Smart man!

@Qualia

Thanks, darlin'!

That can haunt you . You tell someone you're not interested in that you're ," taken ," and they may pass that info on to the one you were hoping to date .

@Cast1es True, but depends if they travel in the same circles also and if the person in question presses for a name.

It does happen

It happens....

@Donotbelieve I thought the key was not wanting anything

It doesn't , if I can help it .

A military guy at work , asked me to go to the soda machine with him . As we were returning to the office , he said , " Well , what did you think of our first date . " I didn't even know it was a ," date . " Maybe if we'd been preteens . I said , "You do understand , I have two small children . "

@Cast1es He was joking, wasn't he?!

@pixiedust No , I don't think so . We really had not had any connection , prior to this . I hadn't been aware he'd had any interest in me . I had recently separated from my husband . In hindsight , we worked with a LOT of military , and I eventually learned a lot of them seemed to feel local women were there merely to provide sexual relief for the duration of their assignment to that site . But I don't even think he had that in mind . Just maybe a very restricted budget , and an immature concept ?

@Cast1es Shaking my head and rolling my eyes on your behalf

This just confirms my theory, and bolstered by a study i read recently, that few men are going to spend any time with you at all as "just friends". There is, 99% of the time, some level of attraction on their part.
I was older when coming to that POV (I figured it out after becoming pregnant-altho I did still retain a couple of male "friends" lol)
Until that time I'd naively thought my guy 'friends' truly just liked me for me & my shining personality. LMAO
Duhr

/dons flame retardant undies

@Qualia Many of us have been there, done that

@pixiedust Yeah that was enlightening, just wish I'd learned it much much younger than 34 y.o.

@TellDaTrufe I'll give you a pass because you don't know my background. I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma last year, went through 12 rounds of chemo, got knocked out by that and lost all my hair, which has finally grown back. I've looked at your profile, and I don't think it's your place to make harsh judgments about anyone. I've reported both your remarks including to my other post to the Admin.

@TellDaTrufe Well, I must have gotten to you because you deleted your post after making those awful remarks about my profile photo. You've got a lot to learn about how to speak to people on this site. I didn't get to level 7.7 for nothing, Mr. Level 2. You don't like a group on here? Move on. If you're going to say crappy things to everyone on here, you're not going to get too far on this site.

@TellDaTrufe There's honesty, and then there's crossing a line. There's no reason for meanness.

@TellDaTrufe [agnostic.com] Try reading this core principals.
Then try to adhere to them.

Being nasty to members is not tolerated here. We aren't FB.

@bleurowz I feel so bad that you've had to go through the chemo so very many times . Once should have been more than enough . My congratulations on being a survivor though . You are a strong woman !

@Cast1es Thanks. It's actually one treatment, but 12 infusions. Just an FYI, this thread was in response to a member who wrote a harsh critique to my photo, his responses have been deleted and I believe he's no longer on the site. Thanks again for your kind comments, I appreciate it.