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If you had a nonreligious close friend who decided to become a believer and practice their faith would you remain a close friend?

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CreativeTN 5 June 10
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This isn't a yes/no question. There is a lot of grey area.

mt49er Level 7 June 10, 2018

you are so right! Depends how far off the deep end they go!

Agreed. I think most people are just voting the way they lean. It's neat to see the numbers.

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To me, it is not about what anyone believes, it is about how anyone behaves.

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If they are trying to convert me and babbling religious bs, I would not be able to remain friends with them. Otherwise sure, I would not abandon them.

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I have many friends that are very religious and many that are like me and do not believe but we are all very tight as friends! They know my beliefs as I know theirs and we have been close as we served in the military together and spent a good part of our lives together. We may have different views on religion but we will always be brothers and don't let religion get in the way.

That's awesome! I'm the same way without the military bond. Actually many of my friends are religious. However, most of my very close friends are not or do not practice their religion in a fundamental way. Hey... good for you and your friends. It does have to be the end all be all as long as everyone is respectful.

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Absolutely!!! As long as they didn’t try and force their shit on me we could be good.

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It depends on whether they wanted to continue to be my friend. I don't have any kind of religious test for my friendships, and I do have some Christian friends. But there are some Christians who have not wanted to be my friend because they are not comfortable being close to anyone who does not believe like they do.

It depends on whether they wanted to continue to be my friend. I don't have any kind of religious test for my friendships, and I do have some Christian friends. But there are some Christians who have not wanted to be my friend because they are not comfortable being close to anyone who does not believe like they do.

Since you said it first and better than I, I simply stole it!

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As long as they don't become an asshat, why not?

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As long as they didn't try to convert me.

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No, had it happen and got sick of the "devil is making you not believe" and "Im praying for you"

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It's happened. I was dumped without saying anything negative, just for refusing to attend Church.

That's terrible. 😟

@CreativeTN Probably better for both of us in the long run. I did get tired of hearing, "I love Jesus. Do you love Jesus. You should love Jesus." 😀

No doubt. It can't work that way. I don't smack my religious friends in the face with "How can you believe in and imaginary God? You should be a nonbeliever." In fact, I don't even think it. Everybody finds the path that fits them best. Fortunately, my religious friends don't try to save my soul either. 🙂

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Of course.
My friendships are not based on religious beliefs.

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Of course. Why wouldn't you?. What's changed? To ostracise someone on religious grounds is a JW thing to do!

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Most groups require converstions so ... no.

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Of course, that would have nothing to do with anything else but our friendship.
Most of my close friends are religious, we get along great. ??
I cherish my friendships.

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Yes, I would continue to be friends. If they made it an issue, they would be ending the relationship by allowing religious beliefs to come between us.

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Probably not. Had this happen years ago when a friend suddenly wanted a become a Mormon. Out of the blue. Then everything focused around that conversion. Was very strange and uncomfortable.
To this day I have no idea what drove her to do that, and we lived in suburbia Jersey where there's practically no Mormons. We eventually just drifted apart....

That's really too bad. Sound like you did your best but they just put a belief system above loving a friend. Not good. Sorry you had this experience.

@CreativeTN Thanks. Yea kinda sad, but it is what is. We move on.

Yep... agreed. 🙂

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So long as they respected my desire to to hear about it or were willing for me to disagree openly with their expressed opinions.
However if they start telling me I am going to hell, or am a sinner, then we will have a problem.

Agreed

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I have very religious friends that stood by my side after I became an atheist, so I don't see why I shouldn't stand beside my other friends if they choose to follow a religion. Our friendship should be bigger than belief, or the lack thereof. Now, if they started trying to preach to me, the friendship wouldn't last very long.

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Wow! I'm enjoying all the varied perspectives on this topic. You guys are awesome!

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My oldest best friend is very, very religious. She knows I am not. We both know that we are both good people. I would walk through fire for her.

Deb57 Level 8 June 10, 2018

Beautiful!

are you really a good person if you need a belief you had to be a good person to go to a place that is good after death or if you screwed up you go to a place called hell and be in enteral misery after you die? Are they really a good person or just scared? Were good atheist know no such places exsists and still be good just because its the right thing to be and do.

@benhmiller Maybe I'm a Pollyanna, but I think most people are more moral than the gods they worship.

"I would walk through fire for her."

Well according to her beliefs you're going to have to.

@LenHazell53 Well, that would be ironic, wouldn't it? Fortunately, where I'm concerned, it's only my beliefs that matter.

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I don’t choose my friends based on ethnicity, or orientation and instead base it in musical taste🙂

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I had this happen a few years ago. She was one of my best buddies too. I don't know what happened, but she was so about face-gung ho on it all she started trying to convert me. We haven't talked at all since.
I'm a live and let live kinda gal. But honestly, it's hard to remain pals when they're devout.

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I actually lost a lifetime friend of 35 years to her Catholic Church.

Was it due to your rejection of her, or her rejection of you?

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I voted yes, but it is with caveats. How close is this friend? Will they become annoying when drinking alcohol/caffeine or start being irritating at restaurants with lots of new dietary restrictions? Will they start saying “blessings/inshallah” frequently in sentences? Will they suddenly say certain identities are “an abomination before god”? Will they want to say grace and hold hands at my dinner table? I don’t dislike people because of their beliefs- I have many beloved people in my life who have faith- I just don’t want my tolerance tested.

Livia Level 6 June 10, 2018

I totally get where your coming from and considered those things too. From my perspective I would likely remain friends but might not be as close if it wan't an enjoyable experience. I have very liberal and very conservative friends but they typically know when enough is enough. If they didn't I would likely be there for them if needed but wouldn't seek them out. Now, if they become judgmental of my lifestyle the friendship would definitely suffer. Good comments Livia!

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I would, but I don't know if it's reciprocal. In fact, a good friend recently became JW. I'm not sure what to expect, but I doubt our friendship will survive this. ?

Expect to see her outside the train station, smartly dressed, smiling with copies of Watchtower!

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