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Is it right to only stay with your partner for the sake of the kids?

Kitty-kosmo85 4 Jan 30
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I would live with a monster rather then leave my kids..

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My parents did......didn't do us kids any good. Or maybe because they were Catholic. Or maybe because that's what people did in those days.
Or maybe it was fear of life without it. You know he/ she starts to feel like a pair of old socks...or dirty underwear.

Damaged me anyway. It was a screwed up household

I didn't stay together for the kids.....I became a Dad when I got divorced.
I'm happier now. I am also sorry that we hurt each other in the process

twill Level 7 Feb 2, 2018
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No that's on the kids they see and understand more than you think!

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No i don't think so unless you work together well in witch case its not just for the children, you jive together well.

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I echo the majority opinion which is a resounding no.

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No cause they will see but if ur good at hiding it ,,,it might work

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No. Your kids can tell and you will be miserable.

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No, my ex and I were together for eight years and have a beautiful and brilliant three year old. With the way things were spiraling downward in our relationship, it would have skewed her understanding of a healthy relationship. Better to end it before becoming bitter and having that rub off on the kids.

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Simple answer, I would say no, I stayed for 6 years on that basis, still left in the end, it was still problematic, and 6 years of stress and sadness.

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Your kids will pick up on the animosity and will eventually act out on it. Why show your kids to keep doing something you dislike. Encourage your kids to have a respectful relationship. Otherwise they will have the monkey in the box syndrome and repeat what they learn at home in their relationships..

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No, and if there is abuse definately not. Speaking as a low wage divorced single mom though, It is very hard on your own even if father is around and paying support. I don't regret the divorce and I am nearly ill when if I think about him in my home again let alone my bed. I do regret how hard it is on the kids and the strain it caused on my relationsips with my family. Every situation is different. Only the people involved can make that decision.

MsAl Level 8 Jan 30, 2018
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No. It'll do more harm than good. Kids aren't stupid.

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No....and if you ask the kids they will be the first to tell you is not.

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no as the kids as well as you both suffer. there not stupid.

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Kids are resilient, they can rebound from a breakup faster that the adults, but you have to make it easy for them. Put them first in your decisions and actions.

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I don't think the benefits to them are so great that parents should make that much of a self sacrifice. They won't be outcasts, they can still love and be loved, and you only live once so you need to be happy too.

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No.

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Only if it allows the children to be better people. Remember that the Children are our future, let them song lyric song lyric...

But if your partner is toxic, or the relationship is hurting the kids, bail out

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No it's not. I did that for my son and things just got worse between me and his mother and in the long tun it did more harm to us and him. In that situation the child will pay the price.

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