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A question for those hoping to find love again. Do you limit yourself on distance or are you open to find love anywhere in the world? It may not seem practical to some but who's to say love is right next door, or even in a nearby town?

BohoHeathen 8 June 30
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I would say no only because I have tried long distance relationships twice, both times with disasterous results. I will never move again for a relationship, nor would I want to have her move either. In my mind it just doesn't work, but I'm willing to be proven wrong.

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Hoping to find love again, yes. Open to find it anywhere in the world? Never say never. Where is it? I wonder every day as the clock keeps relentlessly marching forward.......

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This is a difficult thing to come up with an answer in the general. It would depend on a lot of factors, like what kind of roots are in your current location? Children? Job? Family? That being said we all make time and put forth effort for the things and people that matter. If there's a special connection those two individuals need to decide if it's worth pursuing. When you enter a romantic relationship it's always a gamble, that's why you date, to kinda hedge your bet (so to speak). While the danger of loss is there and the longer the distance the greater the gamble so is the possibility of reward.

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It can be fun and exciting to have a distance relationship, but I wouldn’t marry someone until we had lived in close proximity for six months to a year, regardless of how long the long-distance relationship had survived.

UUNJ Level 8 July 1, 2018
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No, never again. There is just no way you can really know a person if they don't live near you.

This is true.

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I limit it by distance, not because I only believe love can be local, but because finances prevent the possibility of distance.

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Ideally, there is someone in this town. My mission: find this person.

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I'd never impose a pre-condition. Distance is just one negative factor but if the positives outweigh it then it would be foolish to make it a deal-breaker. Realistically, it's a big obstacle though and I think that long-term it would have to be fixed by one or both parties relocating.

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I've met two couples who lived hundreds of miles apart for years. They'd didn't even really "date" mostly just pen pals for years.

One couple, he lived in S America and they just IM'd and video conferenced as friends for SEVEN YEARS, yeah seven years!!!. She lived in Chile for a few months then he immigrated to the USA. They've been married for about two years. I hope they're happy, but you can't tell much from FB

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I have had two LDRs, 90 and 200 miles. Niether one lasted very long because of the distance. For me the problem with relocation is how do you spend enough time together if you are much more than a couple of hundred miles apart.

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I'm open worldwide, my job affords me the time and to travel to meet someone should it progress that far

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I've been involved in long distance relationships, and it seems to me as if those who are willing to engage in an open relationship have an easier time of it when distance plays a role.

I've never expected monogomy from the women I've been involved with from far away. Sometimes we've spent months apart, and to expect somebody to go without sex for that long would be selfish if you ask me.

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I would love to find a great match from somewhere exciting, but I would hate to leave my home in a passionate rush to be disappointed. Or to do that to someone else.

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Common interest is more important, but one must also be practical ?

Agree

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I would be open , of course ... you don’t find love everyday ! But it would probably be challenging and force us to be creative !

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Interesting question. You know 99.9% of women on dating sites say they love to travel. So traveling for love shouldn't be much of an issue for them I guess. To each his/her own. Right now I have a great dog. He's laying right next to me as I type. I have yet to meet a human male or female I'd rather be spending my time with. As I've grown older I feel is overrated (maybe I'm just crappy at it) so go a long distance for crap? I do believe however 10 yrs from now I'll be living in an Asian country ,hopefully I'll have another great dog.I have no faith in humans however. They always let me down, probably expecting too much. Love? Are we talking about love? I think I've felt it before......

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I would be willing to move pretty much anywhere with the right person. Of course, my age has a lot to do with that level of flexibility. It would be much more for someone with commitments/small children/career path, etc. (That and the fact that I live in Texas. Kinda kidding, kinda not.)

Very similar to me,my late wife passed away in Sept 2017,and 9 months have gone by,I've tried just about all the dating sites,spent quite a bit on memberships,and used the free sites too,most women are too far away. Finding the right personality that meshes with your's is not easy. But I must have done something right,we had 27 years together,no fights or drama,Cancer took her life,she was a smoker from high school...

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I did a long distance relationship once. It was a terrible idea. Especially if you've never met them before. Chemistry is important.

Keita Level 5 July 1, 2018
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I would prefer to find someone within my area...BUT, I am open to finding love anywhere.

Even under the bed ?

@VAL3941 Uhhhhh...sure...but my be sits on the ground, so that would be a little hard 😉

@JimmyOneLeg93
Get a mat for her !

@VAL3941 LOL...I wouldn't make anyone sleep on the floor...

@JimmyOneLeg93
Why not, it is not a disgrace ? Many millions of people do it ?

@VAL3941 I'm not saying it's a disgrace...but when I have a perfectly usable bed, seems kinda douchey to make her sleep on the floor.

@JimmyOneLeg93
It can be quite fun on the floor if you join her ?

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The world has shrunk considerably in my lifetime. You can be anywhere on earth now within 24 hours. If it’s romance you are looking for don’t limit your possibilities by putting down parameters. Let the world be your oyster!

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Yes, I limit myself to close proximity which may be more conducive to stuff like touching one another regularly, kissing, conversing face to face, being in the same room with one another conveniently and without having to deal with the limitations of regular travel such as having a job, time, and the costs.

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I'd consider the right woman regardless of distance. I had one long-distance relationship, distance wasn't what killed that relationship.

If things are going very well, I'd guess one of us would probably move in 1-2 years to see if we could tolerate each other

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I ask myself this question from time to time. For the sake of practicality, I would rather find someone close to me. However, it's very hard for me to find someone who believes (or doesn't believe) in the same things or has the same political leanings as I do in rural Kentucky. So I often wonder if I should broaden my search.

@BohoHeathen Definitely. I live in a college town so that does make it a bit easier than it was in my hometown. But it's still very difficult either way.

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I'd be open to travel only if finances could facilitate my ability to do so and still be able to return to see friends/family. While I'm open to the prospect of there being somebody out there for me, I'm not open to that as a rational idea in my particular circumstance right away. Coming out of a marriage and seeking full custody after being awarded so would feel much more comfortable to me. Now I'd be open to meeting someone halfway as my budget could easily accomodate a trip 6-8 hours away from home but further than that probably not.

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Open to anywhere.

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