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I am an Apatheist rather than an Atheist but the effect is similar for my life. I love Nature and animals, gardening, cooking, computer word games, sudoku, Science, astronomy, neuroscience, walks in the park and by the seashore, and people and how they have come to believe the things they do. I am retired now, but still volunteer teaching English to refugees and immigrants here in Canada.

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I put 2 more pineapple tops into pots this morning. One of them I may have waited to long. It was ...
WalterWhite comments on May 5, 2018:
So that explains why my KFC chicken tasted a bit like pineapple last week. I thought they had a new sauce or something. :) Nice shots, but seems like a lot of time and work when pineapples are so cheap.
So I have lupus or some other inflammatory disease and I've been in a flare for a while now. My ...
WalterWhite comments on May 5, 2018:
From what I've read lupus does not cause depression directly, but coping with the various symptoms can, and also taking the corticosteroids can cause clinical depression. Depression is very treatable and lots of good idea out there for that. Be kind to yourself. hugs
Love and hate
WalterWhite comments on May 5, 2018:
Newton's Third Law applies to the motion of objects, not the wild unpredictable emotions and behaviors driven by love in human hearts! My view is that love can generate more love, and hate can generate more hate. :)
Only in Texas.... (random stuff around Dallas/Fort Worth)
WalterWhite comments on May 5, 2018:
Nice shots. So I see Texans are much like Hindus with cows wandering in their streets. :)
Is it 'wrong' to love more than one person at the same time?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
The idea of marriage forever has been steadily declining as the life expectancy has been rising, and Life has been getting more complicated. Modern young people are better educated and better connected socially to be aware of how so many "till death do you part" relationships actually fail for one reason or another. So to be more realistic and not have that unwanted pressure to stay with someone who changes over time to be someone they no long even like, they may go for 2 or 3 good shorter term relationships in their lifetime to be better fulfilled. We CAN know for certain that feelings, thoughts, and some parts of personalities WILL change because we all mature and evolve due to our own life experience. Often people can still stay together, and sometimes though they do drift apart, in which case it makes no sense to stay together and make each other's lives miserable. Better to go it alone, or take another spin of the wheel if the heart is so inclined. Just my ideas, and maybe others will have other ideas as well.
Does No Kids = Bad Person?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Only if you decide to think less of yourself about it. No need to compare yourself to others. I see no reason why it would be any "disadvantage" though, because the world is overflowing with children now that we do not have proper resources to look after. So you might be even be seen as good and responsible for not bringing kids into the uncertain and sometimes dangerous world we exist in. Well done, sir! But I think Rabbit was a poor choice of name if you do not plan to reproduce! :)
Humanity needs to be held accountable
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Held accountable to whom or what? History clearly shows that human beings do not live their lives thinking long term, and we are often driven more by hidden emotional and psychological needs rather than careful planning or considering the consequences 10 or 20 years down the road. On a smaller scale in a family fro example, people know each other and can make decisions and plans using available resources and addressing the main needs and hopes of that small group of individuals. As people gather in larger groups that is increasingly harder to accomplish and quite often imbalances and injustices happen causing conflict and even violence as people strive to get what they perceive they need. What the Christians often are unaware of is that abortions were not unusual in Bible times, but from natural ones from poor living conditions, and self-induced ones doing well known jumping exercises and things like tying ropes around the women's middle. Women could do this on their own, but sometimes a mid-wife could help. The idea of an unborn baby having a "soul" did not arise until much later in Christian thought. It is already too late to save the fast declining ocean bacteria which actually produces 50% of the oxygen in every breath we take. And deforestation continues in many many areas. We are safely in the hands of Mother Nature though who has already begun unstoppable actions, and if hundreds of millions of humans have to go, that will be little different than in the past massive extinction events one of which erased about 90% of all life forms on the planet. The long term view is that Life will go on and new species will evolve, but whether our species continues on is irrelevant to Nature. Trump is not at all concerned about life 20 or 100 years from now for Americans, because he won't be here.
If you could choose any weapon to have unrivaled mastery in, what weapon would you choose? Me: ...
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Magic wand :)
No one else in Canada?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
When you do your Member search specifying parameters you do have the option to set the distance to a max of 4500 km. The default might be low like less than 100 km or something leaving you only local people.
Jesus Saves...
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
My neighbor is the head of the local Mosque and they need a lot of woodworking redone, and a carved wooden motif of Mohammed flying to Heaven on his magic horse. I heard Jesus was familiar with Heaven and so he may be the man for the job. I know Allah is generous and would agree for sure, and I'm hoping Jesus' Dad would put differences aside and say it was okay just this once. As long as Jesus didn't go around saying he was the Son of God on this project, the other workmen would get along with him fine. Do you have Jesus' email so I could contact him?
Please tell me, is it Okay to post a pic I took and then 'dressed up' in Photoshop? like put the ...
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
We have some professionals here who do all kinds of wild things to their photos to get different effects. If you had made blue nasturtiums instead, many of us would be none the wiser and go looking to order seeds! It's a very easy going group. Have fun!
Is it ethical to teach Atheism to religious children?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Impossible to "teach" Atheism. Atheism has no beliefs, no doctrines, and no opinions on Creation, Evolution, morals, or how to make the best chocolate cake. It is only a personal decision a person comes to for their own reasons. You could teach skeptical thinking, logic, and sound reasoning though!
When a lie repeated so many time, people start to believe such lie as truth. But it is still a lie, ...
