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To sleep together or to not sleep together?

What one would you rather do with your significant other or spouse?

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SonderOpia 8 Jan 25
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After being with my ex-husband for 10 years sleeping in the same bed was a nightmare. We had to sleep separate hours just to be able to sleep. I think having separate rooms is a lot better because 1 you get to decorate your own room 2 if you snore or toss and turn a lot you're not bothering the other one 3 you can sneak into each other's bedroom at night and get freaky and finally it's a good place to have your own space especially when you're sick.

Particularly if you go to the partners bed and leave s/he to cope with the cold damp bedding/mattress after you have returned to your warm dry bed. Hehe

I tend to toss and turn a lot, so I think at the very least separate beds would work best, but I have no bedroom big enough for two beds! lol So it would have to be separate bedrooms.

I don't do so much turning lol. on a serious note, i think separate houses would be good too.

@LeighShelton I was going to add that because I know Tim Burton and his actress wife have separate houses that are connected so they go to each other's houses and they even have children. If I were Rich Maybe. As far as my ex-husband goes he lives in a separate State LOL.

@FrayedBear it's called a towel everybody has them and you can lay them down and lay on top of them. Little sex tip there for you LOL.

@SonderOpia LOL and unlike some wives they don't whinge!

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Intimacy sleeping in the same bed.

I always said that naked bodies sleeping together are less likely to lie to each other ... how naive can I be!

@FrayedBear I always say naked bodies that lay together in the heat in Texas end up sticking together. Boy was I right.

@SonderOpia Big chuckle: may I suggest that in future you add coconut oil to each others skin by gently rubbing it on each other immediately on entering the place that nirvana is to be found. If you are not keen on the smell of coconut try adding aromatic oil to it ....lavender, lilac, rose, lemon etc.
P.S. use a thick cotton mattress protector under the sheet. And if I have "converted" you please let me know. 🙂

@SonderOpia P.S. I thought that you are separated/divorced? 🙂

@FrayedBear. I'm divorced not Dead.

@SonderOpia I should hope so. I'm not into necrophilia! 🙂

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My last cohabitat has a routine with 7 pillows and one male cat with no space for me. So cuddling will have expiration time. Big house, many rooms and baseman is cozy enough with TV and PC. Plus I am just like many others here in need of space and alone time. I am retired so I feel at home waking up at 3 AM turn on the light and start working on something I been doing. When ever inspiration comes to me I should embrace it. That is why I retired for, Haven't used a wristwatch in 4 years I think. Now the Right Woman can twist my arm and make me Tired if that is what she prefer. Anything for the ladies. The Right Ladies. Now having said that... You had never cuddled until your pregnant wife kicks you in the Nuts sleeping and tells you "I was dreaming that we have an argument and I warned you to cut it out and you didn't assohole".

ROFL Is it any wonder blokes join monasteries? Good organic food, simple regulated life, home brewed beer, wine and spirits ....

@FrayedBear Plus the nuns... always the nuns.

@GipsyOfNewSpain I believe that in Buddhist countries men joining monastries are a well known method of divorce and avoiding child maintenance.

@GipsyOfNewSpain Is that to service or have similar opportunity?🙂

@FrayedBear Service... holy men need service.

@GipsyOfNewSpain ROFL

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Don't own a pair of pajamas, have the personal space of a cat and like the sound of someone else breathing (even snoring). Unless it's fake an orgasm, wait until they are asleep then chew off you own arm to get out of there without waking them time, I'll happily share a bed. Even share a friends double with her as she only has one bed whenever I stay at her place.

Kimba Level 7 Jan 25, 2018

I own a pair of pajamas because I still go to Walmart LOL.

@SonderOpia Never having been to Wal-Mart your remark zips over me. You go to the supermarket in your pj's?

@FrayedBear it's a joke. Walmart has some of the most amazing people show up in anything from pajamas to swimsuits to other bizarre things.

@SonderOpia Pj's are very respectable compared to some photos I have seen of people with flesh (?fat) and other body parts escaping from as you say "bizarre things ". Thanks for the clarification.
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I'm sure that you look very desirable in silk pj's and the kinesthetic sensation can be delightful for both parties. 🙂

@FrayedBear I would never go out shopping in my pajamas but if I did I would be one sexy bitch. LOL oh there's a website called the people of walmart.com you have to check that out you'll understand totally when I'm talking about.

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My caveat being it has been a very long time since I slept with anyone that didn't have a fur coat and weigh more than 11 pounds. My preference when I was in a relationship was same bed and start the night snuggling. It has been so long since I've had a sleep over I don't know if I would be able to sleep with someone anymore. The cats I am used to, and unless they're fighting on top of me I don't notice them.

