Remember life is a test, & a dangerous one at that. Be careful out there.

No one wants me so I am single. It's been 1 year and 8 months out of the abusive relationship. The last one.

@Sarahroo29 thats not true about a person not wanting you. You have to move around and be seen. You keep doing the same thing every day and you will most likely see the same people. Explore your options Sarah. The sky is your limit... don't give up. Find something else to do and meet people. Go hiking. Find some place where you can meet people and talk. Your a beautiful person and I beleive you can do it.

I'm not mobile. My eye sight is so bad, I'm not allowed to drive anymore. I go to the gym a lot. No one there talks to me. Sometimes the women in the locker room do. I've tried to talk to the men there. They don't talk well or care. So I workout alone. The last atheist group that I was in went hiking a lot. I miss it. No one wants to do that with me now. Either they don't have time or have no interests. I can't be around people much because I get inundated from seeing people at work all the time. I end up going home and hiding in my room. When I do get out, I go to Wal-Mart or the mall. Only for things I need. I tried online dating. That was horrible.

@Sarahroo29 Sarah! I will find an answer for you

@Sarahroo29 Congratulations... stay true to that Never abused again. But keep the faith in Love.

Cool.

That's cool..

I am sorry for your loss... hard to overcome. But you will know when you find it again because you seen it before... You both will feel it. Good Luck.

is a match. Could be a Friendship Match or Romantic Match... I have a buddy of mine in high school we have different agendas and yet we found this common ground that we never had an argument of any kind. Haven't seen him in many decades. Died a Year Ago... It hurt me more than I thought just because among other things he was the only witness of things and adventures we did together including saving a junkie's life from an Overdose at when we were 18. Beavis and Butthead kind of thing. I have a few friends of the "Old Guard" Like That. There such a thing as a match or mate. I found a soulmate and we opted to find each other in another life... will it happen? will it be true? can we recognize each other again? there is such a thing of "love at first sight"... beyond serious attraction, some say those are souls that met before and recognize each other. May Be True, May Not Be. Soul or No Soul... I believe in the Soul that makes me Unique. I believe in Spirits that reach us and move us for a bit. They don't stick around for long and they still subject to our soul while in us. We all need a Witness to our lives... Better to be a Match to Who we are. Don't give up Hope... because they are out there wondering about Us.

I wrote you a reply once. But this site isn't working too well rn on data or Wi-Fi. So I will write this again...

The last time I was in a local MeetUp atheist group, a 67-year-old lonely man befriended me. He became infatuated with me. I'm 29 and told him I only wanted a friend. He said him too. I found a man my age on a dating app and was dating him for a while. We broke up a month later. Anyway, this atheist got jealous and mean. He blocked my number and me on Messenger. Now before I blocked him for good, we had made up as friends. He exposed himself to me. I am an at-risk adult. I called the cops. He lied to the cops to get out of the charges. Then lied to the atheists group and I was shunned out basically. I have a invisible restraining order on him. If he disobeys it, I was told to get a real one from the police. I didn't take into consideration as to why he has cameras all over the inside and outside of his house. He has a lot of guns. Semi-autos and hand guns. I have not spoken to him since I blocked him. He used me. Also used my mental illness as a leverage to get out of trouble. Who would the police and atheists believe? A white older male or a mentally ill 29-year-old?

@Sarahroo29 At least there i snow a police report on the guy, so if he does it to someone else, then the police can establish that there is likely a problem and the guy needs to be watched.

There are assholes and predators virtually everywhere... not that I am tryign to make you paranoid. Most people are not either. Personally, if the other person was the one to initiate contact, I am reticent about sharing information of a personal nature. Of course I am pretty reclusive by nature, which to some people makes me seem stuck up, which I guess is better than appearing vulnerable and a possible target to be taken advantage of.

I happen to be gay, and am mostly attracted to Asian guys. A couple months after I moved to Portland, I met a guy, we had "a fling", and it turned out the number he gave me to get in touch was invalid.

So, Portland has a gay Asian group that meets for social events, and I strted going to those. It turns out that the guy I had the fling with was a board member, and althoug hhe represented himself as "single" when we had our fling, it turns out he had a long term partner. So, after I attended a few events, I get an email telling me I am no longer welcome at the events because someone accused me of coming onto them sexually and stalking them.

