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Has anyone seen the film Lars and the Real Girl? It is about a guy who turns to a life-sized doll to help him learn how to relate to people (not sexually). It’s charming. I wonder what qualities in others (people, not dolls or pets) you find necessary for building intomacy?

UUNJ 8 June 17
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It’s such a sweet movie. But also really sad at the core. Kind of like a fairy tale about mental illness.

Sydland Level 7 Oct 9, 2018
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Havent seen it yet but with regards to building intimacy all the usual suspects openess honesty humour

weeman Level 7 July 19, 2018
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I loved that movie!
I am drawn to independent, intelligent women with a good sense of themselves as well as humor. I need them to be very loving, with a healthy dose of empathy for people.
As I read this I know why I'm single, lol.

Electro68 Level 7 June 21, 2018

I would hope those qualities aren’t in short supply!

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I haven't seen it but after reading this thread I plan to look for it

HeraTera Level 7 June 18, 2018
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Loved that movie. Interestingly I am subscribed to introversion, autism, and intimacy groups on here and wasn't sure at first which group this was posted in!

Hihi Level 6 June 18, 2018
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It's charming, and done so beautifully. I thought the writing and the actors really breathed life into the character of Lars and his community. I loved it.

ashatan42 Level 5 June 18, 2018

I agree, well said.

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I have seen it and, at first, thought this is stupid. I was a captive audience and later changed my mind.

JackPedigo Level 9 June 17, 2018

I just noticed a new series on Netflix that is about a person being hired as a nanny for a wealthy couple that have a doll as child. Didn't get into the details but can look it up again.

@JackPedigo Whoa. That could be fascinating or horrifying

@UUNJ I haven't watched it. Too many other more interesting shows have come one. One, which is amazing (and it brings back memories) is called "the Horn" [netflix.com] Absolutely amazing and beautiful scenes of what is considered the world's most beautiful mountain. I once skied there and stayed in Zermat.

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I thought it was a great movie. Lars was portrayed as an adult with autism spectrum disorder having all the common characteristics........ fear of answering the door ........ reluctance to socialise......... social awkwardness......... 'inappropriate' social interaction........ fear of intimacy......... limited support network. I especially loved the way that the community and the therapist played along with the concept that Lars had a real girlfriend, even going to the extent of chatting to the blow-up doll at parties and giving it medical tests. It gave Lars the time and space to learn how to interact and mix with others. Unfortunately, that's not the way it happens in real life. People who are socially awkward are sadly ostracised and left to lives of loneliness and isolation. It was good to see (the fantasy of) family and community support!

Brunnion Level 7 June 17, 2018
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Intellectual intercourse. A mental click with another person where ideas are exchanged. Intimacy is mental/emotional first.

That does make it more fun

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Yes, I watched it and found it to be a moving film about how he learned to form intimacy and contact with other human beings. However, by friend thought it was perverted for me to watch it.

OldGoat43 Level 9 June 17, 2018

Perverted? That’s sad to judge someone for a film they choose to watch.

@UUNJ
It was a girl friend that was having a period of disagreement with me at the time. It never worked out, she left.

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Ryan Gosling! This was a good movie.

Also there are people who get Real Dolls to do things with.

RavenCT Level 9 June 17, 2018

@Cherie44 I watch the VICE Channel.
They've shown men who have relationships with Real Dolls.

Now it's our turn. (Actually the male dolls have been around a while too). They're working on AI for the Female dolls.

True. It’s an expensive ways to get one’s pleasure, but it’s not hurting anyone.

@UUNJ Yeah I'm fine with it. Prefer they not bring it to family dinners - but otherwise fine with it.

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