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People say forgive and forget, I say forget about forgiving and just accept.

GaryShimell 3 June 12
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I think, there are nobody helped by your forgiving..there are you! 😉

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I think acceptance is the important key, at least for me. I can't forgive certain things, but I can accept them for what they are, learn from them, learn to let it go, and move forward...

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I may forgive but I don't forget.

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They only person being hurt by unforgivingness is the person who is holding onto to grudge. That other person is out there living their life and not losing a minute of sleep.

GwenC Level 7 June 12, 2018
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You are so right!!!! I have had people in my life that I will never forgive. The best I can do is not to give them any head space and live a happy life. I wish I could say karma will get them but it but I doubt it will. Some people are just unforgivable.

I don't know if I forgive - if it means accepting that someone abused me, walking away from the abuser and living a decent life, then I suppose I forgive ... I would rather use the word acceptance. The bullies who drove me out of jobs, out of neighborhoods and out of schools ... they caused me so much pain and financial hardship that I resent them when I think about them. I just avoid thinking about them. They will never feel remorse. They will always look at themselves in the mirror and smile. It is better just not to think about them.

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Let it go☯️

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I don’t know that I’ve actually forgiven anything just accepted what happened. I don’t forget. Forgetting can lead to more hurt.

you are so right!!!

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If you don’t make negative judgments in the first place you won’t have to forgive. To forgive is to allow your mistaken judgments to be corrected so as to recognize the beauty and value of the person with whom you had a grievance.

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I don't believe in forgiveness. At all. That's a complete load of sentimental bullshit.
You either get over whatever it is, or you don't.
There is no forgiveness.
Or forgetting.

right on

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Forgive and let go of it, is probably a better way to think about it. I don't forget. It would result in being taken advantage of more often than not. At the same time, I don't hold past transgressions against anyone. I'm in control of who I associate with (well, for the most part), and I simply disassociate from people who are chronically toxic or hateful toward me. That's not holding anything against them, it's just healthy interpersonal boundaries.

there are so many excellent comments. I really liked yours.

I don't know if I "forgive" - I do know that "letting go" is healthy. To think about the people who have bullied me, it is like letting them live in my mind rent free. Raise the rent and evict them ... and walk away from bullies.

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