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
You mean a story is not true just because it says it is? Qur'ans and Bibles do have their uses though, such as being good as doorstops, and they also come in handy for starting your campfire. We are all genetically wired to favor an opinion that we hear from people we know and trust, over the truth we hear from a stranger. And we like stories which favor our personal biases and beliefs. So it is vital that when it comes to important things in Life, that we take the time and do the work to gather as much good evidence as possible from as many reputable sources as possible to get closer to having truth. Manipulation of social media is a real danger now used by the powers that be for their own self-serving purposes. You can always trust me though because I am not planted by the Russians. And I am not a bot, not a bot, not a bot. Error file not found. rebooting...please wait... please wait... okay now, What was I saying?
Is intelligence a curse?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Intelligence can be a curse if one has forgotten that heart overall does much more to make life worthwhile. I think Mother Nature would say that intelligence is an amusing experiment, but perhaps unnecessary and impractical. So that is why she has designed the system so the less intelligent will be the ones more inclined to do most of the reproducing to ensure that Evolution does not turn men into Gods and really screw things up.
Does anyone else hang clothes on a line to dry?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Not in winter but for the rest of the year yes, weather permitting. Also in chatting with Theists on media forums I have been known to hang a few of them out to dry as well.
Godchecker.com - Your Guide To The Gods
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Interesting. If I ever need one, I'll have a place to go to shop around. :) Looks like a decent reference source.
Why are atheists so certain there is not some sort of intelligent design?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
Certainty is not required, just using good common sense and the the best methods we have for learning about the world and Universe around us and how things work. Science does not prove things to 100%, and we judge things by the degree of accuracy, and for not needing any Intelligent Designer, we have a very high degree of accuracy on that. We see a lot of bad "design' actually, with the Universe being virtually 100% fatal to human Life! Just like the famous Watchmaker's false argument for God, which was soon debunked after it emerged a couple hundred years ago, still today we have no need of any magic intelligent intervention to have the Universe be just as it is naturally is. While intelligence is interesting and vital for us humans, intelligence in fact is not required at all in the Universe, and it seems to be one trait Mother Nature is experimenting with in a relatively small number of species. Here is a man who is much more knowledgeable than I speaking on how unremarkable intelligence is: https://youtu.be/bu7VulZUUdE
Anybody into The The?
WalterWhite comments on May 4, 2018:
I like the The better than Gaga or Lala or Zaza, but not as much as I like my Mama and Papa. Haha!
I just sat down in a United Airlines plane headed from DC to Newark, NJ. Next to me is seated a ...
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Anything but religion. Isn't it nice that North and South Korea are taking steps be get along better? instead of why does the Catholic Church spend millions on cover ups, legal battles and pay offs, instead of doing something practical and sensible about their centuries of sexual abuse problems?
I am having a couple of really bad days in a row. I'm aware of the source but it isn't helping. The ...
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
No comedy, no. Numbness to feelings is a standard part of more serious depression or from being in a depressing situation for a long time. You may not be ready to feel something yet. Been there done that. The idea of getting out for a run is great if that is something you get enjoyment from, and even a long brisk walk would help with the brain chemicals. Play with the puppies, make a food you like, watch some sci-fi. You are still getting over stuff, so be kind to yourself and the ups and downs are normal. If you have some cheerful friends chat with them or do some activity like a movie or meal once or twice a week. letting go of the past and forgiving yourself and others will make it easier to look forward again, but that you will do at your own pace. hugs
Mixed signals...
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Mild frustration and saying you did not take her feelings and ideas into account during the discussion. If you did and gave good reasons, do what you decided which she just agreed to let you do! If you didn't then backtrack and ask how important this is to her, and maybe to have you reconsider doing it her way or making a better compromise that she won't be so frustrated about. BUT if this is a common tactic she uses just to get her way, then you must be assertive and not give in too often.
Do Some Atheists Seem Superior?
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
People of all kinds can act superior and Atheism has nothing to do with it really. Truth is truth for all, but beliefs can be anything to anybody, and beliefs are open to interpretation and deceptive manipulation. The problem here is not Atheism or Science, but as you said bullying and acting superior. And again as you pointed out that is counterproductive and listeners just shut down hearing someone like that rant on. Religious belief is not really based on facts, logic or sound reasoning, so using ONLY those things when debating Theists is utterly useless. The underlying strength of religious beliefs is actually the feel good brain chemistry of how the beliefs in one god or another satisfies the person's inner and often hidden emotional and psychological needs. It's more like a mental addiction, and they will invent all kinds of deceptive excuses and interpretations to hold on to their comforting beliefs. Dealing with know it all people or those who aggressively act superior can be met with polite self-confidence and assertiveness, and just hold your position. It's okay to disagree. And to walk away from really hostile people of course. Hope others may offer some ideas too!
OK folks, this is where I'm at. On the trunk I tried the chainsaw, the handsaw, and the axe....Nope....
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
It's probably one of the species of ironwood and regular chains won't be good enough. You will need a carbide tip chain and take your time cutting through. This link shows the carbide tip chains are the only ones effective on ironwood. http://rapcoindustries.com/
Is it OK to be racist against white people?
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
I have never met another human being who is not the same race as I am, that being Homo sapiens. All 7.6 billion humans on the planet, no matter what color they are, or what hair type, or what their favorite chocolate bar is, are all in that one race of Homo sapiens, and all are 99.9% genetically identical. So I see no reason really to pretend I am much different physically in any significant way from anyone else. I did get that red sunburn once, but I still felt like my race remained the same no matter what color my skin was! :)
Substitutes for Religious Practices (1) Why wait for religions to decline more ? Why not start ...
