Don't you as a woman have your own criteria? Why not open it up to men and women?

I had quite a detailed list before I got married. And another one for my second marriage. So I don't have one now..........

Yes must have a calander, to book the date and tine time for making love and ensure the bedrrom has an egg timer, beside the bottle of wine. JAMES

DO:

Be a woman
Have an income
Be at least somewhat active
At least tolerate Doctor Who (as it is everywhere in my home)

DO NOT

Use tobacco
Have or want children

Everything else is negotiable.

Keep it open, honest & be transparent. Being clear without any misunderstanding as well being true to yourself to your future partner. Equality like the Swedish way & not accepting the ancient outdated dating system in the USA that gives men too much power!

I have the philosophy that everyone has something else to bring to the dating negotiating table. Won't tolerate drugs, do not care for smoking that is what mouthwash and toothpaste are for.

Yes,
really single (no "in process", "open marriage" stuff),
no kids at home (done w/ that stage of my life, thank you)
older than my daughter
politics somewhat agreeable (lefty in my case)
financially independent
emotionally independent
physically independent (the last 3 -- not looking for "a nurse and a purse" )
--- these are non-negotiable

after that it's all tied up in exchanges

• physical "assets" vs mental "assets" - have known some non-beauties that I'd love to know more and some beauties that I'd rather never see again.
• forward looking versus in the moment -- Hell, I can't even get that one straight!
• distance -- local vs on the "other coast" - someone has to relocate! and that's a whole new cn of worms isn't it!

all in all
looking for some one who wants me, but doesn't need me, that I could find comfortable spooning with in bed.

I prefer people who aren't raving right-wing nutjobs. Loving animals is a must, as is a liberal attitude regarding gay/women's/trans/etc rights. Pretty much everything else is open to negotiation, though I do like outdoorsy types.

Well a job is important, hygeine is too, has a good heart and personality, isnt the control freak type, and isnt a religious nut, so far those are the big ones for me, and not an addict of substances

Absolutely, and when I posted my exacting list of specifications, I got precicely ONE reply.

We have been married almost eight years.

A person who is independent and not needy. That's all.

everyone does don't they?

Kind, honest, intelligent

Dpn't we all...even if we don't use paper and pencil?

I have 3 deal-breakers: 1 must like dogs 2 can't like Trump 3 doesn't wear hats in warm weather.

I have 3 deal-breakers: 1 must like dogs 2 can't like Trump 3 doesn't wear hats in warm weather.

When I was about twenty, I was at an anniversary party for a couple who had been married 45 years. I asked the wife what their secret was. She told me it was choosing the right partner, and then working together to make it a partnership. She said that as young people, we need to know that everyone has faults, without exception. The thing is to know that the person you want to marry has a set of faults that you are willing to live with for the rest of your life. And she was right.

I'm pretty much past that point now, but while I was young, I learned I could never marry anyone who was violent or cruel, or who was always inconsiderate or drunk, or had no sense of humor.
So she was right, and I folllowed her advice! When you know what you don't want, the rest can be fun to discover!

They would have to prove themself:

1. Honest
2. Honorable
3. Rational
4. Respectful
5. Non-smoker
6. Pleasant smelling

Breathing.....err everything else is negotiable

I wouldn't say checklist so much as "in general" qualities. I want her to be attractive, but doesn't need to be a supermodel (I'm certainly not), intelligent so we can have insightful and meaningful conversations, and it would be good if she's able to stand on her own, yet sees something worthwhile about myself that she would choose me over all others. And really when it comes down to it, we just need good chemistry.

I have a mental checklist cultivated over the course of several long term relationships and short term interludes which taught me more about what i won't tolerate than what I am looking for... but here goes...

Attributes: honest (non negotiable), kind and an open, curious personality
Compatability needs to be stronger on the mental and emotional side, but physical chemistry is also a nice to have.
Practical: Lives nearby, self sufficient and mentally/emotionally stable enough to function in an interdependent relationship.
Everything else is negotiable.