselves casually (even abrasively) and others are slightly more concerned with preserving the houses of cards that the people around them have constructed, saving their atheological discussion for private. Is it better to be 100% honest about conviction in there not being a god, or is it more respectful to be evasive so that you keep it to yourself? What balance do you find to be the most respectful of yourself and of others?

Savethebees 3 Sep 6
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"I have been an atheist since age 13," I reply firmly.

It is important to normalize the word "atheist" with Christians. I call myself an atheist with strength and pride.

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100% out, all the time. Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!

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Yes, I like to point out that while we disagree about his/ her god, we actually agree about thousands of others.

JimG Level 8 Sep 6, 2018
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i generally feel safe. i was in a cab once with a driver who was a trump supporter and i felt a little fearful then. there was no reason why the conversation should turn to religion, and it didn't, but he had a political radio station on and i did feel he was sufficiently aggressive for me to keep my mouth shut about pretty much everything. i do not evade the topic or lie about my atheism when it comes up. sometimes i even bring it up.

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I have never felt unsafe due to my A-theism and non-belief.

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I so enjoy the shock & awe in the expresion. Less so now a days but in the past those in Mexico would gasp & cross themselves. Here it is a blank stare but with eye contact. As if stopped in their tracks. Then there is an audible "oh". Nothing more to say. I used to be a novelty. My spouse used to answer when the question came, that he was a "Satanist". He got laughter....mostly.

The strange thing about admitting you are atheist is that you get asked if you "worship Satan." It shows how ignorant people really are, plus why do you have to "worship" anything. Yet, the stupid preacher is telling you how you worship your car, money, your wife, etc.

That is comical of them to assume that Satan is always involved. In an insignificant planet in the backwaters of 2-4 hundred billion stars, in a mass of billions of galaxies, Satan is important

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Not really, but it's not to keep up a facade. Casual acquaintances don't really care, and it's not important enough for me to be a pivotal aspect of my introductions. My friends know, but again most care more about other things

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It depends on the context/situation. If I am asked any question directly, I will answer it as honestly as I can, again based on the circumstances. I feel no compunction to state my position on any matter at any time and the tailoring I do is only to avoid confrontational situations because I find them non productive.

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Perhaps the bigger question is in what way is it that you don't feel safe? Do you not know why you don't share their religious convictions? Is it the verbiage that has you stumped? It's much better to be genuine.

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Anyplace where discussion is started. Me, personally, I'm a deist, I do believe in god but not in any organized religion. I respect others their rights to believe or not. Even if we don't believe the same thing take the stance that we agree to disagree. What's right for one person my be totally wrong for another

I understand Deism as I'm sure so many did in the 1700's before science as we know it today came into play. Deism explains how everything got created but then the god being went away. The reason that I rejected Deism is that I'm not so sure we can ever know. Such a being would be unknowable but yet explain creation of the universe. I'm starting to believe that the universe itself may be this "god" and that it has always been around in one form or another. Again, we simply do not know.

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I don’t hide my lack of belief

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The topic seldom arises where I live. I don't conceal my unbelief but don't offer it up either, as in general, that would be TMI.

I've never felt "unsafe" being "outed" but most people seem indifferent to what I do or don't believe, and I like that just fine.

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I've never been a believer, I was lucky enough to have not grown up in a religious household, So I've never had the 'Coming out' experience.
I've always been open about my non-belief to every one.
In fact some of my best friends are believers and we get along great.
I've never been one to be pushy, even in a discussion or a debate, i will still be cordial, and in turn they are the same way with me.

There have been some times where some one was an asshole about it (and I've seen that from both sides).
Normally I just walk away from that.

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Where I currently live? Pretty much never. I've had too many people show me outright hostility when they learn that I do not subscribe to their religion.

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I don't feel unsafe talking about my atheism, but I'm not going to walk up to people and start talking about my beliefs and how they should be just like me. I'm not a Christian, lol. I feel like a person's beliefs are, well, personal and there are places where it would be rude to randomly talk to someone (whether a person you know or don't) about religious beliefs. Now if someone is persistent and I've given several hints that I don't want to talk about it, then they've opened the flood gates.

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The power of logic, clarity, and wisdom from an atheistic stance, has given me the strength to counter any attempts to intimidate.

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The power of logic, clarity, and wisdom from an atheistic stance, has given me the strength to counter any attempts to intimidate.

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Places like this are all I have.

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All the time. But I never really bring it up.
It's not a major focus in my life.

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Always

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I don’t take the route of being in the center of the conversation with it. I, however, don’t take any detours to avoid it in anyway. For hostile engagements, like goldenvalleyguy, I hold no punches, take no prisoners and reserve no respect. If people are friendly debating, I get excited to casually direct them to a different way of seeing shit. But usually ends hostile. Haha. Those who haven’t though of it are subjected to a small array of info for them to decipher themselves. Not being their home wrecker.

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I say whatever I want, however, very few people are interested. I’m not actually an atheist but I am down on Christianity in general. I’m afraid I might have offended an elderly cousin with my stance, and now I wish I’d been more tactful. Too late now.

IMO, the question of God is an open case and there is no final solution. It depends on what sort of God you are talking about. In the final analysis no one really knows.

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Where I live it's not as intense as say like when people live in the Bible Belt it doesn't come up that often and I generally find it easy to avoid the situation and if I do choose to talk about it I generally talk about it with people who are of the same mindset as I am

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For me, I pretty much just let people be. I don't make it known unless someone says something really ridiculous. I feel they need to lean on religion for a reason and who am I to take that away from them.

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I'm not afraid to tell anyone if they ask, otherwise I just don't talk about it

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