Is sex the most important thing to you in a relationship that includes physically intimacy?
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I already have lots of relationships with people and none of them are sexual. In a sexual relationship, sex would be primary. But my perspective is out of whack because sex is an unreachable aspiration for me.
BitFlipper
Level 8
Oct 6, 2020
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Not everyone is or even desires to be sexually active. There are many things in life to understand and accomplish that are more important to the big picture than sex is. I think that is why I am so drawn to highly intelligent men, because they tend to recognize the greater spectrum comprising the signficance of life.
Meeting Bob changed all that. Yes beforehand sex was the main ingredient. We are sexual beings and as we get older our priorities in life change. Loving and supporting each other comes first now.
sassygirl3869
Level 9
Oct 6, 2020
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For some people, perhaps, but not for me. Intimacy comes in various forms, including sex, but I'd place physical closeness (e.g., cuddling) and emotional intimacy at the top of my list. Granted, my most valued aspects can be part of sex, but they can also stand on their own.
resserts
Level 8
Oct 6, 2020
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Yes, I think this is a wonderful glimpse into the depth of a healthy relationship that encompasses so much more than sex, thank you. I hope @VeronicaAnn is reading these replies.
No, it's not the most important thing to me, although I don't know how to gauge any one thing as most important. But I'm a very affectionate person and one of the ways I show my love is through physical intimacy, so it's definitely a barometer for the health of the relationship.
Lauren
Level 8
Oct 6, 2020
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Another helpful perspective, thank you.
Same here.
Sexual compatibility is an important factor in a relationship. Not any more or less important than other parts of the relationship.
"The whole is greater than the sum of the parts." -Aristotle-
Unity
Level 7
Oct 5, 2020
6
Thank you, the reason your answer appeals to me is because it speaks to the equilibrium or balance that would help sustain a relationship over the long haul.
It's important. Good sex will keep a relationship going. A sexless relationship has no hope. It will end eventually.
barjoe
Level 9
Oct 5, 2020
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Fair comment, thank you. Important yes, but the most important aspect of a relationship? I wouldn't criticize anyone for saying yes, but I do wonder how long those relationships last, also. And I really don't know, that's why I'm asking. I appreciate your candor.
@LovinLarge Maybe not the most important but prolly the leading cause of breakups.
Yes sex kept my last 10 year relationship together but it was abusive and unhealthy. I ended it 11 years ago. Never a relationship based on sex only again.
@sassygirl3869 Not only, but it's important.
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