Anyway, after making a few inquiries, I found out that they I had the flign with, handled emails for the group, including handling RSVPs for events. So, basically I got banned from the group and falsely accused because he was afraid his partner would find out he was beign cheated on.

So, I started going to meetup groups that did day hikes. I have yet to go to an atheist meetup. I have been to LGBT meetups, hiking meetups bicycling meetups, and a meetup especially for those who appreciate craft beer. I think part of my reluctance to go to an atheist meetup is that when I grew up in a religious family, I didn't want to identify as religion being what defined me, and I don't want to be defined either by my atheism.

Well, anyway, I think my point is that life goes on, and the longer we let past events define us and affect us, then it only makes a greater victory for the assholes of the world.

The best revenge against all those who hurt or betrayed you is to make a happy life for yourself in spite of what peopel have done to you or tried to do to you.

I do think that if that guy knows where you liver, you might consider moving, especially if he has a gun collection. That you make a police report though would probably make him very hesitant to do anything against you, as he would likely be one of the top suspects. If it were me, I'd still move. I tend to usually error on the overly cautious side. The plethora of cameras you mentioned would suggest (at leaat to me) he may be either paranoid or into something illegal. Like I said I am overly cautious.

As a lost note, I would generally beware of older single people who don't seem to have all that many or any friends. I am not adverse to making friends outside of my own age group, but when I first came out (as gay), although I was 23, I still looked like i was 16, and a lto of older guys came otu the woodwork thinking I was naive and easily taken advantage of. I think perhaps tht is why I present as aloof or stuck up (which develoed into reclusiveness), which is something I developed as a defense to deter predators. I pretty much kept guys who were older at arms length. If you tell them anythign personal they just tke it as encouragement and wonder how they can use it. So, when they ask questions I only gave them general nonspecific answers. Let the other p[erson reveal themselves first, watch their body language and make sure waht they are sayign matches how they are behaving.

I am told that not everyone can read body language easily. I have always been a narual at it. People often reveal the most when they think they are not beign observed. If you can't conscious read people then pay attention to your instincts. If you instincts say there is something wrong with a person, ALWAYS trust it. The biggest mistakes i have ever made about people was to not listen to my instincts. There was a point in myu life where after a couple of drinks I'd argue to myself to give a person the benefit of a doubt, even though my instincts said "get away from this person", and I always regretted not listening to my instincts, which picked up on something my conscious mind had missed. ALWAYS give your instincts more weight than what a person tells you.

As an example... You mentioned you told the old guy that you didn't wan tto be more than just friends, so you picked up on what he wanted. He told you that was all he wanted too, and you let what he said carry more weight than what you felt instinctively.

A lot of human mistakes can be traced to the erroneous belief that man is separate from animals, when in fact man is an animal. We evolved, and our animal instincts is how we first survived as a species. Peopel make the mistake tht thinking that just because we can reason, that we can always reason things out correctly. I myself have a relatively high IQ, but I have learned over time that my instincts, which do nto seem to follow logic are more reliable for keepign me out of conflicts and problems than my rational mind, which often doesn't have enough data to make a good decision. I am an animal, and my instincts have evolved to protect me and keep me safe for a lot longer than our species had rational thoughts and used logic to figure things out. Even if it doesnt' seen rational on the surface, in a way, it is.

Wow. I think this is the longest response I have made on this site... to date. I hope you, or whomever else may stumble across this finds it useful.

That was long, but good. All older men are messaging me on this site. I give one word or one sentence answer. I'm not a fool or falling for that again. I want someone my age and whom lives near me. I don't want a long distance or any sugar daddy. I preferably now want a girlfriend. I'm bisexual. I just got off work, sorry for the delayed response.

I've never had loving, passionate sex. Sex is just sex to me. It's all men want with me. A soulmate to me is a husband or wife to be with until death. I get stared at a lot at the gym or even at Wal-Mart. A man with with his girlfriend was checking me up and down. That isn't nice to his girlfriend. I just look ahead. Those guys are "boys." I want a man or a woman. Men only see my face on the dating apps. I used to post full body pics fully clothed and covered up and all the men kept asking for sex. I do workout at the gym a lot, for me. Not for men. I want to be healthy. I look 19, I know. Here on this site, in the messenger, only men message me. Idk why?

Men 20+ years older than me. No thanks.

Just a name we give to that perfect match among equals.

Yes, I am. Thank you.