I recently became single because my ex decided he couldn't live with my cat. Prior to this, he kept giving me ultimatums: the cat leaves or he does. Would any of you give up your pet to make somebody else happy?
In his defense, though, cats are evil.
When a cat takes a dislike to someone they can turn into a little demon.
Evil, evil kitty!
@sandyw1952 my first glance saw that as a cat in a roasting pan. ACK
Often you get back the energy you put into cats (or dogs).
If my cats really don't like someone - I'm going to reassess my opinion.
So far it's only smokers that freak them out (The smell on their fingers). No they do NOT smoke in my house.
It had nothing to do with the cat he was just to much if a coward to tell the truth .
@SimonMorgan1 I once read that a man would rather chew his own arm off before telling a woman he is no longer interested. While I know this is an exaggeration, I always keep that in the back of my mind. Seems to fit in this situation.
Any person who would abandon a loved one due to the presence of a cat in the house, is not worth the time of day. In any relationships one must accept children, and even animals, as part of the deal, or show the depths of your love for the partner by bailing out, and proving how shallow your love was in the first place.
Be grateful that he has shown his colours, and be assured, there is another REAL man out there waiting for you..
I have since thought about this again. I believe he wanted out and used the cat as a lame excuse to leave you.
It depends. Like if he were allergic or really just scared of cats etc. then yes. If it were a symptom of a larger incompatibility, then no. So like many things in a relationship it is a judgement call.
That being said when you get an animal it is a lifetime commitment for that animals life. So I would not take it to the pound. I would find it a new home with the offer to take it back if the person couldnβt take care of it anymore, that way I could make sure it found another home instead of someone else potentially taking it to the pound. I would expect them to be understanding of this principle.
I am glad you stood up for yourself!
A relationship ought to be about how you make each other happy. If he feels that strongly, find out why. If you like the cat more, then give up on the person. I lost my wife a few years ago and looking back I would give up anything for her. I know a lot of woman expect the husband, after marriage, to give up watching too much football, or golf or poker with friends. To me, it's all the same. Loving someone means trying to compromise and to make each other happy. It ought not to be a contest of wills.
Hi ShabbyChicGirl, I was speaking in generalities not knowing your situation. I am not asking you to sacrifice for him. I am saying we need to evaluate the relationship and our priorities. Clearly, from what you wrote, the cat is not the issue and that relationship is already doomed, cat or not. Best of luck.
It was nice knowing you. Take care. Buh bye now.
Don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out!!
Sounds like good riddance. If he was allergic, then it's understandable but it's too much to ask. If he's not, then he's just a jerk.
Some people do not realize the affection that are given to their animals and are ignorant of the fact that these creatures of God have a special soothing capacity that they cannot understand or render. I have a special approach about this because I know that sometimes it goes a bit off the deep end, but I would only add that the creature doesn't understand your language but your affection which is their way of making someone else very uncomfortable. If you used the cat to torment him then you caused a problem which I am very familiar with and I loved the dog who was involved with our relationship very much and the other person used this in a way that was totally disturbing.
But we don't know the other side of the episode which like a bad marriage where one spouse will say that her chosen was a total Assh@#e which brings one to the conclusion that if you agreed to the union then exactly who are you talking about.
My ex was not a fan of animals in general, of course my chosen pets were two large boa constrictors which I did find new homes for because of her. I also wanted bees, not really pets but something else she made clear was not welcome while she was around. She is not a happy person and was always demanding things that she thought I should do to make her happy. Eventually she left me for god, apparently god makes her happy? Anyway, I got two new snakes and bees and I also raise mice both as pet and pet food (I know, I'm horrible) and have birds, basically a house full of animals, I am much happier with them than I was with her, go figure.
I will never date / be with a person who has snakes / spiders and the likes as pets....i
You made the right choice. No way. My cat comes first...probably before me...hehe...hope he doesn't ask me to move out..
Her Royal Cuteness and I are a package deal. Have been since day one.
It's one of the reasons I had for ending my last attempt at a relationship. There were
other reasons, but he didn't want me bringing my dog when I'd spend the weekend.
She's been with me every day for almost the last twelve years. I'd never give her up,
for anyone. If someone cares about you, why would they want you to give up something
that makes you happy?
NOPE. If you had the pet when you met and he decides he(or she) doesn't like the pet/cat the person is being passive agressive and using the animal as an excuse to get out of the relationship. This is my humble opinion, he lacks honesty, instead of talking about what is really bothering him in the relationship uses the cat to get out. You choose wisely.
Hell no. I'm a package deal, and that includes my pets
I don't take kindly to ultimatums. Knowing me, I probably would have kept the cat even if I was considering giving it away.
I'm assuming he knew about your cat before (or shortly after) he started dating you. If that's the case he should not have gotten into a relationship with you knowing you had a cat if he was that much against being around one.
I love cat. I will never leave someone because they have pets that I don't like. I will learn how to deal with it. In a relationship that what a person supposed to do deal with thing if not than kick rock.