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
In times of trouble or having worries that might keep me awake at night, I learned to place my mind in a state of thankfulness by remembering so many good times, nice people, and things Life blessed me with. So many times camping, wandering along the seashore, or through quiet forests, and even recalling past challenges that I managed to survive and deal with and to learn things from. Do this for 10 minutes or so and the brain chemistry gets more positive to help think up options that might not have come to mind when in a depressed state.
OK folks, this is where I'm at. On the trunk I tried the chainsaw, the handsaw, and the axe....Nope....
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Chainsaws do work on wood, so either the chain is very dull or the tree is actually a cement statue. Correction: I have added a new comment above on it probably being a type of ironwood and all you need is a carbide tip chain for your chainsaw. If that fails, you will just have to move to get away from it!
Is this me???
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Maybe. You may have to make a greater effort to make sure you have some of the popular qualities they might be looking for, like being reasonably healthy and fit, with a variety of interests some active, and some like cuddling at home watching a movie. And maybe be aware many women are self-sufficient nowadays and not looking for a man to look after them, but to be an equal partner and maybe not even want to be tied down to a marriage and they might find a good close relationship with few strings attached might suit their needs. With your interest in music and art, and your good nature and experience with having traveled many places, you do seem to have things to offer a woman who appreciates those things. Takes time and a bit of daring to chat with some possible matches to learn more about them. Maybe others will have some hints too!
Mind over matter
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Looks like some people with no mind going on that red light. :)
Is it better to legalize prostitution or keep it illegal
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
I'm in favor to make it legal as a regular business with standards for operation and safety for workers, and where health concerns are addressed as well as possible. I think we all know in most any large city there are places where these services are already offered as an alternative to finding women or men offering themselves on the streets. Modern technology is entering the picture for robot sex shops (such as in London and Paris) to go for a quickie throughout the day where STD's are no longer a problem. Also for those so inclined, cyber sex is now a reality where two people can stimulate each other rather bizarrely over the Internet. Let's hope there are no power surges.
Ah, 6.9... now, how to avoid 7.0 and higher? :)
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
To avoid it you must stop logging in and not get that 5 pts every day, and also stop interacting in comments. You are free to create a new email and make up a new name to join again of course. I'm 6.5 and so I need to ask why is Level 7 so scary for you that you want to avoid it?
If a true believer knows, without a doubt, that God is real and an atheist knows, without a doubt, ...
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Atheists do not KNOW without a doubt there can be no gods. And all Atheism says it that it is a they lack belief in gods, and for most Atheists that comes from a lack of finding any evidence that is convincing to them. I do hear some Atheists say, "There is no God" when speaking with Theists. But that is in the context of the Gods of Judaism, Christianity, Islam and those of Hinduism, all as being silly gods created in the image of man and even with many weak human attributes. I don't think an educated Atheist would assert there can be no gods as a general unknown or unknowable type god concept, because then they would bear the unprovable burden of proof to support that assertion. Agnostics also do not KNOW there can be no proof either way, and Agnosticism only holds to the philosophical position that gods are unknowable. Being unknowable means Agnostics can not KNOW, right? :) I am an Apatheist which is a different view, and I have no beliefs or disbeliefs in gods, and just live my Life the same no matter if they are real or not.
Any Collectors here? I collect various shit, coins for examle.Indian pennies 1900- 1920.
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
Great hobby! I would not known this was a real Apache until I saw the horse standing in a puddle of genuine Texas chili. :) I collected things in my youth like stamps and coins, which I felt helped me value things,and learn to keep things in order. But now that I am older I have let go of collecting anything but memories, but admit I lose some of those once in a while.
I thought it wise to share this important information with you.
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
I have been using that sin of math my whole life, but try as I may, I have never been able to figure out why so many billions of people trade cash on collection plates to hear the same dreams of a magic afterlife week after week.
fishies in the sky
WalterWhite comments on May 3, 2018:
If you could toss your fishing line high enough maybe you could catch one. Maybe attach it to a helium balloon? lol
Ok friends quick question one of my dipshits seems to of developed a cold of some sort...Before we ...
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Why would you take your cat to a vet just because it has a cold? Does it have some special weak condition that it would not recover on its own just like you do from a cold? Maybe issue with breathing or some other unusual symptom that has you concerned? It does look like the cat has the caws up in the eyes indicating there may be some pain though, you know it best and do what you think best. And pet insurance is a complicated thing depending on how much you are willing to spend and what conditions each type of policy covers. Purebred cats tend to have more health problems, so in that case it might be worthwhile if you do.
Population control
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Mankind is too short-sighted to do much about the reckless population growth problem. Some of the climate damage is now already irreversible. Despite the warnings and stats, there is no worldwide public willpower to do anything serious about population control. The good efforts of say 500 million will not hold back the worsening of the situation by the lack of efforts by the other 7 billion. But it's okay because the situation is in the hands of higher power! That of course is Mother Nature who is already setting the wheels in motion to restore the balance, and she has no preference for one species over any other for who will survive. Earth has had 5 major Life extinction events already in the past, and one erased 90% of all life forms. Should be an interesting next couple of centuries.
Is this still a dating site?
