I think that men who want "mail-order brides" are those who want compliant, submissive partners. They are, I think, essentially looking for a relationship out of the 1950s rather than the modern era. They see themselves as "I am the provider, I am the head of the household" and many women want a partner, not an overlord. There's nothing wrong with American women. It's more that there is a small subset of the male population who can't or won't move up to meet the challenges of a modern relationship.

As a man myself, no, I would not. There are plenty of classy American women waiting to be discovered by adventurous men.

As a lifelong bachelor, I can't understand why someone would want to marry regardless of nationality.

There are tons of us here in the USA.

Cannot imagine how one can get to know another person closely enough to send for them for marrriage of all things, even with skype! There is so much more, if it is important to them, to learning about the true character of another person. Time and direct experience are, to me, indispensable elements in the process.

This is not to say that distance cannot be overcome if people learn a lot superfically, as inscreenig and comparing so many important things as how each others' minds work and what values and perspectives are. For example, in places like this site, where we meet minds in absence and advance of physical appearance allows such comparisons more easily for those overly impressed by and aroused by personal appearance.

My experience in life as a professional model taught that men have no special monopoly when it comes to objectification of the opposite sex; though for several reasons it is far more common among males. People of both sexes in our society, also due to multiple causes, allow attraction to 'cut in line' so to say, ahead of appropriate sequencing of getting acquainted for some pretty heart breaking, even disastrous results.

I've also known a 'couple'; customers for years who exemplified all that is wrong with such arrangements. He was (is) a thoroughly disgusting man in both personnality and appearance and a superb, well known, personal injury lawyer. She, an exquisitely beautiful (physically) Russian woman with pale blonde hair, rich blue eyes and skin like the finest white china. One, anyone that is, on sight basis alone would marvel over - what possible attraction might there be? It's elementary, but he's now even more bitter and disgusting. She paid dues and divorced well; later marrying a prosperous, young, general contractor with a nice appearance.

Western sexuality, in the main, is marked by secondary drives operating in place of (placebo) early damaged capacity to follow and express natural, self-regulating primary drives. Thus what is fundamentally sick is considered to be the religious, political and social norm. Damage increases with each subsequent generation.

Sending off for dependent women, probably one of the more benign practices, still borders on pathology to me.

I can't imagine that working long term. I guess if she spoke at least some english, it might. I like American women.

I might be thinking of this wrong, but I don't want a servant and concubine.

Long term, after a certain age, it is probably cheaper long term to simply patronise a brothel and do charitable work that involves conversing with others on an intimate level, said he who has never been in a brothel in his life!

I saw a similar program about UK men and Thai women . I got the impression the blokes were just complete dicks and it wasn't the UK women that were the problem . Wouldn't consider it myself my winning personality should be enough of an incentive for a lady not money

No. I was happy when I was single. I was happy and happy now that I'm not.

But I get it. Two people have chances to change their lives for the better. One has a chance to not be alone. The other has a chance to change their standard of living. True love, if it happens, is a bonus.

I would not because I feel like I would be used.

Consider? No. If my luck was that bad with women, I’d just remain monkish.

Men, who marry a mail order bride, may secretly not want a woman to know them, very deeply? I agree, that if foreigners become attracted to each other, that has the possibility of a real relationship. But, this mail order bride thing, just seems to be too much of an imbalance of power. Free sex, cannot by itself...evolve the personality of an individual and that is what relationships...based on mutual respect can do for us. Food and shelter for sex, is not my idea of mutual respect or even balanced! Reminds me too much of the missionaries who bring help to the poor...in exchange for 'saving their soul!' Seems fishy, to me!

Old, fat, ugly Caucasian foreign men come to Thailand all the time to get pretty young women for wives or girlfriends, and to live with them on their family land for free.

They don't realize that even flirting a lot with a Thai girl is like proposing to her, indicating that they are taking financial responsibility for both the girl and all her relatives for the rest of their lives. Furthermore, they can't legally buy or own land or property in Thailand except under the name of a Thai person.

If an expat man takes a Thai girlfriend or wife, then tries to jump to another girl, as he is accustomed to do in his home country, he will quickly find out that it's not allowed here. The girl could unexpected attack him with a knife, and her vast network of relatives could make him lose his job, maybe his visa, have to move away.

If he has had children with the girl already, she will likely prevent him from seeing them unless the expat man forks over all his money every month.

I did a similar thing when I married a Kenyan woman in 2005. Our marriage lasted 12 years and we are freinds yet today.
I once knew a man who had married a Russian woman. She was very pretty but shallow. She liked to shop a lot and they had a baby which the man raised. The wife didn't appear to care much at all for the child. It was like the man had trapped himself but he was doing the right thing and was responsible.

As immigrants not being able to speak English well, these foreign wives are very dependant on their husbands. That is the attraction for men who want a submissive subserveint wife who will look up to them as kings.

I haven’t considered it, but I have friends who have married women from the Philippines with varying results. There’s social reasons for women to marry for wealth and for men to marry based on attractiveness. Unless someone is being scammed, it’s best to not involve yourself in someone else’s relationship.

NO!!! It is difficult to understand each other when we both speak the same language.

No, I wouldn't as it seems desperate. if I met a foreign woman and we were naturally attracted it wouldn't be a problem.

1. How a person can chat with another if he / she doesn't speak the other person's language?

2. These "mail-order brides" are -IMHO- ladies who want to come to USA.

90 Day Fiance is a reality show where some men travel to Russia and Ukraine as well as the Philipines, Thailand, and South America to find wives-usually younger, more attractive and sometimes subserviant to their potential husbands. A woman did marry a guy from Moldavia. You have to worry about 90 days to get married or they get deported. Some guys overseas may marry unattractive American women for the Green Card. Can be a nest of hornets.

He, he, he, he, ha.

Good luck with that. I haven't met a Russian yet that wasn't a breed of crazy that most Americans could handle.

Lmao those women are only agreeable because they speak little English and because they're desperate to get over here.

In other news, I am also trying to mail order bride myself to england, scotland, or Ireland but it appears I am less agreeable

As someone whose thought about only as an idea ... It sounds like a great idea ... But from what I've seen on documentaries too ... Is sometimes the agencies make big dollars for sex trafficked women.

However, being at that point of not fully getting what exactly American women or any woman wants ... It's an option I guess ... But not viable.

Well, if you live in a society that's becoming anti- men, 24/7, what would you do?