@GizmoAmbivert
I met them in person after meeting them on line. It started by messaging and then phone calls and then meeting in person. Many have been great people but just not a 'match' in terms of a forever relationship.

@GizmoAmbivert
I see if we have commonality. I listen to how he speaks. Is he respectful? Do we share core values? It’s a gut thing. Upon meeting, watch how he treats the wait staff. That’s very telling. You sound like you don’t trust your self?

Arranged marriages actually sounds pretty good at the moment LOL.

@GizmoAmbivert I meant that I first met him on a dating site. We lived an hour from each other, so we ended up dating in person for a year. I knew early on that he had misrepresented some things, and I chose to ignore it. So I'm not a victim in that sense.

@Lani I feel you on the misrepresentation and having consequences for ignoring it. I did that with my last ex and paid for it dearly. You're not a victim but you chose to give him the benefit of the doubt and were let down. It's not entirely your fault.

@ThereIsADog as you age...'benifit-of-the-doubt'...is in short supply!!lol

@Freedompath Very much agree with that! It's nobody's responsibility to make you happy but if you feel someone is actively taking away from your quality of life then run for the hills is what I learned. They may change but you sure as hell aren't going to be the one to change them.

Lol!

Dito-dito!

Yep.... Me too

@amnotgod thanks!

@kauva...there is a question mark after ...'penis!' That way maybe you can get instructions!

@moonmaid FYI - never use the word "hard" in any answer referring to the word penis. you just lost every juvenile mind in the lot as their minds furiously engaged in finding witty sexual responses.

Me too, I had a good giggle at these posts but thought I'd leave you guys to it
I wanted to say, and if it's not hard leave it in the pants lols. Oh and now I have; terrible really.

Yes, pretty much sums it up for me. Difficult to find the chemistry online.

@girlwithsmiles I think on line to a point but then you have to meet up and have coffee and dinner to move to the next level

I agree with you too

@Rosh yes finding love is like the lottery,you have to play it to win it .for most of us online daters, the odds are about the same. I will add that I did meet somebody very nice on this site.

@Kojaksmom awesome enjoy your journey together

I guess I never looked at it from that stand point. As one of the guys who aren't like that I never considered the fact that women have to protect themselves from guys who are. Thanks for sharing

@Tutankhamun I just read an article about scammers of both sexes finding dating sites lucrative. One guy they caught after seven years often had two or three women he was juggling at the same time, and these were not stupid women. In fact, while the cops did very little, it was the women emailing each other, investigating on their own and pooling their notes and resources that finally brought him down. Sadly their money, jewelry, and little treasures were gone for good, and their once sound credit is taking years to reboot.

@Angelface it really pissed me off. I’m here to meet people for friends and a long-term relationship. It’s harassment. And it sucks because this shit keeps happening.

@PinkPassion it happens on this site?

Facetime and video chats. She was a client that I consulted about strange happenings in her household. We just clicked.

Don't write that in stone.

@Freedompath awrh, thanks. ?

Don't be too hard on yourself!

That’s a great idea. Thanks. I’m definitely doing this.

@PinkPassion, she's going to text me, and I have a code word that's personal for her, so she remembers it. And she lives only a couple miles from where we're having coffee, so the cavalry is nearby if he turns out to be loonie.

Sad that it has to be that way, but very smart.

Sounds like we're all looking for something similar. Why is it so hard to find?

@Tutankhamun that is the ultimate question when it comes to matters of the heart.

When they let you know please let me know

@Tutankhamun Will do!

@amnotgod thanks!

Wow really? I need to get some tips from your husband!!!

@Tutankhamun well for one, read the profile, send an introduction highlighting that you have at least one thing in common, and ask a follow up question or two on things you read in the profile. Having a complete profile helps. And on OkCupid I highly recommend answering as many of the questions as you're comfortable with, it is very accurate if you answer honestly.

No. No I am not. That is my final answer LOL

@Tutankhamun goood!!!# Lololololololololol

It looks like the key is...to treat the 'fun people' and the not so, 'fun' people, with the same 'broad brush! (Emotionally)'...and when a person that 'clicks,' comes along...you will clearly know it! It appears, that it is all in the numbers...if you have the time! A short, temporary 'spark', may be all there is...so you need a little time with any person to know that! I am not so patient...so that is the reason, I have never pursued, on line dating! Lol

Agreed unfortunately

Press for a soon as possible “coffee and chat”, meet in person. If you wait too long the one you most like will “poof” be suddenly gone. After meeting in person then you have a better idea of who someone is. I enjoy these chats.

I'm finding pen pals who then want money. Seriously, we've never met in person and you're demanding money because of bad business decisions you made. FOAD. I have pretty much dropped all dating sites, not worth the aggravation.

not like good old days where you meet up for coffee or sundaes and chat and dance

not like good old days where you meet up for coffee or sundaes and chat and dance

Scammers, yes. Ran into way more of those than I thought I would.

Nah, it's your devastating good looks that keeps the chicks away. Just like mine do...

I hear that

Yes, it does open up more opportunities to meet people that are supposed to be single.

hog heaven. don't know what a hig is.

Yea I have found a lot of pay sites are like this. It's all business for them. I suppose a few do find love though.

Gosh...I hope the picture isn't that dismal?