Doppio Espresso, ristretto.

"Coffee" or "lunch" is a pre-date sort of meet, where we decide if we want to get to know each other better. After coffee or lunch a time or two, we can progress on to "dinner." Sex? Don't even ask until we've had a few dates. Sex happens once we decide we want to try "relationship." I don't do random hook-ups. This has nothing to do with morals or custom. I just know my own limits when it comes to emotional investment.

You don't let guys like that down easy. You hit them with a clue-by-four. Hard.

Yikes

Coffee does indeed mean a chance to meet and know each other. If things work out well and theres chemistry it can lead to more coffee r a meal, or if there is overpowering attraction, to bed as well. Every coffee date is as different as the two people who meet for coffee. Your two friends were not sensitive or intuitive enough to read the signals. It is true that sometimes coffee does mean a hot date but that evolves out of a lot of online exchange of views, emotional feelings, a frank statement of sexual desire. But all that is clearly laid out in the online communication. If there is no reciprocity of these signals online it will not lead to a platonic coffee date.
But you a cup of tea anytime!

I've always considered coffee to be a good 'pre' first date and I would consider it a date if it went well. That being said it is a very casual first date even if it did go well and I'd hardly consider myself in a committed relationship after that. If I'd ask to do lunch or a movie sometime and if the person I'm with agreed I'd certainly consider that a date, but I don't think you're in a committed relationship until it's stated. If you have a coffee date and show disinterest after that it's only polite to back off with no hurt feelings.

Boy, I guess I've been lucky in my dating experiences. But I'm a stickler for communication, so I have to be sure we're on the same page before we meet. Or even if we meet. I like that about meeting someone on line. You can weed out the incompatible ones right off. But coffee in my lingo always means just that. Coffee. In a well lit, well populated and neutral environment so we can eyeball each other. Nothing else.

I don't think your expectations were off as much as theirs were off. Sadly "coffee" was a que for sex in a video game that most men nowadays have played at one time or another and a lot of guys automatically take it to mean, "take me I'm yours."

That being said, many guys have grown past this but there are quite a few that, sadly, have not. You have my sympathy for the two big kids that you seem to have found.

Coffee is me having energy to keep up with two toddlers a one year old and a baby after the baby was up all night. So coffee to me means safe kids and a happy time babysitting

Oh, my gosh! It all makes sense now. It was just a typo. Covfefe was supposed to be coffee and it is apparently creep-speak for sex!

Coffee to me means I am not going to enjoy myself because coffee shops have nothing to offer me. If someone suggests coffee, I generally suggest something else.

But seriously, coffee, or anything else where I meet someone for the first time is just that--meeting for the first time. I don't expect anything beyond that.

Coffee is a good way to go. Meet there and go Dutch. No expectations or obligations.

Coffee is a delicious beverage. No reasonable person would see coffee with someone as anything other than a casual meeting. Dinner means that you are obliged and committed to have sex with them.

Hehe, Just kidding....
That kind of thinking is really pretty silly and obnoxious. I would need a good deal more than an image to actually wish to insert tab A into slot B.

Oh man I'm sorry you've had to go through that. My dating experiences have been similar lately. What is it with people wanting a commitment on the 2nd date?

"Coffee" to me just means meeting someone in person in a public place to see if you want to see them again, nothing more than that. I'm sorry you had those experiences, those guys just seemed pretty needy and desperate. In this age of "instant relationships" there seems to be a lot of that. I've had guys professing their love for me just after a few online messages, couldn't understand it. What happened to taking the time to get to know someone? Someone said to me that people like that aren't looking for a partner, they're looking for a parent to make them feel okay.

Coffee is life .

Desperate stupid male entitlement applies to any "contact" no matter if it's coffee text phone Facebook Twitter. ....these scum have greater role models: rapist priests pussy grabber TrumpOLINI MONICA PAULA blow me Slick Willie Clinton and BILLARY attacking women instead of divorcing the bastard

I,m a normal ( ish ) bloke , and to me, inviting a lady to ' coffee' , is just that .,it's an icebreaker to chat , discuss stuff , and maybe find out if there is a mutual attraction . Nothing more .
If there is ..... All the better, if not , its cost a cup of coffee.

The meaning is still the same. Some people simply insist on reading more into it.

Another point...continue to meet in public places until you know them better, and Google them. Better safe than sorry, at all times!!,

Some women I have met online don't like the idea of meeting for coffee. Most seem to think it is ok. My idea is it is a way to spend time with someone in a situation that has no significance of it's own. You get to talk with the person, find out a little more of each other. It may never happen again, or you may have further time together.

You need to do a stand up comedy routine!! TOO funny the way you write about it. I laugh 'cause been there done that. I had one guy when I checked my messages trashed me as a bitch cause I did not response to his text messages - I had given him my phone number and TOLD him it was a land line, no caller ID, text capablities etc. THAT rapidly ruled out ever doing coffee. I think some guys are just needy and immature.

Evidently, "coffee" may be misconstrued as a euphemism for sex these days. I've run into the same thing as far as guys thinking this was the face to face to decide if there was going to be a bit of "slap & tickle" (yes, thats a euphemism). I've started to make it bluntly clear that this is coffee & conversation & not "Lucas cage coffee".

It also clues me in to how much of a geek they are cause if they don't know who Lucas Cage is... ????????????

Sorry, you met 2 creepers in a row, thats got to suck.
To me coffee is just coffee, time to sit-down for a little bullshit time and get to know someone a little. It is usually an early step to people becoming friends nothing more
I am aware enough of people non-verbal communication to recognize the level of interest someone has in me, these guy don't seem to have that talent.

Coffee is pre-screening to see if you are worth an appointment. Nothing more than that. Until now I had met all women in my life in a dance floor environment. Dancing been my coffee. But I recognize that a lot of good people do not dance... so coffee is not a problem to me.