“You are in my loving thoughts” is what I sometimes say. Best not to leave it to the grieving person to assign helping tasks. You know what they need—help with pet care, running errands, grocery shopping, picking kids up from school, rides to medical appointments, etc. Just say, “This must be a difficult time for you. May I help by ...”

thoughts

To dispell darkness we introduce light. "Sending love and light" has a profoundly spiritual meaning. You say it when you want to touch a soul.

They try to find a solution to the problem. Praying is just a way to do nothing and still feel good about yourself. If it is the loss of a loved one you give condolences and offer them your help in coping.

I don't say this but I heard someone else say " Life and death are one string". It helps me. I also heard someone say "When you die you really just move over and make room for someone else."
Sorry I changed the subject (:>

A phrase I hate even more, that many TV news people use, is "Our hearts go out to you"--because it seems like an insincere cliche. You could just say "my thoughts are with you"...?

Depends on if loss was accidental malicious or if was caused by a long suffering.

“That sucks”?

Thoughts and prayers... as useful as a chocolate teapot.

Most of the time I ask what I can do to help.

I'm sorry. Can I help?

Sorry for your loss, anything I can do.

My thoughts are with you, which would be true. It doesn't bother me when someone says it to me, becuase they are wishing the best for me in their own way. It is the malicious and judgmental part of religion l won't tolerate.

I am sorry for their loss and offer appropriate assistance as I am able....I would never impose my thoughts upon griefstruck people and prEyer is an admission of incompetence and ignorance

Difficult to comfort people who are grieving. "My thoughts are with you & your family" is ok. I don't say "rest in peace", "he's in a better place now," etc... I just talk about my memories with the deceased, and offer any help the family needs.

Sending positive vibes— sending well wishes- sending love & light

BOB bless you...

"I'll be thinking of you ."

I just don't know what I would say. Guess that's why I'm agnostic lol.

When my father died I felt like the condolences were virtually meaningless as they changed nothing, but given that my assumption of death is it is probably the same as before we were alive, and in my opinion not existing sounds profoundly peaceful in contrast to the stuggle of life... I would just suggest that they are at peace.

Thoughts and wishes.

We say I'm sorry for your trouble...that spares us having to mention anything religious in nature.

If it's a relative or close friend, I will tell them "I’m sorry you’re suffering right now, but I’m here with you and willing to help any way I can."

We actually DO something

I usually just say "Peace and Blessings" or "I'll send you some good vibes" or something like that.