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FIRST IMPRESSIONS (from my first week, on this site.) i'm really not trying to be mean, maybe just a little dry, and analytical. maybe, you'll share your impressions, or experiences.

first: AS A POTENTIAL DATING SITE. of the 11 women i sent a friendly hello message to, or paid a compliment to, to test the waters, with nothing rude, suggestive, let alone sexual. just basically, hellos. only 1 replied. and maybe 2 a hovered, or viewed. even the women i've seen back online, since. the one woman was very nice. but, there was no flirting. oh, well. and, of course, no one local, wrote, viewed, or even hovered, on my profile. go figure.

of the roughly 60 people i viewed, or hovered, less than 6 even viewed or hovered me. that's 1 in 10. whatever. it's not like i expected more. it's an observation.

i imagine, that if you're a woman on these sites, like p.o.f., you get overwhelmed by the majority, which are men, who message, and such. but, to sit back, and only respond to incoming information, makes no sense to me. are you really trying to find someone, or just wasting time.

not a majority, or even most, but many, then turn around, and write their bio as some angry gross generalization about men, only looking for sex, and being dirty, aggressive, or working class.

that really ignores the majority of men that are polite. or much more subtle. like simply hovering or viewing, to see if you respond in kind. so, i gather, that like other free sites, people are passively shopping, not buying.

AS AN AGNOSTIC SITE: almost immediately, i had 2 religious zealots, follow me, and message me, about jesus. i blocked them. but, is there no where these people don't force their baseless beliefs on others. it figures.

as a dating site, or social site, i see the same page of people, everyday. there's not much to choose from. or not much variety. or more accurately, a wider area of browsing. but, i'll hang in there, and see how this goes.

i'm a bored bachelor. but, i have little hope that an overwhelming majority of people, on these sites. that are so called social, on any site, actually ever meet, in real life. yes, i can be cynical. it comes from over a decade of experience, online.

plus, there's still not very many people on here, overall. even with a high profile on facebook. and 25% of the population, that are not religious. so, it gets boring, fast, seeing the same faces, every time i log on. i blocked some people, just so i don't have to keep looking at them. yes, i can be an asshole.

even when i put the settings to 3,000 miles away. since i'm moving back to california, this fall. it doesn't seem very popular, and i don't see why. but, so far, i'm not very encouraged to take it seriously, for what i'm looking for. like, meeting people in real life, making friends, making friends first, for people that want to date. just date. remember dating.

it's embarrassing to admit, now, that i thought social sites online, would lead to meeting people, in real life. i don't understand the point, if that's all people want to do. i don't need fake friends, and surface networking, and flattery, and some people who don't even interact online, or just sit back and watch.

i guess, it's cool that men are social with each other on this site, and view, and comment. they're the majority gender that i've seen. and probably get as bored as i do. but, i still find it odd, that people click in on other people profiles, who have a heart, for dating, when they're just being social.

finally, i'm no bigot, at all, whatever makes people happy, is cool with me. i have an very diverse background, and life experience. and, i guess without so much religion, it's a safe place for various gender identities, and sexual preferences, to be here in greater numbers. that's cool.

but, when people play games, and change their status from other, to nothing, to woman. that's rude. in my opinion. 1 person, in particular, was messaging me, a few times. and acted insulted, when i said that i wasn't interested. but, they persisted, and told me to ask them questions. then, they made those kinds of changes in their gender, and never answered a single question, that they had asked me to ask them, in the first place.

frankly, i suspect it's the so called nigerians, that are more likely russians, and chinese, who want you to chat, thru some email service, not on the site. ugg. and they have 1 picture. and little bio. just to try and suck you in. "just ask" they say. even real people say, "just ask". ask what.

background. about 12 years ago, when i was new to online social sites, and dating sites. i ended up being, basically stalked, online, thru several platforms, for over 3 years. for simply responding to a dozen profiles, in maybe 3 months, tops.

before i figured out the con. and the 3 approaches. the quick ask after a few days, the middle ask after a few weeks, and the long con after a couple months. all from each single profile replied to. what a sucker i was, to even be polite.

so, anyway, that's my first impression. for what it's worth. i hope you find what you're looking for.

peace, and a fist bump.

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FIRST: AS A DATING SITE
Not everyone is here for dating.

OF THE 11 WOMEN I SENT A FRIENDLY HELLO MESSAGE TO, OR PAID A COMPLIMENT TO, ONLY 1, EVEN RESPONDED
Oh, the entitlement of believing you are owed a response from a woman simply because you sent her a message. No, we don’t owe anyone anything.

SHE WAS VERY NICE. BUT, THERE WAS NO FLIRTING.
How dare she not flirt with you?!?!?! Doesn't she know her place and her role?!?!

OH, WELL. AND, OF COURSE, NO ONE LOCAL, WROTE, VIEWED, OR EVEN HOVERED, ON MY PROFILE. GO FIGURE. OF THE ROUGHLY 60 PEOPLE I VIEWED, OR HOVERED, LESS THAN 6 EVEN VIEWED OR HOVERED ME.
Well, what a surprise! You staked out some info and expected those women to return the action. Key word, “Expected.” Again no one owes you anything.

