People often think I'm stuck up because I'm quiet.
Thank you! I hate the fact that because I'm white and male with a military haircut that people assume I'm a conservative, christian, Republican. That is SOOOO. The opposite. On all 3 counts. LOL
That im some kind of thug who doesn't care about anything because I have so many tattoos and I don't conform.
Conforming is boring.
you bet it is
People think I am stuck up, because I am quiet as well. They also think I am much younger than I am. I am frequently thought to be in my 20's when I am in my 40's. Then when I tell them that I have children who are in their 20's or nearly in their 20's they think I am lying or that I was very young when I had them.
They think that I am not very bright - I am fairly shy especially around strong confident people -
They think that I am a pushover and many times I am as I am one of the youngest at 70y.o. in my sheltered housing association .
I do have in fact three advanced degrees Soc psych, Fine and Applied Art, Art History and armfuls of advanced diplomas plus being the first woman plasterer in England and a Lecturer in Person Centred Counselling and a founder member of Person Centred Creative Expresive Therapy Institute in England - They don't know that I went to a free school, never did any maths and can't handle figures to save my life 'Discalculia' (and I won't be telling them any of this )
For nurses week my new supervisor bought me a realtree camouflage lunch box. Anyone that actually knows me knows that something like that is 4 light years away from anything i would actually like. I still use it though because it's the thought that counts.
nice
That I’m a ho because I pole dance (for fitness). I’ve been married to the same man for 20 years, but, yeah, I’m a ho.
People think ( mostly men) because I have large breasts and I enjoy sex that I am stupid and a slut.
Ugh.
You can't fix stupid. I'm sorry to hear that happens to you.
That I'm unfriendly because of my grouchy-looking neutral face, mainly.
I am quiet and uncomfortable in social situations. People mistake that for arrogant. Go figure.
I keep getting advice lately that I need to learn to love myself. I’m coming out of a long bout of depression and felt pretty useless for a time but that’s different. I think too that when people hear that I had suicidal ideations they assume that I don’t like myself. Those thoughts were about wanting to leave the pain of depression not because I don’t care about myself. Suicide is, generally speaking, a selfish act. You don’t do something selfish if you don’t care about yourself. I don’t post a lot of selfies on social media or brag on myself much but I do love and care for myself a great deal. Enough not to care what anyone else thinks about me because I’m confident in who I am. It’s just a bit annoying to hear advice based on wrong assumptions by multiple people.
Have you tried psilocybin?
@Phyphrus I have tried several different hallucinogens including psilocybin. Unfortunately, I did not have access to any during my recent depression. And while they have helped in the past with situational depression I suffer from a chemical imbalance that’s genetic. Medication does the job but I was in financial hard times and didn’t have access to those either. ?
Being blonde people don't realize I am intelligent.
Same, I'm pretty quiet but used to be even more so. People often assumed I was a snob because I wasn't outgoing or constantly smiling.
Ohh, that's the worst. Like really? Do I have to look happy all the time? Is anyone so insecure that if I take a break from smiling it's automatically their fault?
@Phyphrus The worst is when you're just minding your own business and someone assumes you're in a bad mood or mean because of resting bitch face.
@WickedNicki I can handle resting bitch face. That usually clears up as soon as you get people talking. I just can't stand how everyone thinks the world revolves around them. Like if you happen to be in a bad mood and minding your own business, a bystander assumes it's about them. Its self-involved ?
That I am a Bigger Asshole than I really am. Those who don't think I am one, I may one day prove them wrong. I am a very Simple, Complicated Man without a Master or Mistress and that much Freedom leads to a lot of Misinterpretation.
In person people assume that I'm an extrovert. I'm actually VERY introverted and quite shy. I will admit that I hide it well. Online dating? Women assume that I'm a he-whore. Yea you read that right. A man slut... No I do not want to scratch your "itch" thank you very much. I'm actually looking for a meaningful connection. Why is that so hard people??? Lol ( I'm laughing but I'm so serious right now....)
they are projecting
@btroje forgive my ignorance but what do you mean by projecting?
@Tutankhamun putting their thought on you. Thinking you are a slut when it may be them
@btroje I see. It's frustrating none the less
Sometimes people assume that I am Canadian, American, Australian, Dutch, Eastern European. Often they give up on trying to guess my country of birth. Also, they assume that I am soft touch until they feel that they have been hit on the head with a gold brick.
OMG so funny and for me so relate-able. I grew up in Australia, with English friends and have lived all over the United States over the last 30 years and people just have a hell of a time trying to figure out where I come from! It cracks me up.
I have the opposite problem. I have to open my mouth. Most people assume I believe the things I say, but I will take a stance I don't agree with for the sake of a thought experiment.
I don't bulletproof my wording, and people take things I say and warp them into something I didn't say, almost like it's on purpose ?