It's a very important part of a relationship. I miss having a sexual connection and anticipation of sharing and pleasing each other. I've never had a partner who had issues with sexual performance but have often wondered what would happen if they did. I would like to think I would help them through it. If it wasn't curable I would like to think that I would stay with them. I would leave if they had cancer. However, I the physical connection so having a good and mutually pleasurable sex life is important. Hummmm I hope I'm never faced with this issue. Currently... I have no sexual partner so maybe it would be better to have some sex with a partner with issues... LOL Kidding.

I have been in a relationship where every other thing was perfect. We were compatible in choices of activities, serial TV, movies, books, art, philosophy, even sleepling habits. She was beautiful, and found me visually appealing. There was passion for each others hearts and minds, and we dif love each other romantically.
However, we were not compatible sexually. Actually, it would be more accurate to say we were compatible pheremonely. We would be totally turned on, until we began to kiss. It was vaguely like kissing my sister. Her breath was sweet, her touch soft and urgently sensual, she moved and kissed and touched me just as I enjoy it most. And nothing. She exerienced the same thing.
We tried several times over a couple frustrating months of dating. We were so good on every level, neither of us wanted to give up. But we knew that we both need romantic sensual sexual intimacy and that denied that we would soon begin to resent the other.
It does matter. A lot.

Very important ... I was married for a long time and though there was a degree of sexual comparability frost the first half of 25 years it completely vanished. Even the evocation of the topic and what solutions could be found was off the table.
At some stage I asked my wife why she would, despite her disinterest, hold the monopoly over my sexuality. I quoted, in this context, our state government that had canceled a French company's mining lease on the grounds the leaseholder showed no intention of exploring the allocated area. Over several years no explorative drills had been carried out.
Somehow I failed to emphasize the connection to our sexlife and we ended up having an interesting discussion on mining and its impact on the environment.

I believe all men suffer from performance issues at times. It could be they are nervous or had too much to drink. If it is continuous then it's time you asked them to try Viagra.
Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship. I think it starts with tender touches and soft gentle kisses. Normally the kissing will arouse your partner. For me it would be very hard to have a loving relationship if I was not emotionally and sexually compatible with the woman.

It is important but elusive. I did have a 10 year relationship where we were very compatible but drinking got in the way. I have never found anyone that is fulfilling on every level the sexual part comes after some emotional relationship. It is difficult to move on when something does not work but necessary to maintain some mental peace.

it is not important to me any more. I would like to have some one I trust next to me at night. Some people need it to be so important nobody is good enough for them.

Some people just aren't compatible with each other. It's better to find that out early on than later.

You have to be careful that the hot sexual compatibility doesn't blind you to a growing toxicity in the relationship outside of the bedroom. I've been there.

What would be Sex without Compatibility? Exercise on Futility. For Sex and Making Love... I want My Equal. That's it... Plain and Simple. I prefer no exception. I rather Rock and be Rocked by My Equal!

Open communication without judgment is key to sexual compatibility.

In my experience a lack of sexual compatibility leads to dissatisfaction, which leads to a lack of tolerance for little things, and errodes the relationship.
I have been with women who's appetite was significantly less than mine, and I did not remain satisfied. I have been with women who were repressed and rigid in only enjoying vaginal intercourse with lights out. I was soon dissatisfied.
Sexuality is a huge part of our lives, and our romantic relationships. I would no more want to be with a sexually incompatible person than I would someone who was incompatible in intelligence, who was too inarticulate to enjoy deep conversation, or whose conduct was unethical or mean spirited.

It's not for everyone (for some reason beyond my comprehension), but ethical non-monogamy in open relationships solves that particular problem.

Sexual compatibility and Performance issues are different topics. Just sayin'-
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I think it's very important! I believe it is inextricably linked to our ability to think freely, our free will (in comparison to others), our levels of needs, wants and desires. It should not be unimportant! Patience and love of self lays the groundwork for honing in on the person with the compatibility that fits your being.

To me it is very important, right up there with shared values. Much more important than sharing hobbies and interests. If my partner doesn't like hiking, I can go hiking with friends, if my partner does not want the same kind or quantity of sex as me I can't go having sex with friends. (at least not for those who want monogamous relationships) A very important thing is to be able to talk with your partner about sex and what each other want/need and how you can or cannot meet each other’s needs and desires. It’s great if the two of you just “magically” have perfect harmony in your sexual desires, but far more likely there will be differences and you have to be able to understand each other. You have to understand the obstacles your partner might face to wanting or having sex. Lack of sexual interest is often a symptom of other problems in the relationship.

Very important for me; I enjoy it and am not shy about it but I have to be attracted to him. If Im not satisfied, I share with him my concerns with solutions and give him time to decide if he is okay with it. If not, then I move on. Thats a dealbreaker.

Some of you may have heard this before : Sex is like air. When it's there, and you're breathing in and out, you don't think about it. But if it's not there, (or not satisfactory to you) , it becomes a major issue very quickly !

Perhaps I've been spoiled thus far. But if me and any prosepctive partner are not compatible sexually, it may eat away at the other good stuff. Sex is simply too pleasurable !

There is no need for profound philosophical statements on this topic, is there? Keep it simple; "Never mind the cries of passion do it doggy fashion."....LOL

Sensual attraction is number one for me, besides good hygeine and man's ability to dress himself and wear good shoes. Attention to his personal knowledge of who he believes he is important. If you're a cowboy, be Gary Cooper, or James Dean...find your inner self! Find your style, be a rogue, or Clark Gable.

I won't accept any thing less ever again. I've dumped at least two guys that were bad in bed just for that reason. I figure by the time you're 50 you really, really should have some idea of how to give a woman an orgasm.

You know, I don't know that I ever really thought about this, in depth. I'm fairly romantic by inclination, and the physical intimacy has always seemed to flow from that. But were it not so, well-I think I would mind it very much.

Also, the women I have known seem to divide themselves into friends or lovers fairly quickly after meeting them. I only know of one instance of someone making the leap from one group to another (from lover to friend) and that took 30 years.

Sexual compatability is high on my list because I've had relationships that were pretty much dryspells. Ideally I would like a partner that doesn't have an issue starting things herself if she wants it. I don't know why it's become such a stereotype that men have to be the ones to start it.

If I loved a woman, but something happened and her vag stopped working, I'd flip her over.

If intercourse became impossible, she would need to take on the cheerleader and helper role.

My point being that effort and attitude can make a bleak situation better.

I think you just inadvertantly made a case for "open relationships".

My experience is that it is much easier to find sexully compatible persons than it is to find someoen who is compatible in a way tht I coudl stand liming with them day after day.

I know a coupel who have had sex with each other for years, but they are compatible in virtually every other way. Both are aware that they both satisfy their sexual needs outside the relationship. I woudl nto choose tht for myself, but it works for them and they are happy.

Sometimes, the "ideal" of compatibility in all areas just doesn't happen and peopel seek alternativbes which work for them.

For myself, I have chosen to remain single unless I find full compatibility with someone.. although at soem point, I may choose differently.

Sex is only one component of overall compatibility. When everything else is great, the sex can and should be amazing, however, sex seldom makes everything else great. It all comes down to what's most important for each couple.