They probably think they can change you. I used to get that a lot, especially about my sexuality. I just don't use most dating sites any more because I'm sick of dudes who think I 'just need some dick.'

You are NOT alone in this.
Men tend to connect only with their eyes.
And HOW DARE YOU not be grateful for any form of attention.
After all, you aren't getting younger! You should just go ahead and settle now...

arrgggghh.

I feel you on this and understand completely, why would any free thinker or liberal date a Trump supporter lol, I think some men are completely ignorant and think they may change you, I hate to say this but in my experience a lot of conservative, right wing men can be misogynistic and think it's normal because I work with some! Just ignore them or block them the best you can, and hopefully you'll meet someone more compatible with your beliefs and passions ☺

I had to Google Sapiosexual which ironically due to the intelligence clause immediately disqualifies me and thousands of other men..?

Ps. I totally empathise with your issue..your Bio is very well structured..cogent and exudes clarity.

Don’t lose faith....we all aren’t that bad

Wow! Well I'm not here for dating and in fact held off joining this site for a while thinking it was only a dating site so I specifically don't check out profiles (unless hit by mistake by my big thumbs, now where am - and how do I get back to where I was again). However I must check out your profile because I've never seen a pink pussy hat, especially someone wearing one lol. Io don't understand the my genders need to send dick picks, or even spend a moment to get to know about someone first. So I will wish you luck and hopefully guys will understand your very legitimate opinion.

Sounds like just about every problem a person can have with online dating. I think much of the problem (besides reading comprehension skills, which are quite low, your experience a case in point) is that between the number of people who are currently married (at least 25% or so of all online profiles, and by married I mean 'looking for an affair' and not separated and trying to move on), too afraid to actually meet someone, or too into thinking it's only going to be some sort of hookup.

I am just glad I am too old for all that bullshit from men. I am seventy three, widowed and now happily single, most definitely not wanting to attract men of any age. I wish you luck in your quest for someone compatible.

As rants go yours is pretty good, all the more impressive because there aren't many swear words in it. It's also a shame that the blokes this is about aren't the ones who are replying, we all get it lol

I've only had one guy, and I'm not into guys, who was interested in oral sex. Now I will grant you that I don't specifically say I'm not interested in oral but it does say 'here for community', I can only think community to him means a blow job? And besides my idea of oral does not involve the male todger of another bloke.

Still I think the ladies get a lot more ignorance than us guys so maybe a blocking frenzy is in order, I also haven't looked up sapiosexual but I will at some point, but the chances of us going on a date etc are somewhere around zero so it doesn't matter what it means lol

When I was on POF/OKC, I’d frequently get messages from women, usually elderly, who wanted someone to worship Jesus together with them. And of course my profile made it clear that I was s liberal atheist. I concluded that a lot of people just used a shotgun approach, sending out tons of messages and hoping for a few positive responses, the Spam approach to dating. Best to just ignore them!

? This is rife.
(((( hugs )))

Word

I read your profile. Interesting.
Good luck and have a nice day!

Sorry about what you're going through Carole. Hope you stick around.

Now I had to read your bio..... check

Strong women are captivating. Maybe they have nothing in common with you, yet ….
Disclaimer: I skimmed through this post too. But I still think you are neat.

Good rant and you're not alone as it goes both ways. I haven't experienced it here on agnostic but other dating sites I've had women I'm not compatible with and even a few men try to chat or email because they're "interested". Even after a no or blocking them, some come back. I've heard that in the age of Trump that this has become more of an issue also. Conservatives can't find dates and don't want to date within their ranks, people think they can re-mold you to what they want, or they don't care because it's a numbers game....

Don't give up, keep trying and don't let them get you down.

P.s. Post some more of your "work pics", they're cool. The land of the lost one brings back memories of watching the show and thinking it was cool! The devilish horned one looks familiar but can't place it, thought it was the goblin from maximum overdrive when I first saw it.

Hang in there. Not all men are like what you've encountered. I always read profiles of people who I meet here or who respond to something I post. If I have a conversation with someone its helps to know where they're coming from..

My favorite is the believer who messaged me. I told him I don't date believers - it's a no win situation for both of us. He just blew right past me and said, "but I can take care of your fragile heart." Now, here's the thing: If anyone reads my bio and gets the idea that I'm fragile, I'm thinking they're illiterate or stupid or delusional. And secondly - here's a concept - "No means no."

I hope you start messaging men whose profile you have read and find them interesting. Let us please know if the same story continues!

Men!

They must be related to women...

Read your profile! You are clear and make no bones about who you are and what you want. My profile has almost nothing in it. Just my fears about Trump. I have 2 tiny pics of me and some artwork that I love. Other than that nothing! Not what I do, nothing about my kids and grands, books etc. I guess it really does not matter either way. If you lived in the east coast we would definitely be friends! Men are visual, they go by that first. At least that is what I have been told.

If it's any consolation, perhaps you could reframe it from time to time as being respected by all the people who read your profile and didn't message you because of It? Lol

That being said, solid points. Sorry there are dense assholes in every corner. And if you're a sapiosexual, keep it up with there well-written posts and you're bound to find one falling right into your path. (Honestly not trying to elude to that being me)

Preach it! Happens to me all the time too

My theory is (and a few guys on here have somewhat confirmed this theory), that most men don't know what sapiosexual is, are not interested in looking it up, and assume you are into kink.