Love seems to have evolved to produce more of us in a short time.. Living longer, and knowing from where we came introduces a foreign concept to humanity. Those aware of this continue to search, long after love and it’s aftermath, procreation fade. ‘This site,’ for me, gives daily examples of those seeking what’s beyond love … as the younger set continue to struggle with it’s initial throws

One imagines love without the "fricton" (and I don't mean the fun kind, I mean the irritations and responsibilities) because that's a wonderful fantasy.

Love in the real world has to factor in that no one is perfect or even close to it, that children and employment are extremely powerful buzz-kills and energy sucks, and so forth.

It often takes much of a lifetime to satisfy yourself how those tradeoffs work for you personally. And by the time you figure it out, it's all over but the shouting. So it goes.

Being “in love” and loving someone are not always , or even necessarily ever the same thing. There are some relationships that are love/hate in nature....they are the tempestuous and sometimes completely destructive ones. Put succinctly, achieving and maintaining a relationship is a complex business and usually needs a lot understanding and patience.

Tell me about it. My wife says she loves me but then spends her time putting me down and making me feel like shit. I do love her but she's not a soul mate. I can't talk openly without criticism. All I want is someone I can be at ease with and not on edge all the time. It's got so bad that I cannot work due to anxiety and I'm not fifty yet.

It is said and is a popularly accepted myth (maxim) that making a good, solid relationship involves lots of hard work and compromise.

Total bullshit. A good fit, means trying on and walking before taking home. How many love the shoes, with a slight discomfort or two, only to return them with a concomitant blister or two or, if too late to return, a bunion...?

Buyers remorse is the result of not fully inspecting the goods before leaving with them.

The initial feelings and feel good hormones are like a drug that the brain craves. As time goes on and things become routine and stable those feelings begin to fade and thats why some people stray-to get those feelings (an addictive high) again. That's why special nights together (date nights and sex) are so important to keep those feelings alive and to help understand and accept the other person for what they are. Everybody is different and you have to accept that. Everybody wants a custom fit and thats not how it works in an off the rack world.