Do you have to lead a structured life ?
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What do you mean by "a structured life"? Sticking to an organized schedule or routine? Living by others' rules? Not being too spontaneous?
I live cautiously, even conservatively in a lot of ways, but I'm far from being conformist in my behavior, e.g.:
No SEX??
@BucketlistBob ’Tis overrated.
Nope... you can pick up and leave anytime you want if your rich and famous like me..... yeah right?. Or you can be structured and plan everything down to the last detail.
There are no rules in how to go about this. ???
I assume I have to, if no other reason than I am a high school science teacher. I live by bells and schedules. It used drive my ex- nuts and I can't say I blame her. She liked unplanned spontaneity (sorry, redundant) and my structured lifestyle contrasted with that. I am a softer style of Type-A personality. If I am not at my appointment 5 min. early, Im already late (for example).
I can understand that. ?
I have to, because I'm so scatterbrained and live inside my head so much, that I need structure to keep me grounded.
Not since I retired the military but a living in partner changes all that.
Thank you for your service, sir!
@TheGreatShadow You welcome. Best decision I ever made.
Not anymore! The nest is empty and I'm retired. I always hated structure and now I can avoid it. It's great, although I think it rattles some people. I eat what I want when I want -- seldom 3 meals a day. I sleep when I want and when the dog allows it. I binge watch TV shows, sometimes several times in a row. It's blissful.
Hell no ! I am retired damnit !
No need for structure. ?
@Wildgreens
Thats right, no need for it and don't think I ever aporoved of it either ?
If you mean do I have a routine for my days, then not particularly, outside of getting up on time, getting the kid sorted for school and getting to work (and the reverse in the evening).
If you mean do I prefer to live chaotically or with a basis of security — home, income, stability for my wife and child — then I absolutely need the structure and stability, or I'd feel beside myself with anxiety over meeting my responsibilities.
But if you mean having a plan for life... Hell no. My head and my interests are too scattered to have ever had any idea where I'm steering this particular ship.
My unstructured life involved lots of driving and exploring New Mexico, Louisiana, Texas. I would just get a whim and drive there. I wasn't rich, so I had to find work and make opportunities. Then I got frustrated with limited options from low income, so I got structured and work a mid level corporate job, have a suburban home, attend a UU service regularly. I'm at the point where I wonder how people can hold on to their structured lives so long. The repetitive nature is easy, but my curiosity is very fidgety lately. Structured living is good for accumulating things.
A clean, organized home calms and pleases me.
I plan ahead. Never rush off scatterbrained, driving until running out of gas with no money, like a man I met.
Routines: Volunteer college mentor. Hiking twice/week. Weightlifting. Running. Stretching.
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As an organized, high energy person, I get a lot done.
Welcome to the club of the boring and disciplined (those are not my words but is how some people see us).
@JackPedigo
My life is fun! Not boring.
@LiterateHiker Kathleen, you don't have to convince me. I feel the same about being organized. That's why I said "how SOME people see US".
Kathleen, This was my comment to this posting: Without structure I could not cope. Planned meal times and some activities (like being on this site). There is some room for non-planned activities but I even have a time set aside for this. Unpredictability tends to stress me. I have been called boring but really couldn't care.
Structured lives make us feel safe, but they are also stultifying.
Without structure I could not cope. Planned meal times and some activities (like being on this site). There is some room for non-planned activities but I even have a time set aside for this. Unpredictability tends to stress me.