I would be looking around for another group.....

Myself, I've always felt that polyamory sounds great in theory, but rarely works in practice. I have a friend I've known FOREVER, who is now into polyamory after her second divorce, and she enjoys it, but she's one of those who is always about drama. I love her but that's no who I am.

Real-world emotions vs. theoretical situations tend to end up in tears. I'm working on my second divorce and wouldn't say no without a specific situation being proposed, but if you're not honest up front, nothing is ever going to work.

I try to be open minded but Polygamy is not something I can be open minded too. I just don't understand it.

I fell head over heels for this one guy, and I found out the hard way that he was polygamous. I found out he fucked someone else when he went on a trip thanks to one of my best friends that went there as well. It made me so angry and completely broke me. I confronted him about it and he said he was polygamous. I might have taken it better if he had told me right from the beginning but he said he didn't tell me because he was scared he was going to lose me. I don't think he actually cared at all, but he lost me, for not telling me. Either way it would have ended sooner or later though, because I cannot share when it comes to the intimate affection and attention of a significant other. They are mine, I am theirs; do not touch inappropriately or flirt or feel up on my man, unless you want to end up in intensive care. I tried with him once more, but I couldn't do it. I'm just too territorial, I guess.
But to those who can do it, props to them, I suppose. All the more sex and loving and attention.

A friend of mine is into that kind of thing, but it's not for me. I don't have any problems with her lifestyle, and while we have a ton in common (we've been friends for more than 30 years!), we don't share this. It makes her happy, and I'm happy that she's happy.

I joined an atheist Meetup a few years back in my area. It was organized by a couple of hardcore libertarians... and while we had points of agreement, we also had points of disagreement. It became more of a political rally than an atheist group. So I left. It was also in a city almost an hour away. I wish I had the courage to start up my own group here in my town, but I don't.

I think it comes with a lack of christian belief and realizing that you don't actually own another person. When my wife and I married we knew that we were going to be monogamous for the rest of our lives. However after 7 years we renegotiated and became ethically non monogamous though we were both emotionally monogamous until her death 7 years later. It was a lot of fun playing with other couples but never without each other present. It required a lot of communication and total honesty and that bought us closet together.

Poly relationships sound EXHAUSTING

I personally agree, I've been in both types open relationships have never worked out for me. My girlfriend was bi and I was "young and open minded". It's not a life style I'll ever invest in again.

How pretty did she have to be for the rest of it tobe insignificant?

Interesting, one of the local groups near me is also run by poly people. It does kind of throw off the message a bit for people unaccustom to such lifestyles.