Have in mind that there is not much you can do to change opinion of someone without be obvious that you are doing it, and when you are trying to attract a woman, this obvious appearance will put them away, because it is clear that you are not showing yourself.

Do not try to conquer a woman by being nice. If you want a romantic (or even just sex) be clear on that, there are ways to be clear on that without disrespect.
If you want to be friend, go for friend, not for friend that maybe become love.

And if you want sex, and get denied, well, go away, cast your net elsewhere, fail fast and move on, don't waste yours and her time with a false friendship/niceness, that won't be cool even if for a miracle it works.

Any douche can pretend niceness for some time, anyone can add extra points on patience and self control once in a while. But do not let "nice" be your main characteristic, nice is a standard, is a blank characteristic, add some color on it.

Geez, it's like those punch cards at Starbucks or whatever... I suppose they think that after ten times they get the 11th one for free.

I love how angry his face too!! They get sooooo mad. For me it is usually a "meh, okay." Kinda deal. My ex-wife withheld a lot of things, sex just so happened to be one of them.

P.S. That last bit was not a major factor in our divorce.

i'll try to educate myself

And that's why they don't experience much of it - think it's somebody else's fault.