Sure. Why else would I want to date men? I want a ballroom dance and hiking partner and someone who shares my love of nature and reading. Otherwise, why bother?

Unlike most cis, hetero men, most normal cis, hetero women aren't desperate for sex with whoever they can get..just want a loyal, loving companion who will have their backs and make them a priority. Someone who is interested in them as a PERSON, not a sexual conquest.

Common, not identical, interests are critical. I want to like the person too. I am not seeking a carbon copy of myself but certainly there must be some genuine overlap. Politically and religiously however the interests/beliefs really do need to be close.

Yeah for sure but it doesn't have to be everything, I quite like getting to know something new and enjoying my partners enthusiasm for something

Common interests certainly helps. I find it really cool when a woman likes the same music I do. I love to go to concerts, so that would give us both something to do that we both enjoy. Watching sports and movies is also something I enjoy doing.

If there weren't common interests what would make you even want to speak with that person beyond the first time? I mean, once the physical attraction dried up there would be nothing to talk about.

I'm like you, I think. Some common interests are important. There are certain things and events I like doing/attending. Live sporting events aren't interesting to me despite liking football (American version). I think attending a football game in-person isn't as good as watching it on TV because on TV they keep you focused on the action and you can see the plays in detail. When viewing it at a distance in the stadium it's much harder to follow the game. Baseball is so slow it's boring. Basketball is decided in the last quarter, most times. LOL! Ok, I've established that I'm not a sports nut. Anyway, I agree that some common interests are good so you can enjoy time doing those things together. And also doing things the other person likes that I've never done is good too. I might discover a new activity I love.

More than common interests is common values. I'm interested in most anything if it is approached with passion and sincerity. If she doesn't value introspection, keeping fidelity to objectivity as much as possible, joy over fear, and personal responsibility, then we aren't going to get along well no matter how much she loves Ren and Stimpy.

You seem interesting, my type, and cute. How's it going?

There has to be enough "common" interests to be able to at least communicate. If we are only going to enjoy a sexual encounter while together, I can run with that.

I prefer to have a few common interests. Gives us stuff to do and talk about together. It can't be all sex...

Absolutely. You need more than physical attraction to keep a relationship going.

After 48 years, I find I have less in common with my partner than when we first became a couple. I believe in life long learning and have embraced a broad spectrum of interests. Although some of these coincide with hers, she has lost interest in some original common ones and has not ventured much in new ones. Sometimes I am saddened by this turn of events, but I still find joy in learning new things. It is still an "until death do you part" situation for me, but I sure miss the great times we had in the beginning of our relationship.

Some common interests are great and it's a way break the ice and create a bond but I don't want a male me. I'd like to even be able to even introduce new interests to him and vice-versa. We need to be our own though not Legion.

As a married couple of 27 years,my late wife would sew or make a quilt while I was nearby on the computer,I'd show her how to use my woodworking power tools,and all the needed safety requirements,when using them. She had her hobbies and interests,and I had mine. It worked out wonderful.

Shared recreational activities are a bonding experience for couples. That's why I want a man who also loves hiking.

What works best for me, is interests/activities in common, that can be shared. But I also need there to be separate interests and activities, that each can savor alone. Then it's satisfying to come together afterwards and share the different experiences, along with being able to relate to the world as an individual.

Definitely some shared interests, but there absolutely has to be me time. I may be wrong, (I am about a lot of things) but personal time is essential to any kind of a successful relationship.

Everyone needs their own life. I wouldn’t care to be attached at the hip.

Yes, very. Shared interests and passions are important. Probably around 60% to 70% would be ideal.

Yes, very when the volley in the conversation is intriguing it makes you want to know more about the other person.

You gotta talk about something. As the relationship develops, with luck, you get more and more common interests. Not to say you both ought to have the same ones, but it helps to have a couple that you do share, and I believe it's a good thing to have a couple that you don't share.

Essential!

no

Shared interests is important for me. It's a starting point any kind of relationship. More important, though, is that she be as open to learning my interests as I am to learning hers.

As long as she leaves me be while I'm writing, it's all good. Insert 'The Shining' joke here.

My late wife was quite the bridge player,but card games on any type have never held my interest.I'm the type that designs and builds things.