The purpose of Marriage is to create a stable financial and emotional contract that allows you to birth and raise children. The problem with the Christian idea of Marriage is that people are encouraged to commit to this arrangement before they know themselves. That really does not matter however, because religions are only concerned about procreation, about creating new members, and they care nothing for self knowledge or fulfillment......As for your other question, are we meant to practice monogamy? As a species (Primates), reproduction does not require life long pair bonding; in most primate groups, there is a dominant male who does all the breeding, so you can see that our concept of marriage has been changed by culture.....Until just recently, men could have as many wives as they could afford, and so they were not frustrated by the constraints of fidelity. I also think that the Nuclear family is unstable and is producing low quality children, so we will see what happens.

I have trouble with the "meant" part of the question. you mean are humans hard-wired for monogamy? probably to an extent, but with our supposed sentience, we tend to wander off, so to speak. marriage, of course, is just an arrangement. through most of history it was an economic one. if that is no longer an important reason for marriage, then marriage is redefined.

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Well forever will only be about 20 years now, so doesn't seem so bad

We've recently celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary. Sure we've had arguments but divorce has never been remotely under consideration. But it can't be that way for everyone, and in many cases it shouldn't be. As for 'meant to be', that phrase suggests that someone or something 'means' us to be, which I don't go along with at all.

My wife and I have been married for nearly 20 years...have known each other for 20 years and although we're happy together, I was married before her. We have been, and will probably will be swingers again after the kids are a bit older and that is certainly fun (adds spice into the relationship), but as far as winning the heart...yeah, I think it's possible. She's had mine since the day we met and we are only more in love every day.

The simple answer is no. Just got through reading the book by Jared Diamond; Why Is Sex Fun. A very good read.

Serial monogamy is the way I see it.

I thought I would be with my 1st wife until "the end." Thought the same about #'s 2 and 3. Don't think that anymore.

The reasons why a lot of marrages don't last today is cause couples often lack the abilty to compromise ,commuicate with each other be honest with each other ,and over the years they lose intimacy between one another . And once you no longer have intimacy between one another you know longer have a marrige.

I do not think humans have 'evolved' to the point where their personal preference or societal demands will keep them together 'forever'. That would take being locked in a physical cage. Marriage 'foreverness' is a religious fallacy and unrealistic societal demand. Perhaps the opposite is true as more people are choosing to delay marriage until later, forgo marriage altogether or be poly...which I would -love- to experience...if I found those kinds of special people. Many marriages occur because of archaic laws that don't allow partners to share insurance and other benefits to help them make a modern family work. After three marriages, I feel I've had enough of it...but who's to say in the future that I may be forced to marry if my partner get sick and I want to provide my insurance or death benefits to her, him or they? In that case laws and policy are driving your decision, not love...and that is a recipie for failure. There just has to be a better way to prove your love and committment to your partner(s) (if your relationship needs that) without entering into the La Brea Tar Pit of marriage. Moving forward, marriage is the last option I'll ever consider again, but I realize circumstances may arise that might make it the more pragmatic decision. Reasons for marriage will look very different in your 60's and beyond than they did 40 years previously.

I hope so... the right one will have me until the end.

I don't believe in monogamy. I think humans are more suited to be polygamous sexually but regarding their emotions there will always be favorites. I think humans are able to love and care for multiple people but only because they choose to not because they have to which the same could be said for choosing to be with just one. You are allowed to change your mind over time because people do change and can naturally grow apart. When that happens they should be free to go their separate ways.

"In our possessive coupling
So much could not be expressed
So now I'm returning to myself
These things that you and I suppressed...

I know, no one's going to show me everything
We all come and go unknown
Each so deep and superficial
Between the forceps and the stone"

• • Joni Mitchell

I think it depends on the foundations of a relationship and whether people are dynamic enough to progress in a dynamic world.

I mean if you’re looking at tribalist early humans then no not necessarily, but I think it’s better for humanity if we all slow down and take one partner. Too many people seem to rush things nowadays. Just wait. Learn to be alone so you can appreciate the company of others. I’m only 21 but I can say that living a quiet life and finding solitude in my own thoughts has made me a bit more tolerable. I suck less everyday that I’m by myself.

For some, there is only that one person. For others it doesn't work out with one but may for another. Life isn't cut and dried and last I heard, it was more like 60/40 with many choosing to not get married or delay it much further down the road.

Horses for courses, what works for one person might not work for another, if people didn't judge and allowed people to be themselves in consensual relationships, it would do no harm and make way for happiness, and of course why should it matter to anyone else how you conduct your private life if it harms no one else?

I don't think that anyone on this earth is "meant" for anything, as we are different people from one day to the next and we must be prepared to be true to ourself, OR, we will be miserable and also make someone else miserable, at times we MUST deal with the pain of being REAL !!!

It depends on how you view that one person. Are you the same person as you were 1 year ago? Do your partner think you changed? A person who believes to grow, and partner with someone who also loves to change and adapt, can the life be boring? Can't you live your tomorrow differently? Can't you make your kiss and touch to be exciting and unique for tomorrow? Why do we feel it to be the same, because we don't utilize this awesome, magical human brain to be creative, to be awesome ourselves. So, if the underlying assumption of the question is that why do we need to stay with the same, I think it's the perception problem ultimately. The new will become old in a moment. So, how you view life, how your partner views life ultimately will dictate, what's same or what's even "forever" means..

I’ve learned first hand how much a partner can change in a short amount of time. Marriage should, I think, be legally binding with stringent laws against Infedelity, but also WAY easier to get out of, if your partner becomes a stranger to you.

Each to their own, I've never found anyone I wanted to marry and have been happy most of my life without that particular institution

I don't believe in monogamy period, but I'm probably in the minority on this. Why do we always feel pressured to need someone in our lives?

I may commit to exclusivity in a poly triad, but monogamy isn't for me, and I don't even believe in the institution of marriage.

I don't think we're "meant to be" anything. I think we're indoctrinated from birth by society on many things, though.

To be very honest that's a good question I could not give a honest answer to has me thinking

A marriage is a legal contract between two people and contracts are broken all the time.
So it depends on the people that are married. They have a 50% chance of it working till death do they part.