Teach your kids at an early stage that it's okay to think differently than other people. There are a lot of accepted organizations (religions, Disney, etc.) that children 'go along with'. It should be okay if a girl doesn't want to join the Girl Scouts, or if a boy doesn't want to be a Little League baseball player. They shouldn't feel compelled to do anything just because others expect it of them...And when they make a decision, the parents should be supportive of that choice...

raise her in a box. Just let your fiance know that your child will hear, not only his side of the religion coin, but also your own. If he can not accept this, then you have legal grounds to keep him away from the child. As soon as he mentions Hell, you have grounds for emotional abuse. BTW, If you find christianity disgusting, then your chances of staying with this guy are very slim anyway because it is something about him that you find disgusting. Best of Luck

In the case of my son, he was sent to Sunday school (over my ineffectual objections), hated it, and became an atheist. Worth a try, but it might backfire.

You can’t. You can try as they grow up to give them reasons to question things, but in the end they will pick.

Tell them the truth. Teach them science.

“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.”

• Margaret Mead

Kids are smart. I taught mine about religion, it’s role in world history and how it affects people’s disposition. She understands why religious act the way they do, is a better person for it.

Teaching critical thinking skills is inportant so she is able to formulate her own belief system as she matures rather than recklessly jumping in to the belief system of what ever charasmatic religious figure happens to blow in with the wind.

Teach critical skills from day one.
Why would you ever marry someone with such a widely different view on life?

Be honest and encourage critical thinking.

If it is important to you that your child be raised with independence of thought, you will have to do several things. First, you will have to model such independence. Second, you must always tell your child that he or she has choices as to what to believe and not everything he or she is told is true Third, you will have to trust your child.

I made it clear to my daughters what I believe, but I also told them that whether or not they chose to believe in any religion was up to them. Both of them did sometimes attend church with friends. Today both are agnostics or atheists, as are their children.

If it is important to you, and if you fiancée would not allow this to occur, perhaps you need to think about your relationship again.