One wonders how many men are sapiosexual? I think men go for looks over intellect unless they are really smart and have figured out looks fade. Do want to be stuck with a Barbie who cannot converse when looks fade or a woman who can hold her own?

@JustLuAnn I think most men would respond that they want both, although apparently there are men who have problems of one sort or another with intelligent women. But speaking for myself, I still haven't figured out exactly how to define intelligence. I have known women that were certainly as smart as whips in the way we usually define that, but then there was frequently something compromising the brainpower in some way, maybe just my bad luck. I did have a girlfriend once that made a big deal out of her intelligence and being in MENSA, and who liked to test me and match wits, but honestly could I say that the overall experience with her was better because of her IQ? Not really. True, every once in a while there is a woman that has very little interesting to say, but in my experience intelligence as it's normally conceived is probably less important than "personality" or "attitude," and that's one of those things that usually just comes down to chemistry, but in some sense can involve intelligence. Yeah, it's complicated. Looks, within certain limits, would rank third.

@Hugo_Stiglitz I have not heard of this Shallow Hal syndrome. I shall have to do some research. It's just a turn on to me that a man likes to hear me tell him what to do.

@MrJoyBoy mmmm Looks Third....Interesting....Here is my ranking of items:

10 looks
30 sexual chemistry
30 kindness
30 intellect

@JustLuAnn The inclusion of kindness is interesting and understandable, certainly, but it goes against the bad boy preference some women seem to exhibit. In the primate studies where bad boy attraction has been observed, the rationale sometimes offered is that, at least in ape society, uncaring behavior can reflect high status, since the dominant males have less motivation to behave in a manner appealing to subservient members of the group. But in human society kindness should be more valued, yet it seems to be a factor that is not mentioned that often. Maybe many of us still revert to our atavistic rules of attraction, but this disregard for such qualities seems to extend beyond romance in our culture, especially lately. Whatever happened to peace, love and understanding?

@MrJoyBoy Peace, love and understanding is a by-gone era.

Thank you, thank you. The lack of abilities for coherent communication among most of humanity is so annoying. I regard "Grammar Nazi" as praise.

@ToolGuy I do agree. I'm not willing to torture, starve, or otherwise hurt anyone, and I know too much about the holocaust to trivialize it. What term do you suggest? Grammar dictator? Grammar Protector? Persnickety about Grammar just doesn't measure up.

@ToolGuy I know!! It pops into your head at oh dark thirty and then sleep is gone for the night.

Surely they want more than that. Lol

@JustLuAnn I used to think so, but no.

@BitFlipper well i want more. Just trying to find someone to finish off this old world with....

@JustLuAnn I want more too. I've had it up to here {holds hand at forehead} with these platonic, non-physical relationships. Whatever happened to physical contact?

@BitFlipper Times have changed my friend. Times have changed.

Being rich is only a bonus. Its what is inside a person that counts. I'm not sure I would really get along with a rich guy. My lifestyle and friends are different. I'm more of a left over hippy wanna be witch kinda woman.

Is that like a generational trait? Because soo many young people have degrees and are intelligent, but most of us are poor or struggling. So, if a man is smart it is not assumed he is rich! hehe

@demifeministgal well most men who are sapiosexual that I have known are all engineers by trade....and yea they got money...Of course they also have wives LMAO

I believe it comes with age dear.

@JustLuAnn which is sad. I don't want get old for women to get it. Lol

Absolutely....I know people have thought me arrogant and bit@chy!!! Haha good point.

@JustLuAnn I try to learn as I read and when there are a lot of big words I lose interest. Sometimes moderation is the key.

Well I can see your point but it would have made for interesting conversation lol

@JustLuAnn I guess it could of, I just started dating an old friend, he is 100 a geek and I love it.

LOL

Its so totally sexy.

haha we should make a group called SapioSexuals

No

I've never know a truly smart bad boy. Oh they think they're smart but imo not so much.

Thank you kindly. I got busy this weekend myself and wow ..what a response.

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