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Valentines day... Do you feel obliged to buy your partner a gift because you know they will be buying you one? Do you really even want to buy them something? Do you buy them something because you know if you don't there will be an issue?

Kitty-kosmo85 4 Feb 5
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The greatest gift you can give your partner is love. You can give them that every day

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To buy my partner a gift, because there's a special commercialised day dedicated to it is pretty shallow to me. Anyone can do it and it only means I have money in some particular amount I'm able to spend and somehow it measures my feelings to my partner. Weird. Of course, gifts, no matter when and how big or small they are, are always a nice gesture, but I personally prefer to surprise with some romantic gesture, like having a nice time together some place new and nice, doing something special etc. That's a meaningful gesture to me. So I never feel obliged to buy anything anytime. If I do buy something, it's rather for practical purpose.

Mijou Level 2 Feb 21, 2018
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I have a weird relationship, share a house with an ex, but we're like best friends, got back from work to find a card and a heart shaped box of sweets - went out and bought her one of those turkish hubbly pipes -
I don't like valentines day - I took my girlfriend out for a malaysian meal, and tell her daily I love her

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Mind you, I've never had a partner for V-day, but I don't think gifts are pointless. It should be a night/day to spend together and remember why you two (or however many people in your relationship) are together and in love.

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Tbh it's become so commercialised that it's practically a criminal offence to not spend money on gifts etc. I don't mind spending money on a partner if I know they will return the love and/or sentiment. Those who don't reciprocate are obviously in it to Use so they get the boot. In fairness I'd say a large % of guys will be waiting on issues being raised around Valentines day, the gifts and whatever. The remaining % will receive long term emotional and passive aggressive abuse to go with their card but because it is not admitted it doesn't exist of course 🙂

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It probably depends on how much I'm looking forward to getting lucky, and whether or not we have had a gigantic fight recently...

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No. We share love daily. Don’t need corporate money grabs to feel part of the group or accepted.

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I don´t like to give gifts in comemorative days, so I don´t give gifts. I think that giving a gifit for someone because of a specified day is simply oposed to the idea of remembering of someone and really wanting for give something special for someone special (a prove of that would be that is common to see people that don´t know what to buy).

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I'm buying myself something. I don't have a partner.

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It's not "do you want to give" you ought to ask, but "do you want to receive one" if so chances are your partner would appreciate one as well.
On a side note, gifts aren't always things that take a copious amount of money or time. Just do something out of the ordinary. Instead of getting jewelry or flowers, take them lunch (or have it delivered). Drop off their dry cleaning. The little things everyone overlooks, it really stands out.

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I always loved Saint Valentine and it was never for the gifts... Is the things that money can not buy what I like about it. Come to think of it... I still call my ex wife on Saint Valentine Day... in our anniversary too... 18 years after divorce... she married or not.... and now that I remember her birthday is on 3 days. I will always be committed to some women until I die. It is a Bond thing not a gift thing. Never been about gifts.

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At this point, it is a bit of an obligation. But I enjoy finding an imaginative and well-liked gift.

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I haven't done vday in years. I don't miss it. I don't think there should be one day to show someone you love them, it should be done every day.

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I always hated it because someone else dreamed up these ridiculous days and imposed them upon everyone and when you don't conform, somehow you're the one with the problem!!

Oh, so negative!

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I think if you have a partner and you don't get them something for Valentine's (or International Women's Day on March 8th in some countries) then you're asking for trouble. That is, unless you both agree that it's all just a load of commercial rubbish and you decide to do something else on another day.

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I don't even feel obliged to tell people that they won't be getting any presents from me on stupid holidays. All holy-days are stupid.

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