Being an agnostic is especially challenging when you're surrounded with religion family and friends. Often they will try to convert you to their religion, become hostile towards you or even disown you. What are your thoughts on how to retain a good relationship with religion people?
Hey, if it makes them happy. If they think that without their religion they will become evil doers, rape, plunder and destroy, I want them to keep their religion at all cost. I have no right to confront them about their belief, unless they press for it.
Just use religious terminology to describe scientific ideas. For example use divine truth to describe morality etc. Some folks on here would be quite good at it.
Avoid the topic of religion. If they insist, just look like you are listening, and thank them for sharing their views. Do not even try to object. Arguing with them can be interesting, but may leave them angry, so just nod and say their statement is interesting.
Smile and nod...all whilt thinking to youself "this crazy mfer right here" lol
Be nice about it, be patient, explain your views and inquire on theirs. They're family, they're worth at least that.
I made it very well known to my family when I was in Middleschool that I "lost my faith". I grew up in a multi-religion family; mormon, Lutheran and Presbyterian. They surprisingly embraced it. They bought me books on philosophy and a tarot deck, etc.
As i grew older i watched as some of them came to terms that their religious beliefs weren't helping anybody. Now the only religious people i deal with are the Mormons from my moms side of the family... i treat them with utmost respect, i follow the rules of their household, and i allow them to believe what they want. They have never tried to push their beliefs on me and they respect that I believe differently than them.
However, when Jehovah's witnesses or mormons come to my door, i either answer it naked or in BDSM gear
My friends and family know I’m free from religion. If they want to talk about it, fine. Most stay away from it because my reasoning has been thought out for many years. Most of them don’t even think about why they believe, they just like sheep, blindly follow.
tell them straight like all things and then they have the choice what to do about it.
I think it boils down to having respect for others' beliefs. You might think that family and friends are idiots for subscribing to a religious dogma, but I agree with ron29 below - live and let live. Unless they constantly get in your face with their beliefs, proselytizing, etc., just let them live with their beliefs. If they are open to discussion about beliefs, then be gentle and discuss what you believe in a civil manner, without condemnation or instant judgment. They might come around to your point of view, but even if they don't, they will appreciate that you are at least understanding of their belief system.
Keep an open mind. Listen to what they have to say, no matter how many times have you heard the same gibberish over and over again. Tell them your side of the story, fully expecting them not take it well, but also defining the boundaries. A simple respect to everyone’s beliefs and opinions.
If they end up abandoning you, just stop caring. Their narrow mind will never allow them to look at the bigger picture.
I got tired of being disrespected and talked down to because I don't participate in their delusions. What really bugs me is that they don't see the good man that I am. They only see the "sinner". Even though I have not done any of the despicable things I have seen the believers in my family do. So I disowned them, just because they are family does not mean they are healthy to have in your life.
I'm VERY open to my family about my disdain/disgust for their religious beliefs. I challenge them to challenge me in the issues - I was raised in their religious family & know everything they know about their religious beliefs .. so I know all the fallacies, lies, & hypocrisies they practice IN-DEPTHLY!
Offer answers when they ask a question. Usually it's best to live your life, being helpful to them in every way possible, but generally keep it out of the conversation. They'll bring it up along the way, you can be sure, but always be kind but firm in your response.
My friends and family know that I'm a non-believer and they accept it. it has never been an issue
While my 89 year old mother's still around I'll keep my views on the topic out of any family conversations. They have a hard enough time wrapping their minds around me being vegan.
Ya, that would mess with me too .. gotta have my animal!