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I am not shouting at anyone in particular in caps below. I am shouting at a world gone insane, one that futilely imagines you can actually get to know someone via text. You cannot...ever. How many times have you texted for months only to discover in the first 3 minutes of a VOICE call that you are not compatible at all as friends, much less lovers? Or discovered deep layers of magic in friendship and romance totally unhinted at in text; and you are both wondering why the hell you didn't pick up the damned telephone 6 months earlier? One last point: People text so they can multitask, which means only a fraction of their attention is on YOU, and that is flat-out disrespectful, yet it has become commonplace! Grrr!!! If prospective partners won't chat on phone in two weeks of first contact, they probably won't and are using you and probably ten others as ego-stoking entertainment. Dump them.

Screenshot of my original rant below.

MoonTigerII 7 July 16

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Yes i hear what you are saying,lot of people just want to be friends and no more,so nothing is pushed,,most know they will never meet,,but as long as both parties are honest the illusion can be very rewarding to them,,Those who do want to go further do need to do some homework ,before getting to emotionally involved and that includes a phone call ,may not go any further but still can be on line friends and put your efforts other places

RoyMillar Level 9 July 18, 2019
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I do get my hopes up when I am able to connect with someone very well by text. Since I know that you can never ever tell until you meet in person, I make it a point to meet in person very soon. Otherwise you are wasting either precious quality relationship time or wasting everyone’s time when both of you can move on.

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You are just getting your shit out there ! Do your thang!

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You can put it out there , but don’t shy away from the responses , anyway I don’t need to debate but I guess you were just ranting 😉

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I've been a ham radio operator since I was a teenage. And I happen to be in a minority of hams who like CW, that is, making contact and "talking" via Morse code. I've told no less than a hundred people that texting isn't much difference from Morse. You have NO IDEA what a person is like from listening to his Morse...or reading his texts. No flying idea.

mischl Level 8 July 16, 2019

Great example! As a newbie I had torrid sexting manage a trois w two ladies until friend said one was using pics of Hollywood starlet... Could have been a 400 pound man... Learning curve! 😂😂

I disagree that you have NO idea, but it certainly is a very limited idea. I can usually spot a phish in 2-3 texts. I did have one relationship that was so much better in text than in person. Bit of a let down there.

@brainyactress Well, I agree. "No idea" is a bit strong. But not all that strong. Because, you may know SOME things from interpreting the texts, but there's a whole lot you don't know, AND many things that may be hidden or misrepresented.

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I blame the telephone. Or maybe the written letter. Human history has been a long march away from actual face to face communications. Ironically, the cell phone has increased people's belief that other people have any interest in what they are doing. This is in no way referencing the posting, because yes voice contact should occur after a preliminary digital get-to know period, but seriously, who are all these people on the phone while walking, driving, shopping, etc.? Are their lives so important they have to be in constant contact with others?

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I disagree that people just texting are using others to stroke their egos. But you and I come from different generations and texting to my generation is as common as phone calls were to your generation. And the generation prior to yours may have said that chatting on the phone, rather than in person, was incredibly rude and insane and kids these days are using telephones to prop up their egos. Food for thought. 😉

Not to mention, we are literally the only mammals that talk via telephone. So it is not a mammalian trait, but a homo sapiens sapien trait. That was funny on your end to phrase it that way. heh

You have some valid points. But each step forward in com tech is a step away from intimacy and that is the gist of my post. I'm not writing a book here, just a pissed off post. Call me if you wish to chat further, you cute little furry thang! 😍😍😘😘

@MoonTigerII He IS a cute lil furry thing! thanks for noticing... his nickname is scruffy <3 <3

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Text is no substitute for speaking on the phone or even face to face. I have a dear friend who lives across the country; thank goodness for Facetime, it's meant a lot for our friendship.

bleurowz Level 8 July 16, 2019
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Soon, face to face communication will be a lost art, kinda like composing a letter. I know of very few younger people that are capable of putting together more than two paragraphs.

nogod Level 7 July 16, 2019

Don't worry, universities and colleges still teach us how to write beyond 2 paragraphs. And that includes the engineers and math oriented majors, they are taught how to write essays/research papers all over again. All is not lost! 😉

@MoonTigerII people elsewhere in the world? Not to mention, community colleges are a thing. Did not realize your post was meant to be US-centric though.... tsk tsk typical american. ;p

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Face to face is the ideal.. you gotta work with what you got...

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No shit same here

bobwjr Level 10 July 16, 2019
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