Why are there so many people who are lonely? Why is it so hard for people to make real connections when almost everyone wants to make real connections?
What’s the most crucial thing for a healthy relationship?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I agree. I wish I knew how to connect with more people. I get very lonely, especially on Saturday night. I haven't had anyone to go out with on saturdays for a long time. People work or hang out with others and don't invite me. I call it my Saturday blues.
confidentrealm
Level 7
July 25, 2018
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If they are friends, work mates, aquaintances, invite yourself and I am sure you would be warmly accepted to join them.
Check the newspapers...sometimes their are dances sponsored by community groups on weekends. Join clubs, join political organizations...use your imagination.
@nicknotes I'm pretty lazy and I don't dance... LOL. I know, I need to be more assertive. I used to be when I was younger but not so much now. My problem is I have to find my new normal and be happy there. I'm not the same person I used to be.
I hope you discover yourself and bloom like a beautiful flower @confidentrealm
I like loneliness. I like not having to justify myself if today is blue or yellow or red. Ham or Steak? Comedy or Drama? Myself I am not looking for a caretaker or caregiver. She needs to be active and very danceable if possible because I still got thread on my tires. 95% of what I say... is not important or had not much meaning... She can't go around taking me serious all the time. I am not a Politician looking for her vote either. Life is supposed to be Fun... let's make it Fun Woman. Why Hoarding? You can't take it when you die... Leave your baggage, travel light and live long. But to know a person takes time and simply... some of us are thinking they are running out of time so... others just don't care on opening up and see it as a waste of their time. My son told me yesterday... all actions you do are based somehow on a vagina. I slammed him as hard as I could... I said "That's what your mother thought, she just guessed wrong which one". And between us... she did and she knows it, so... I was being Truthful and accepting Women are the only thing I had Worship in my life and I will never, Ever regret saying it. Once I am settled on my place... It will be inviting and comfortable for the Ladies... but It will be My Place yet everything is Negotiable because I never been a tyrant that will demand his Hollywood Wall is not open to discussion. Honesty among Equals will be Crucial thing for a healthy relationship... state your agenda up front. But like the Americas on 1500 be wide open to new alternatives and accept in what phase of your life you are because sometimes what is best for you is known only by a stranger to you or someone forgotten and discarded in your past. Fun eh?
GipsyOfNewSpain
Level 9
July 26, 2018
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I think you have all figured right.
@nicknotes Nah... then I have to die... I am too young to die. I will like to make a Woman really Happy with me... Crazy Happy with me. Will not like to lose her or her losing me... so both going down in a storm in the Mediterranean or Caribbean... with no recovery of bodies... think will be okay. Figure those odds!
Dying is so permanent. Can't have any relationships if you are dead. @GipsyOfNewSpain
@nicknotes Exactly but if there is another chapter for the lovers in the other side permanent side I want that permanent to start right away because we are already there at the same time. I had seen widows forgetting their departed husband in a week and I don't blame them. Sometimes they simply feel liberated!!!!!
Location is part of it. Not many liberal non christians in my neck of the woods.
HippieChick58
Level 9
July 25, 2018
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Good point...maybe you have to move or travel and vacation where there are more prospects......
I urge you and everyone else to expand your horizons. One of my co-workers cores voted for Trump and another one is an Evangelical anti-vaxer. People I wouldn't normally befriend, but they are really lovely folks. It would be a shame if I shut them out of my life just because I disagreed with them on some (albeit significant) world views.
We all need to practice finding where others are right and just. If not, we all end up isolating ourselves a little more every day.
@amdam87 I work with folks all day long. I never ask about political persuasion or religion. I know some of the folks in my office are Xian. We have a cordial professional relationship which is all I want from work. Out side of work I have my kids and a few friends who are non political. I don't have a significant other because I will not invest time and energy in someone who is likely to piss me off as a xian or trump supporter. I was married to that type of person for way too long and won't take that path again. I am alone much of the time but I am far from isolated. I am quite content with my own company until such time as I meet someone who fits with me and I with him.
I think for me it us accessibility on so nany levels- and to be honest im not sure what that means or its restrictions. For having a relationship is havibg commonality but same desires. When i was younger it was having same interests and goals
Now its about sensuality and sexuality in expressing the joy of beibg alive and awakening body and soul parts... Ok more body than soul...
EvaV
Level 7
July 25, 2018
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You hit a nerve with your comment...do you think physical attraction and sex are more important as we age?
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