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
It is only a dating site for the people who are here for dating, and as you see by the Profile info a great many people are here just for friendship and conversation in the Community. The people who seek dates must still make the usual efforts to find dates making contact and having intro conversations with people. The great thing is seeing how people present themselves and how they reply to popular questions so you get to see if there is any chemistry between you. I don't think it's a "sit back and they will come running to your door for a one night stand " kind of dating site. But I have only been here a couple months so maybe others have better info for you.
“ Oh my god “
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Besides Trump you mean? Not sure.
Working with a professional model is always a challenge... here, playing with the light, 1.
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
I would think instead that working with a model who is NOT a professional to even know what is usually expected would be the challenge.
Should we demand/expect for respect?
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Neither. Respect is not something you can demand, and most often you can have it without earning it. Parents sometimes demand respect from their kids, when in truth they are asking obedience from their kids, and the kids still do not respect them if they deserve no respect, but maybe will obey. I love and respect all people, no matter who they are or what beliefs they have or not, or what culture they are from. I can love and respect the human beings without any need to love and respect their beliefs or their different customs in their culture. Just my weird view of things!
So why are women disgusted by men with...uuuhh, platinum (silver? gray?) hair? Just because we look ...
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Disgusted seems a but strong. It's normal personal preferences, and perhaps self insecurity if you have it. Women might not like men with grey hair, or no hair, or a big belly or bad breath or red hair or too many muscles, or badly dressed, or being too young, in the exact same way some MEN might not like women with grey hair or no hair, or a big belly or bad breath or red hair or too many muscles, or badly dressed, or being too young for them. It's okay to be older. :)
All right we have hit 100 members. @BobbieK is the 100th member.
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Just a few garden pics from recent years.
OK, @jasen how about this one? We don't have a mall, we don't even have a Target/Walmart. I had ...
WalterWhite comments on May 2, 2018:
Nice textures
On the advice of my therapist, I've started exercising regularly. He told me that exercise can help...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Exercise is very beneficial, but I do understand that it's hard to get motivated to get a routine going. It's great you did 10 minutes worth and yes, it is smart to start off slowly to let your body adjust to something new like this. When you work up to 15 to 20 minutes worth you might find your feel good brain chemicals kick in to make you mentally feel more energized and pleased with yourself, even though physically that can be more tiring. It's all good for helping the heart, and even helps you sleep better. Don't exercise in those hours just before going to bed though. Sounds like you are on the right track, so congratulations. :)
I see people complaining of too many messages and too much attention from people they don’t like....
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Well, speaking for myself I think it's because the only thing you and I have in common is we don't like overcooked meat. But if I was straight and 20 years younger that might be enough! :) This seems to be more of a Community for making cyber friends and having social contact with more intelligent and thankfully much less religious people about a lot of practical and interesting topics. People with various problems in their lives seem to come here for advice and support as well. They did just start up a Singles Group for those more interested in dating. Most of those compatible with me are many hundreds of miles away since mostly it is Americans here, and I am Canadian. If you are near a large city there are probably other local dating sites that might give quicker results for you. Guess you might have to send messages yourself to any prospective guys that catch your attention and catch their attention. Good luck!
Human issues
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Yes, and yes. I agree.
Love to see the interactive nature of these discussions. Frank and honest. I’m in awe.
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Yeah, we're probably being too open and honest, and we should try to be more like the popular role models on the Kardashians, in Hollywood, and in the White House. :) No awe for those!
A man in Toronto drove a van down a busy sidewalk mowing down as many women as he could. Last I ...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Men are protectors of their own families, and the more enlightened ones may be protectors of anyone who needs protecting. Women too can take on the role of protecting those who need protecting of course, beyond just their own children. Homocide is the killing of men, but over time it has broadened it's meaning to be for any human being. Femicide and gynaecide are both killing of women, but both of those are rarely used. Killing to me is an irrational immoral act from some misguided state of mind. Men kill about 6 times more often than women with some genetic and psychological factors probably accounting for that. Men more often kill for revenge, jealousy, just the thrill, or to cover something else up, whereas women most often kill for personal gain of money, property, or a misguided idea it is the loving thing to do. The news story on this van case says THIS killer was inspired by one of another man several years ago in California who was brainwashed in some extremist anti-feminism groups there. So this was also the actions of a brainwashed psychotic man driven nuts by a bad ideology, much like some men get brainwashed and driven to kill by misguided religious ideologies against women, gays and people in other religions. No excuse for murder like this. :(
It's never too late for ________ (fill in the blank).
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
For saying I love you to your dying parent.
Godless Vagina
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Goes for penises too. Please do not to chop pieces off to please GOD. Nature made them that way for good reason.
Religious friends keep sending me religious text?
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
You did say she was a friend, which means you should be free to express your feelings, and thoughts. You said you have only ignored the messages instead of being honest to assertively say the messages bothered you, right? Also, she may be doing it out of habit to some extent if she talks Jesus to everyone. So give her the benefit of the doubt, and speak up and tell her that it DOES bother you, and ask that she try to stop. Friends like to cooperate and avoid doing annoying things, right? So she deserves the chance to be asked and to try. Problem solved. But if she refuses, or soon falls back into the same annoying pattern, no matter how well meaning from her point of view, then she was not a friend in the first place. You have thousands of other people as possible friends.
Last night was a full moon. My grandson G and I were driving home when he asked this question: ...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Those are the main ones, but Uncle Google just told me that the Moon also helps stabilize the rotation of the Earth on its axis. With total darkness at night many nocturnal animals would not be able to see like they now do for hunting. Also humans could not see as well at night. What else can I say? There once was a time of no Moon, So romance was gone very soon, In dark they would huddle, But no light to cuddle, No kisses, no weddings in June! :)
Die for your beliefs?
