What kinda relationship are you into?
Monogamy feels safer to me, but I would be willing to consider an open relationship if my partner and I both wanted that. For the moment, it's all hypothetical, since I'm not in any type of exclusive relationship. Yet.
I enjoy the idea of polyfildelity but most of my relationships until 5 years ago have been monogamous. I think I'd be happy and satisfied with the right person, but I'm not so sure anymore. I definitely don't understand jealousy though: if you like someone else more than me, why would I want to force you in any way to stick around? You're obviously not the right person for me.
I'm poly or, if ya wanna be fancy, ? ethical non-monogamous. Yes, my partner is aware. He's poly too. The guy I'm dating is well aware & so is my partner's girlfriend. Yes, there are pre-negotiated rules. Lots of communication. Yes, my bf has met my partner. I know, civility, whodathunk it.
I studied Sociology in college, and I remember the statistics as being very poor, (less than 30%) for actual monogamy... and that was based on those who admitted to mot being monogamous.
I think monogamy is a fine ideal to shot for as a goal, but I dont' see it as a realistic expectation, because humans are not monogamous by nature.
I think instead the emphasis should be on beign honest with your partner. Honesty is mor eimportant than (a pretense of) monogamy.
I'm a romantic, but to each his or her own journey.
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