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I've decided to try the whole online dating thing again and put this disclaimer on my profile (not here, this isn't a date site for me).

"Disclaimer: If "GOD" is anywhere on your profile or is something you value, please understand we will NOT be compatible. Thank you for being respectful and moving on."

Crimson67 8 Aug 18
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I don't get automatically excluding someone because they're a believer.

@Crimson67 too cryptic for me.

Really? You're a level 7, so you've read countless posts and comments on this very subject. I would wager that the vast majority of people here would prefer -- or even require -- any potential partner to have similar worldview. What don't you get about it? Simply because it works for you?

@BlueWave It simply seems silly. I guess I'm not that rigid in my thinking.

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I feel the same way about pets on profiles. I consider pets to be one's "god" and just would not waste my time pursuing it as one would always be second place to their "god". Just my opinion.

@Byrdsfan My issue is strictly, that anyone (male or female) who displays a photo of their pet, indicates to me that in ANY conflict between me and the pet, I would come out on the losing end, and most likely have to leave, so why bother.

Although I don’t have them in any of my pics one here (I do have my dog), I can say that my daughters and my two small grandchildren would always come before anyone else. So really, I guess if you want to be the absolute number one in someone’s life you have to choose someone without any offspring.

I do wonder what sort of conflict is meant here. If I met someone who then said ‘The dog goes or I go’ then they would be the one to go for sure; I would not want to know such a selfish person. But I doubt many people would say ‘I can’t see you tonight because I’m washing my dog’ so not sure what conflict there would be other than the most basic ‘I don’t like pets’ versus ‘I like them’.

But the truth is that an animal lover and someone who doesn’t like pets simply aren’t compatible.

☺️?????

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""not here, this isn't a date site for me""

So, you are asking advice from a group of your like-minded about how to present yourself to those not of your ilk, while dissing the use of the "dating" function of the website?

Yeah, The disclaimer is always a good idea.

@Crimson67 Not a trigger. A response. YOU don't think of this site for dating.

ME: That's like silly. Not understanding my comments about your comments.

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It's blunt, however it might save you a lot of time weeding out people later. I say might because I am reminded of an earlier comment by some members who were stalked by people who were trying to convert them. Hope that doesn't happen to you.

@Crimson67 I had a man comment, your fucked in the head.

I messaged him back and told him that if he wanted to insult me, he should use proper grammar.

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There can't be too many geographically desirable non-believers in Kentucky.

I have a hard time imagining how I could live with a Christian, but the number of female non-believers in the Los Angeles basin is very small, and most (all) of them have profound problems (It's L.A and misandry is standard).

Women are usually only on a dating site to assuage their guilt over being single; they very rarely respond to solicitations except to get out for a free meal.

You like being alone, and you could change that any time you like. You should get used to being single. Relationships are really just too much work. Love isn't worth it (sarcasm).

A whole lotta generalizing going on right there, sir.

Practically all of that is not true in my humble opnion.

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Gee where were you 30 years ago !!!!!! 🙂

@Crimson67 Actually a better question is, where the hell was I ??????..... we all had dreams to chase and unfortunately space and time is a big factor in the equation of life. Happy to have had the opportunity to talk to you here though. No doubt.

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What is the profile says Goddamn?

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I had a whole paragraph about my atheism on another site and still got believers wanting to meet me.

They either think you are easy or want to save you LOL

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It sounds good to me. Let us know how it works. I'm thinking you will hear from believers anyway; but I want to know why. Do they not read the profile, do they not care, or do they feel the need to try to change you? You could turn this into a scientific study and sell your results. Ok, my mind is racing, I think I need a Saturday afternoon nap. lol

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And you are telling me that we probably won't date from meeting on this site and don't want to date a theist because????????

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I wouldn't have thought, once you're able to screen the god squad out, that you would have much problem getting a date, unless you're a real pain in the ass or really smelly?
Someone described you as a Kentucky Redhead, thought that made you sound like a chicken but that's a Rhode Island Red lol 😉

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Like how you say this is not a dating site for you. Not for me either. Also think it's enough for a disclaimer. Although I suspect a lot of people will respond to your profile based on your photos and not read a lot of the details.

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A pedant would point out that your disclaimer puts "god" on your profile 😉

But, yeah, being upfront is probably smart.

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Seems clear enough to me but you're not dealing with people (xtians) with any common sense, but good luck 🙂

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Way to put it out there. Maybe should have used all caps though, the “chosen” seem to like that! ?

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I would want to meet you!

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Good idea. You will probably get trolled but they will be easy to spot with that disclaimer.

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Just right.

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As others have said, I don't know if it will work, but couldn't hoit. LOL! Your disclaimer is straightforward and not rude. I think it's good as-is.

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Being as there's all degrees of "believers" out there, you could possibly be eliminating someone who would be a fine match.
But hey - you're the one composing the profile ...

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Seems like "just right". You're being honest. That's always a good thing.

Good luck, sweetie. I hope you have a positive experience.

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What ever makes you happy.... 'envy the smart guy that will put religion in the back burner for a Lady like you! I know I woild kill the pope if you ask me too. Happy Hunting!

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I think it's a personal thing. I've had a hard time online dating in Florida simply because we do live in the bible belt and for most people in the South, an atheist is like an alien.

gmash Level 4 Aug 18, 2018
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Interesting approach. Please do let us know how people respond to it. I wish you success in finding who you are looking for. Be well.

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I think it's fine. Your being open and up front about it and hopefully people will respect that.

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