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Living is always the right answer, because it gives you further future options. Believing is easy to fake anyway. If it were a more serious choice, like raping someone or killing them, I would prefer to die. But that would not be dying for my beliefs, but dying for my moral principles for whom I choose to be.
Free Will?
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
That is not free will. :) Free will is nothing like what you are talking about, which actually seems to be getting anything you want. You are talking more about having a magic genii with a million wishes, or being GOD I think! Free will is just being able to make your own choices for things that are possible in your Life. Go to work, or not go to work and take the consequences. Free will is different than DIVINE Will. :) Technically humans do not really have true free will in the sense people usually mean, but for practical purposes what we do have seems good enough to be free will for every day purposes.
Sam Harris - A Collection Of Arguments Every Believer and Atheist Should Know About - YouTube
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
This is interesting for non-believers, but Theists do not hold their beliefs so dear and take the stories on faith by basing things on facts, logic or sound reasoning. So that is sound arguments have very little effect on changing the mind of a Theist. I have had the better luck by connecting on an emotional and psychological level first, to bypass the built in distrust. Most often older people are too far gone being fearful and stubborn to reach by any method. But I have had some luck with a small number of educated younger people who still had open minds, and were willing to try to understand how they came to believe the things they do. The Socratic method popular with street epistemologists seems to be effective in some cases too. I love Sam's many books and great ideas, too..
Serene mornings on the farm with geese on the pond.
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Lovely photo!
Ok, my wife and I are separated but not divorced yet. We are working on the paper work for it now. ...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
You are not lost without her. I do empathize with your pain and it will take time for you to accept the reality that your love will not be returned. But maybe for now you need to focus on YOUR feelings and YOUR needs. Can't say how long it will take, but once fully apart it will slowly get easier. Especially if you take some steps to heal and explore adding new interests in your life. No need to go seeking dates right away. Make some effort to keep your body and mind healthy, and go for walks, spend time with other friends if possible for activities like a meal out, or a movie, or just chatting on other topics on the phone. It's okay to feel the pain or cry, but no need to wallow in it. Keep busy and trust that you still have possibilities for the future. In time I hope you might even the point of wishing her well to hope she finds what she wants and needs. I hope in time you will feel better. Just words from someone who has gone through this twice, and now looking for another chance! peace
My patient died, I held his hand as he went to sleep and told him we'd look after him. Surgery ...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Thanks so much for having a loving compassionate heart and doing what you could. Many things in Life are beyond our abilities and sometimes Life is not fair, it just is what it is. I know such platitudes do not stop the pain and are not very comforting. I have held the hands of elderly people dying while I worked in health care too, and sometimes I felt honored and thankful to be a caring part of their last hours when they had no one else in the world who cared. But for the death of a child, who has not even had a chance to experience much of life, the pain must be unbearable. Be kind to yourself. hugs.
Piggy-backing off of @thinkwithme’s and @Kojaksmom’s last posts: what about cyberlove and ...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
It's the 21st century people. They have devices to sexually stimulate each other over the Internet. STD free! LOL ! But definitely not my style, and I suspect cybersex in a real "relationship" is of interest to only a very small percentage of people. I try not to judge, but I crave a real body, sensual massaging, tender loving kisses all over, hugging and loving with real emotions and responses. Even cold feet or an occasional fart are part of the that real humanity, and I will never get tired of it. :)
Moon and Saturn
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Now, THAT's a great camera! Through the eyepiece of a 6 or 8 inch telescope I'm guessing. Oops I just read your comment below. Still a great pic and thanks for sharing!
Seeking adjunct or teacher advice- I’ve said before that I’m a teacher at a prison, and well, it...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
I know nothing about the rules and regulations, credentials and qualifications and institution policies and requirements and expectations for what you are doing. But I do know a lot about human psychology and mental stress. The chaos and stress and ineffective methods, bad working conditions, and mentally disturbed aggressive people you deal with, and being forced to give people grades they do not deserve, all add up to being way too much stress which is harming you mentally and possible physically with things like lack of sleep etc. I admire your integrity and dedication for trying to be a good teacher through all this. I can't solve your problem, but from an outsider's view I would suggest if you can't resolve your working conditions and grading methods with your supervisors this will just get worse and worse till something snaps. It's great you are asking for advice and help. For your own sanity you may have to consider other employment options or moving to a different area to use the good skills you have. In Asia and other places they crave English teachers and pay them well and often give them free living accommodations. But I expect you have ties and responsibilities to keep you where you are. Hope that was of some help anyway.
Had my first asparagus of the year tonight. Lightly brushed with olive oil, sprinkled with garlic ...
WalterWhite comments on May 1, 2018:
Wonderful. Brings back memories of when I had a much larger garden and had a square about 10 ft x 10 ft of it. Loved seeing the red berries on the female ones.
Only reason to live?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
No, that would be a secondary reason at best. My reason to live is primarily to fulfill myself as a human being and be who I choose to be. An important part of that involves my relationships with others in my family and friends circle, as well as concern for the extended circle of mankind in general, and the environment. Living only for someone else would be a dysfunctional codependent situation at best.
A beautiful skyline scene
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Bet there will be quite an explosion of steam when it hits the water. A shame the Sun decided to go down on the wrong side of the horizon trees. A lot of crazy things happening with Trump in office.
