I had two things happen that I thought of from this post. After my husbands celebration of life his one daughter came over to say goodby she attacked me saying she was taking some things and I was not stopping her.She screamed and stood over me / she did get a few things before I got her out of the house / I tried to tell her some things were not fully paid for ( I had to sort all that ect / bottom line My grief counselor had me cut all contact with her because I was in a very bad way/ after things got sorted I was very generous with his other daughter/ things I know he would have wanted her to have / to the deperment of myself. I still an not strong enough to deal with the other daughter ( both former marriage )
I had to pack everything and move back to the USA because he was all I had in my life there. I still cannot hook up his electronc equipment or computer as it’s filled with his music and I still can not even listen to his music as I fall to my knees gutted.. I have his shirts in a bin for now but want to make a quilt with them. I understand your meltdown totally just little things take me to my knees sometimes. Been trying to keep busy but it’s just filling time. It’s so nice to read everyone’s words and know what you are feeling.

I've given away or sold most of his things. I still have a few clothes after 2 1/2 years. Guess what? He had a bottle of 120 oxycodones and I sold it for $200 and 90 narcos and I sold it for $100. I had no need for them. So I'm going to jail!

Before my partner died a friend came over for a visit. My partner motioned for her to come into the bedroom. After a while I was wondering what was going on. They had emptied her closet of all her things to be taken to the thrift shop. I set aside a couple of items and told her she had to have something to wear before she died. She also got the local Domestic Violence awareness person to come over and take an inventory of her nice things.They were auctioned off at her memorial. She wanted to make the most of her things even after death. But yes, some things are still triggers.

Going on 2 years and still half his cothes...no idea why.

It took me two tries over a year and a half. Have someone help you, they can make the decisions that you are hesitant to make as far as keeping some mementos or re-gifting.

pain eases little by little

Keep at it....it’s better not to have constant reminders, at least that is my experience.