Personally I wouldn't want to be with someone dumb or arrogant enough to think that was ok.

I do wonder if something like this can be chalked up to naivete as someone suggested. I think some people might actually think what they see in porn or even n regular tv is like real life.

I'm not 100% sure this guy "showed who he was". He may have simply showed hideously bad judgment in assuming this woman was into the same sort of S/M talk some previous partner was into and got him acclimated to. His experience may be limited enough he assumed that's just what most people are into.

On the other hand, I'm about 92.4% sure he "showed who he was". Because what I can't get past is that it's even possible for this to be going on in between his ears AND being a turn on, during sex. If I were the woman, I'd end it, too.

At best it is very tone deaf to verbally debase someone during sex without learning how they feel about it. At worst it shows a selfishness and lack of consideration that you can count on spilling over into every other aspect of any relationship with such a person. It would have been enough of a turn off for me to cause me to interrupt what was going on and ask him to leave. Even if I was into that kind of debasement (which I am not) the fact that he didn't check before going there would have given me a pretty clear picture as to his character. Big Red Flag.

I think he was experimenting verbally. He is probably looking for a heightened sexual experience. He may or may not achieve it in this manner. Given the changing norms of society today, I would not tend to view this behavior as abnormal. You may not find it acceptable. You could discuss with him your aversion to this caliber of verbal expression or even exit the relationship. If it were I, & I found the verbal expressions offensive & intolerable, I would stand up in bed and commence to whale away at him with a nerf bat, jump up and down and shout "you must cease these infernal utterances immediately".

He should have asked about her permission before using such words, some accept while some don't accept it.

Ohhh babee...your chicken soup is too watery.....

I would plant my foot in the middle of his chest and kick him off the bed.

Get lost, creep!

Unless it was agreed ahead of time, to role play, or whatever, those particular words would be out of line, and he'd probably find himself suddenly heaved off of me, and on the floor ...

Not in my experience.

Had that with a few women too. A real turn off for me.

I take whatever is said and done in the bedroom differently than what is said outside. Sex talk or acts do not necessarily go beyond that. If it is something that truly bothers you, talk about it. Passion brings out primal things and sometimes they mean nothing except what is happening in the moment.

It can be part of sex play and fun...what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom....

One person's awful could be another person's turn on...no matter, talk about it.

I think I may have been known to come out with a few obscenities myself whilst in the throws of passion and I’m a very proper lady normally!

To me it sounds like the guy was inexperienced. Awkward sex involving very generic porn lingo.. Meh. It would make sense if he was a "nice" guy that wasn't coming on strong because he didn't know how.

Happens turn on for some maybe he thought you liked

LOL