Hedonism ;the ethical theory that pleasure (in the sense of the satisfaction of desires) is the ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
It's a false, but perhaps an attractive idea to some people. The purpose of life is to survive and to thrive for every species, and for humans part of that thriving involves doing unto others and cooperating in order and peace MOST of the time to ensure our survival. If a high percentage of humanity did nothing but please themselves, that would not be good long term obviously. I have no problem with people treating themselves and celebrating life to the full sometimes of course. I think we need diversity and challenges in our lives to feel alive. :)
Hedonism ;the ethical theory that pleasure (in the sense of the satisfaction of desires) is the ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
It's a false, but perhaps an attractive idea to some people. The purpose of life is to survive and to thrive for every species, and for humans part of that thriving involves doing unto others and cooperating in order and peace MOST of the time to ensure our survival. If a high percentage of humanity did nothing but please themselves, that would not be good long term obviously. I have no problem with people treating themselves and celebrating life to the full sometimes of course. I think we need diversity and challenges in our lives to feel alive. :)
Politness and Courtesy
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
I'm Canadian, so it is compulsory for us to be polite or they take away our maple syrup and hockey sticks.
"“THIS IS COMPLETE LAST DAYS DECEPTION! There is nothing wrong with stretching, or being still to ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
If they want to invite Jesus, I guess that's okay. But seeing a zombie skeleton that died 2,000 years ago walk into a classroom to do Yoga exercises might be somewhat traumatic for the younger kids. Might be okay at Halloween though when everyone is dressed up weird. Maybe the Virgin Mary should be invited too, if she's not pregnant again.
Don't remember what this plant is, but I love the purple! Played hookey from my job search and ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
I have a hellebore like that with lighter pinkish-green blossoms. Got is as a gift in November and had to keep it inside all winter and it bloomed steadily. Yours has richer colors!
If you want light to come into your life, you have to stand where it's shining.
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Or if you are in the darkness you can let your light shine to help others see.
A beautiful skyline scene
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Fake.
Work today.
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
So you have got the job of Foreman down pat I see. I hope they bring you coffee and donuts later like you told them.
Hello everybody, Yet again, I feel like a fish out of water. I've suffered from severe Agoraphobia ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Sorry to hear you are dealing with so many confusing conditions. It sounds like you are a person who has many health issues and who also happens to be an Atheist. I think the people here are just normal people like you with various mental troubles and conditions too, and not medical experts to direct you on actually treating your conditions. I suppose you have looked into joining a support group in your area to be able to share your feelings and experiences in a safe and supportive place. They can't solve your problems of course, but it's good to hear how others with similar issues manage to keep some sanity and get through each day. I hope others here who have your conditions can offer more practical ideas than, I have been able to. hugs
Replace one word in a movie title with bacon and go...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
A Fistful of Bacon, Brokeback Bacon, Fifty Shades of Bacon, Close Encounters of the Bacon Kind, The Bacon Hunter, Bacon Hard, The Lion Bacon, Love Bacon, Pretty Bacon, Call Me By Your Bacon, The Bacon on the River Kwai, Full Bacon Jacket, The Thin Red Bacon, The Bacon Whisperer, Rosemary's Bacon, Harry Potter and the Deathly Bacon. Invasion of the Bacon Snatchers :)
How come most people don't feel sorry when a fish dies?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Humans are strange creatures with illogical biases and strange psychological ideas. They will cry if a newborn kitten dies, if a dog gets a broken leg, but could care less that 1,000 highly intelligent pigs were slaughtered to give their city tasty pork chops for their BBQ's on the weekend. Most suffering cats and dogs with illnesses and injuries would more humanely be euthanized the same as is logically done with non-pet animals. But humans get attached to things like pets, and anthropomorphize them with human attributes the animals actually do not have to the extent the owners imagine. Well, except for the Siamese cats that I had as pets, because they were so smart. And I knew they loved me, and I could tell what they were thinking sometimes by their expressions, and of course they understood every word I said!
I say oh hell yes. My intuition said no. What is this thing,where does it come from,why is it ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Most of us are totally unaware that our little conscious minds have a silent partner, the larger MASTER brain subconscious mind, that works 24/7, never sleeps, is aware even under anesthetics, and is in charge of all vital body functions, is directly connected to all our senses, and has control over all our memories. And it actually makes a lot of our so called "free will" decisions for us before we know we have decided. This silent partner works at 10 times the speed of our smaller thinking mind, and we ONLY are aware of the outside world through interpretations that IT makes from analyzing data from memory, our life patterns, and sensory information. If we mess up that complex brain chemistry function in our hidden MASTER brain by taking alcohol, drugs, or by being affected by things like strong emotions, religious indoctrination, trauma, or illness etc, it can malfunction. Then it can send a false interpretation of the outside world to our consciousness, and we see and experience weird things like drug trips, euphoria, having people in a room look more attractive than they really are, feeling the holy presence of Allah or Jesus, seeing ghosts, or our long dead parents, and so many other things. Thankfully, our deeper MASTER brain works very well most of the time, and so quickly and seamlessly in our lives that we are not even aware it is there looking after us, guiding our every step and watching out for us. It sees that car speeding towards us before we are consciously aware of it, and it has already sent messages to our muscles to get out of the way before we can think what to do. And yes, it can give us hints that we call intuition or gut feelings that we do not understand. Have you thanked your MASTER brain lately for all it does? lol
[google.com] I guess I missed the window. Ah well single forever. There are worse fates.
