I'm 29, living in Texas where most, if not all of my peers have had children. Even when I was married, I actively prevented pregnancy. The majority of people in my life believe I never want to have children, as I speak quite hesitantly about the idea of having them.

This is false. I would love to have a child but only in the right circumstances. I thought being married may have changed my mind, but it didn't and the reality is, on some level, I must have known that my former marriage wasn't the right circumstance either. 8 years of my life were spent building with someone who had failure to launch from his family unit, still heavily depended on them financially (even when employed and making good money), and who could never quite figure out how to be my husband over being their son. How could I raise an independent child with someone who wasn't interested in standing on their own?

Now, it feels like everyone has a child and I'm not convinced I'm interested in raising a child I didn't create. This seems hypocritical as I have two godchildren (lol) that if their mother passes, I will happily raise them, so being in a relationship with me comes with that possibility.

I'm still navigating my feelings on the matter and I'm not sure if I'll ever have children of my own, or if I'd feel comfortable dating a man who has children. I suppose it all depends on the circumstances.