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Who gave you the 'birds and bees' lecture~

My mother tried really hard but she just made a joke of it. But my Daddy talked to me about love, commitment and how to make good choices. Eventhough he's gone now, I love him so much. Its good that they teach the mechanics in school, but there's nothing like having a sincere conversation with a father that loves you so much. How about you?

stomato 6 Feb 18
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Actually, that was a pretty funny day for me, when my mom took me and my younger sister to a park in the summer. She laid the blanket out, spread out the picnic lunch and with a very serious face told us that she was going to tell us things we should know about boys and sex. We both looked at her and cracked up laughing. I was twelve and my sister was eleven. My mom in wonderment wanted to know what was so funny? With a huge grin on my face I said to her.." Ok, mom what would you like to know, as we probably already know more than you." She just gasped. I learned everything from my older brother and I was the one who told my younger sister. Thank you for bringing that day's memory back.

I couldn't tell my sisters anything like that. But the 2 older ones taught me how to dress up to attract girls and gave me the confidence I needed to approach girls and for that... I am most appreciated.

That was awesome!

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Believe it or not, I learned from magazines. I managed to get my hands on Playboy and Penthouse in Jr high and high school, and that taught me how men and women go at it. As a gay man, I had to guess about that stuff, but I was able to put a brief snapshot together.

WOW! You had to transpose all the man to woman information into man to man. I can see there would be a lot of similarities, but the differences must have been mind blowing!!

Let's just say I feel really sorry for the first guy I ever dated. It was weird.

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My father, it was short and sharp and totally useless, he was so proud of himself he went and told my mother he had had the talk with me, and I will repeat it word for word to you, I was 11.

"You know how sharks and dolphins breed, well it is the same for people, and if you get a girl pregnant I will cut your legs off".

Haha haha! Excellent.

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No one. I pretty much have it all figured out now, though. Mostly. 😉

I did spend specific time with each of my kids discussing human sexuality and all the emotional and complicated aspects. We had some "ew" talks but they quickly found it was good and safe to ask questions and tell me what they already understood, etc. During high school it was discussions on gender norms, sex shaming, etc with them initiating discussions.

That sounds a lot better than the lack of info most kids get! Good for you!

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One of my girlfriends in the 5th grade.

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I don't remember there being "The Talk" but there was always on-going discussion. At age 5 we had a cow but no milk because she wasn't a mommy yet , so we had to help her with her baby, and all that goes with that, including the calf leaving to become veal. All through growing up it was taught as it came up. The closest it ever came to "The Talk" was "There's no need to rush", "There's condoms in my night stand" and "Pay attention to the other person."

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I learned on the street where every real American boy should learn. 🙂
Seriously, the ninth grade biology class film was so vague, it was useless.
My parents were too simple-minded (really low I.Q.s) and ignorant to have been any help, my mother admitting that my father though women went through a "heat cycle" like animals did when they were married. I am thankful that they never attempted to explain sex to me...I would have been extremely embarrassed. I guess I learned on my own via books in the library, and they were mostly just "plumbing."

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My friends Dad . I,ll always remember his opening comments were ' love is a marvellous thing '. I was about 12 or 13 think. We write both a bit bored as we were already 'experts' , and he'd interrupted our construction of a crane from meccano...... Told you I,m old !

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My best friends Mom. There's a lot more to this story but I answered the question.

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My best friends Mom. There's a lot more to this story but I answered the question.

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My older brother. We went to Catholic grade school. I was probably about 9 years old, one year younger than him. I asked him about a few things I'd heard on the schoolyard. He assured me that only Russians did that sort of thing, and when our parents wanted a baby, they just had to ask God. Made perfect sense to me at the time

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No one.

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Nearly every day, at lunch, in home room, a guy named Paul would get up and tell everybody in the class all the intimate details of his sexual encounters.

gearl Level 8 Feb 18, 2018
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  1. The vicar - no, seriously

  2. My first Spanish prostitute. (Hey, I gotta a reputation to maintain here).

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My parents chickened out. They left it up to the schools and the church to tell us what was what.

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No one gave me the "birds and bees" lecture. I learned from my fellow teen-agers, from observing animals , and later from college biology classes. That is why, in 1966, as a high school biology teacher, I introduced a united on sex education (against the principal's wishes -- "if there is any problem, it's your ass." Not a single parent or student complained.

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nobody hence I was still a virgin at 23

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Older brothers. Didn't learn about tampons until my sister turned 14, and I saw her hiding them one day. She caught me while I was reading the instructions. After she ripped the box from my hands, she looked at me and said, "Now you know"

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My friends. I do remember my son candidly telling me he crawled out of his mother's mouth and that was how he was born. He was too young for birds/bees.

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My father. It was short and "sweet". "Don't play with it, you'll go crazy". (1956)

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Bob Guccione

godef Level 7 Feb 18, 2018
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Someone I used to know once told me that everything he knew about sex, he's "learned from porn."

I had to ask if that's why he'd been single for ten years.

Jnei Level 8 Feb 18, 2018
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No one but the standard teachings, and only half of that because unless you finished your homework you only learned the half about your own body. So, have a comprehension problem, learn only enough to keep your head above water.

Small town living in a red state.

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Eddie Murphy

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Never got thay talk. Parents never said much about It, except it was for married people. School taught abstinence only, for about 30 minutes. Other than that I learned from peers and, later, the internet. I was really confused about a lot of things for a while though.

Elsy Level 4 Feb 19, 2018
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