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
I think you have finally reached an age and gained enough life experience to know what you want, and honed your skills and developed good qualities to offer, and now you are better able to see more clearly through your window, than you did long ago through naive eyes and an inexperienced mind. :)
Is There A Singles Group Here?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Clicking the Meet tab gives you the Groups option to see the many dozens of Groups available and by clicking the "Next" at the bottom of each list you will see there is a wide variety. I saw a few like Tamp Singles, and an NYC group. Many individual States have their own local groups too. Just by participating in discussion groups you come across people you connect with in some way and you can always check out anyone's Profile to see what they are looking for.
Are there other married people on this site?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Of course, and a great many come as stated in their Profiles "for Community" instead of dating. And a few married ones do come for the dating too!
What It's Really About.
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
It's funny though that the money does not get deposited in God's account in the Vault of Heaven, but most ends up in the Clergy's pockets. Two things every Supreme Omnipotent Being are incapable of doing are creating their own Word of God books on their own, and creating money to support their own religions.
Religious exodus post discovery of anti-aging?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 30, 2018:
No, from looking into this over the years the Neuroscience and Psychology says mostly it is hidden brain chemistry, and it works like a strong mental addiction over time to satisfy the believer's inner emotional and psychological needs. The "Parent Attachment" even for adults is a hidden craving for a higher power to watch over them, love them, guide them and bless them sometimes like Mommy and Daddy used to do. Also, they get an extra kick of feel good brain chemicals like dopamine and serotonin when gathering in worship with other believers, which reinforces their beliefs and addiction to return. The religious indoctrination happens by using time-tested methods like repetitious rituals, sermons, and reading monotonous verses, and chanting or singing etc. It's highly effective to place vulnerable minds in a semi-hypnotic receptive state. Humans love rituals and are fascinated by the concept of supernatural things as well. No wonder over 5 billion have fallen victim to it.
What Step Have You Reached Today?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
I think I am on all those steps most every day. And by thinking hard and checking if something rings true in my heart or not, I'd say sometimes my very top step is a confident, "I refuse to do that! :)
Wanted to let this group know first that we just added some more options for our non-binary members....
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
I have only found one important label that applies to all, and that is human being. Then if something comes up in a conversation related to if I am gay or trans or Spanish or asexual or British or female, or a Chinese food lover, then I make a point of explaining further on that point if needed. I am a gay male, but I have no need to wave signs or introduce myself that way to anyone, and I could care less if they thought I was straight or not a male. I do see that the specific labels are good for talking about things specifically related to trans topics, or asexual issues, but like you say it gets very complicated trying to please everyone to get them all included in special ways. If people could get past thinking they must have a special label which everyone else must acknowledge and use, to be able to interact with them, then they would be much further ahead in showing their special label is not as important as the common humanity between them and everyone else to engage in everyday conversations and activities. Just my view and I welcome being told I am way off base if there are some good reasons behind it. Very easy going myself. :)
Okay. so I am still new to this atheist thing. How long does it take before I will no longer dread ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
It is normal to fear death to some extent and some people do so more than others. We hate the idea of ending the joys and challenges of life and losing contact with those who mean so much to us. But like the changing seasons it is beyond our control. But consider for a minute what YOU were like, about one year before you were even conceived? A state of non-existence. So for a while we as individuals, get to experience life just like every other species does, and we as humans have some consciousness, so we can have complex lives with ups and downs and do the best we can. The time will come when our systems and biochemistry fails and that consciousness will no longer be able to exist, and like the RAM on a computer, no electrical energy will remain to manifest it. So again, YOU, your sense of self, and consciousness will again be non-existent. Death is not peace like we hear so often, or feeling no more pain and suffering, but in truth just non-existence with no thoughts or feelings at all. And because it is normal and natural and we have no alternative anyway, for me I do not waste to much time losing sleep over it. Maybe that comes from having led a rewarding life, and feeling fulfilled spiritually to be content and at peace. I admit I do feel sad when children or young people die without having had much chance to experience life. While we ourselves must die, humanity goes on, hopefully enriched a little by things we did and thoughts we passed on to others in so many small ways. While we are limited, Life itself is virtually eternal, but not in a religious sense.
God is a concept...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
Sounds like a non sequitur.
Twitter and children's' sex ed! [buzzfeed.com]
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
Children deserve to be told the truth in age appropriate language and ways as soon as possible. Those parents who chose not to have that right for THEIR children, but generally have no say for what most other parents think best. Vagina and penis are not "bad" words, any more than gall bladder and rectum are.
I found this in the dining room........
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
Say no to drugs. :)
Trump Greatest Job Creator?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
He's making a lot of hard work for people to fix his mistakes, just no decent jobs. No surprise of course.
This is a part of sign makers "pin wall" after years of painting projects on it. The entire wall ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
So a work of art in itself! Nice. I say sell it to the downtown Mall for 10 grand. :)
At what level should this group be accessible?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
Are you planning on dividing the groups into elitists depending on what color star you have? Are we not all ordinary people from diverse backgrounds wishing to share our experiences and give support and answer questions for people?