My friend's cat sleeps on her head. I couldn't deal with that. I'm allergic to cats in the first place but to have an animal sleep on my head like a headband would just freak me out.

@SonderOpia many years ago I had a cat that would sleep on my head like a hat. I would wake up drenched in sweat!! Just what you need to help you sleep, a hat with a heater.

@HippieChick58 My old girl learnt long ago to stay off the pillows. When off grid and in mid winter it was a delight to discover a furry hot water bottle snuck under the doona and keeping my feet warm. Now it is a delight to have her warm back to my back in winter. In summer she won't come near which is just as well as I still sometimes have problems from anaesthetics damaging my temperature control.

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Warmth, energy efficient and nice.

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@SonderOpia my bad, probably fat finger syndrome.

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Damn, I voted wrong, now that I think about it more, sleeping alone is much more fun.

@evestrat LOL! Manspreading. Bedroom style.

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I've been in all 3 situations , so I'm versatile enough to go with any of the above . It would take time to get used to another way when your used to another though , even if your used to having someone there , it can keep you awake if no one is there . I knew of a situation where someone took in a Hindi missionary couple . When he left for work away , it was her custom to to have another woman sleep with her , & says she has never slept alone , ever .

Dougy Level 7 Jan 25, 2018

I've never heard of that. Thanks for the info. Then again I've never slept with a girl 😉 I'm sure I'm missing out however.

@SonderOpia , she slept with her mother & her sisters , & they always snuggled , something that friend of mine did not do , in fact , she couldn't accommodate sleeping with her , after she found out .

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I think it would depend on the other person, whether or not you can endure each other's sleep peculiarities. My last partner snored so loud, it would either keep me awake, or wake me up. I have very sensitive hearing, and have worn earplugs to bed for almost 20 years. So, I had to move to another room to get enough sleep; it was becoming a health issue for me. At any rate, I think that move accelerated the deterioration of the relationship.

You think sharing different rooms deteriorated your relationship? My best friend and her husband have been sharing separate rooms for multiple years and they've been together for 18 years now. Maybe there was a problem with your relationship in the first place that was so bad that nothing would have saved it.

@SonderOpia yeah, there definitely was, that's why I said accelerated rather than caused.

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Depends on how fat and farty the two people are

Nay lad. Bed size, cuisine/ digestive system and sense of smell.

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I’m an introvert and need my space and quiet time. I’d like an extra bedroom for when I just need to be alone. But I would more often than not sleep in the same bed as my partner. I’d like options lol

I'm an extrovert and still like to have my own space.

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Same room, same bed, enjoy a fall asleep cuddle, birthday suits.

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Sleeping in the same bed lets you be on patrol to catch the blanket bandit who has been leaving people out in the cold for eons. I have a person of interest, time to go undercover.

LOL.

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Hell my wife ran me out of the bedroom over 30 years ago. She says I snore to bad.

I'm a mover and Shaker when I sleep. I just can't stay in one place and sleep. I am all over the place.

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I think it depends. With a past girlfriend I had it seemed to work best when we slept in different cities.

good one !

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When it comes to actual sleep, I do much better sleeping alone (with cats).

With different beds, or different rooms - visits are always possible, and add a certain specialness to the occasion !

Great answer. It is nice to have a spare room just in case.

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I am an affectionate man and I prefer contact all night. I even prefer to go to sleep with my partner lying on top of me.

I've not heard of anybody liking someone falling asleep on top of them. This is something new to me. Thanks for sharing.

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It is in the bible: " if 2 shall not lie together, how shall ye have heat ?"

LOL

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I am a freak, apart from anything else, body temp is a degree higher than average, I never feel cold, and can't sleep when hot. No-one can share a bed with me in summer, but I am quite popular in winter. I tend to start in the same bed, but after a while I move to another room. I am in my spare room at the moment, laptop in front of me and spare bed behind me. A friend arrived this afternoon and has put her bags in my room, she knows she will end up with the big bed all to herself, but my dog sleeps in there also, and farts in her sleep.

4

Same room, same bed especially Naked

3

Short cuddles first, then roll over and sleep kind of like separate beds, except maybe a foot or butt to butt.

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While sharing a bed is my preference we frequently do not sleep in the same house. It works at the moment.

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I like sleeping together for the cuddle factor. Having said that, it's nice to have a spare bedroom to shuffle off to in case one or the other is not sleeping well or snoring or whatever.

Duke Level 8 Jan 25, 2018
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Warmth, energy efficient and nice.

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Warmth, energy efficient and nice.

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