Howdy, I am looking forward to good and meaningful conversation with fellow lgbtqa people. I wish I ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 29, 2018:
I live in Canada, in an urban area, and now there is practically no "danger" as such at all. I would not say things are perfect and there still is some homophobia I guess, but nothing like what I saw in my youth say 40 years ago. I am gay, but was rather fearful and wimpy and tried to fit into what society expected of me and did have a 20 years marriage which was rather good actually. I have a wonderful son from that, and by chance he way gay as well and came out to me first, at age 18, which was after I had come out to my family and the world in a more shocking way a few years earlier. Life is complicated! Both both my ex-wife and I did find a new man in our lives about a year after we separated. And again I had a great loving and fulfilling 12 year relationship with the guy. For various reasons we did decided to part though a few years ago, and are still best friends. Maybe I am greedy but at 69 I am again searching to find that closeness and bond again still having a craving to hold a guy in my arms to cuddle, and cherish faithfully. I will need a local person, but this Community is great and I enjoy speaking with many people regardless of orientation here on many topics and hope to make a few cyber friends here at least. I do hope you also will find your way to reach your goals of having the love and relationship you need and deserve. Good luck!
Brain science has always been fascinating to me. My field of work focuses on the developing child, ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 28, 2018:
I meditate and take time to be thankful to have peace, do the hardest sudoku puzzles I can find, eat nutritious food, try to get good sleep, exercise moderately, take CQ10, have a sense of humor, let go of anger and resentments, maintain a positive attitude, keep a wide variety of interests, have some close honest relationships, stay curious and in awe of the wonders around me, enjoy my hobbies, and play some fun computer games.
Phones have come a long way
WalterWhite comments on Apr 28, 2018:
Yes, now E.T. can finally call home by texting instead of paying high charges.
Trying so hard not to flip on a friend.
WalterWhite comments on Apr 28, 2018:
Disagreeing with someone is different than discrimination AGAINST someone. Discrimination involves unjust or prejudicial actions based on things like race, age, gender or orientation for example. You can freely disagree with someone for very good non discriminating reasons.
Good Morning from Dallas Texas I just joined your group ! I look forward to having some ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 28, 2018:
Welcome, and I think you will find the discussions and topics here interesting. Feel free to offer your input, and some ideas and wisdom from older people are appreciated because they have had more life experience and had to deal with these same issues. It was a bit tougher in our day for older gays like you and me when even holding hands or admitting at work that you were gay was met with shock or being socially ostracized. I have a gay son who is now 36, and had few problems after he came out. He has been married to a great guy for over 12 years, and they have had a lot of support from family and friends for their relationship from the beginning. Being gay is less of an issue here in Canada now, but things are not perfect fro sure. We still have a ways to go to bring more enlightenment into some minds.
This one I call morning wood. Lol Thats a pallet that washed ashore and was stuck in the rocks.
WalterWhite comments on Apr 28, 2018:
I guess a sunrise can even get wood excited sometimes.
Does anyone have a ; tattoo? I'm considering getting one for myself, but I don't want to call ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 28, 2018:
Personally I have never seen much purpose to tattoos anymore than a decoration like a new hat or ring or wearing colored contacts. I have no problem at all with those that do if they have some need to, but I am not my body or the decorations or lack of decorations on it. I am just me, the person inside, the consciousness and the one who has the love and knowledge and life experience that is truly what others will be making contact with if they want to know me. Having worked with looking after many seniors in the last years of their lives I did see a few tattoos from earlier in their lives. They were more likely to try to hide their sagging dragons, roses, and star shapes that were all distorted. But again I want to say I fully support people's right to have them. I have seen some that were very impressive and the 3D ones can be awesome and sometimes scary! https://youtu.be/K-1tyIYxAPo
Can anyone see this post?
WalterWhite comments on Apr 27, 2018:
Can I see your post? No, I don't see anything. Oh! Just a sec. There! I can see it now. I had my eyes closed! :)
"Imagine that super neuroscientists have created a machine that can simulate pleasurable experiences...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 27, 2018:
Yes, I do not want not go in. But my reasons only apply personally to me, and I freely support the rights of others to go in if they want to. I have lived long enough to comprehend that my humanity and being the person I choose to be is much more than me being in any state of permanent perfect happiness, real or not. Happiness is not my goal in life, living fully in Reality no matter what it brings is my goal. That is in fact why when Theists tell me how great Heaven will be I tell them, no! l think I would soon find being happy for an infinite period of time to be an utter Hell for me, by being inescapable and unchangeable. As a human being I think I need challenges and problems, and people to help, and mountains to climb, and my heart aches to heal, and sunsets to see, and surprise gifts to open. An inescapable endless joy seems very inhuman and terrifying to me. Sorry, I do not want to be hooked up to a pleasure Matrix no matter how real it might seem. :) I want just want be who I already am, content and at peace in my heart being an imperfect human being.
I usually avoid sharing my issues online, but some how I've managed to get this far in typing this. ...
WalterWhite comments on Apr 27, 2018:
I think Ancient Night gave you a couple good ideas, and that meditation one is worth as shot. Just focusing on your own breathing in and out, and whenever your mind brings up stray thoughts, memories, or feelings, just let them go and come back to focusing on the natural breaths in and out again. It gets easier and better with practice, maybe just 10 minutes a day or more if you wish to help maintain a clear mind. I do not pretend to know what it is like to have an HFA mind, but i see on YouTube and online there are helpful videos and ideas available to look at. I expect a local support group of understanding people would be best, but I also found a Facebook Asperger's group where they chat and share helpful videos. Have a look if you think it might be helpful to you. https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachautism/?hc_ref=ARTdWLxl-Ai2V6Le2f0RiXM3khzylE4AzdDstLyLNHWZhh_h9V4MXKFQqk-yDG6M-wU=nf
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