THAT'S 1 IN 10. WHATEVER. I IMAGINE, THAT IF YOU'RE A WOMAN ON THESE SITES, LIKE P.O.F., YOU GET OVERWHELMED BY THE MAJORITY, WHICH ARE MEN, WHO MESSAGE, AND SUCH. BUT, TO SIT BACK, AND ONLY RESPOND TO INCOMING INFORMATION, MAKES NO SENSE TO ME. ARE YOU REALLY TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE, OR JUST WASTING TIME.
What do you care what someone else does with their time? What business is it of yours why anyone is on this site?

NOT A MAJORITY, OR EVEN MOST, BUT MANY, THEN TURN AROUND, AND WRITE THEIR BIO AS SOME ANGRY GROSS GENERALIZATION ABOUT MEN, ONLY LOOKING FOR SEX, AND BEING DIRTY, UGLY, AND AGGRESSIVE. WHICH REALLY IGNORES THE MAJORITY OF MEN THAT ARE POLITE, OR MUCH MORE SUBTLE, LIKE SIMPLY HOVERING OF VIEWING, TO SEE IF YOU RESPOND IN KIND. SO, I GATHER, THAT LIKE OTHER FREE SITES, PEOPLE ARE PASSIVELY SHOPPING, NOT BUYING.
Where to begin? If you don’t like the bio, move on. If you find the descriptions to be “gross generalizations” then be thankful the women in question are being upfront so you can move on faster. And what is this “respond in kind” nonsense? Hovering over a bio is not something a person “responds” to, it is hardly ever even acknowledged; it’s that small of an event. And by the way, people are people, not merchandise.

AS AN AGNOSTIC SITE: ALMOST IMMEDIATELY, I HAD 2 RELIGIOUS ZEALOTS, FOLLOW ME, AND MESSAGE ME, ABOUT JESUS. I BLOCKED THEM. BUT, IS THERE NO WHERE THESE PEOPLE DON'T FORCE THEIR BASELESS BELIEFS ON OTHERS. IT FIGURES.
We can’t filter out the crazies, nor can the site exclude the religious people who want to be here. Is your atheism so weak that you feel threatened by these people? You seem to know how to block people who don't talk to you, transfer that skill to your interaction with these people. If you're this easily rattled, perhaps the internet isn’t the place for you to be.

AS A DATING SITE, OR SOCIAL SITE, I SEE THE SAME PEOPLE, EVERYDAY. THERE'S NOT MUCH TO CHOOSE FROM. NOT MUCH VARIETY. BUT, I'LL HANG IN THERE, AND SEE HOW THIS GOES, I SUPPOSE. I'M A BORED BACHELOR. BUT, I HAVE ZERO HOPE THAT ALMOST ANYONE WHO'S SOCIAL ONLINE, ON ANY SITE, ACTUALLY EVER MEET, IN REAL LIFE. YES, I CAN BE CYNICAL. IT COMES FROM OVER A DECADE OF EXPERIENCE, ONLINE. PLUS, THERE'S STILL NOT VERY MANY PEOPLE ON HERE, AT ALL, EVEN WITH A HIGH PROFILE ON FACEBOOK, AND 25% OF THE POPULATION, THAT ARE NOT RELIGIOUS. IT GETS BORING, FAST, SEEING THE SAME FACES, EVERY TIME I LOG ON. I BLOCKED SOME PEOPLE, JUST SO I DON'T HAVE TO KEEP LOOKING AT THEM.
Rant much? Help! There aren’t enough people here, let me start blocking the people I do see.

YES, I CAN BE AN ASSHOLE.
Do tell!

EVEN WHEN I PUT THE SETTING TO 3,000 MILES AWAY, SINCE I'M MOVING BACK TO CALIFORNIA, THIS FALL, IT DOESN'T SEEM VERY POPULAR, AND I DON'T SEE WHY. BUT, SO FAR, I'M NOT ENCOURAGED TO TAKE IT SERIOUSLY. IT'S EMBARRASSING TO ADMIT, NOW, THAT I THOUGHT SOCIAL SITES, ONLINE, WOULD LED TO MEETING PEOPLE, IN REAL LIFE. I DON'T UNDERSTAND THE POINT, IF THAT'S ALL PEOPLE WANT. I DON'T NEED FAKE FRIENDS, AND SURFACE NETWORKING, AND SOME PEOPLE WHO DON'T EVEN INTERACT ONLINE, THEY JUST WATCH. I GUESS, IT'S COOL THAT MEN ARE SOCIAL WITH EACH OTHER ON THIS SITE, AND VIEW, AND MESSAGE, AND COMMENT. THEY'RE THE MAJORITY GENDER THAT I'VE SEEN. AND PROBABLY GET AS BORED AS I DO. BUT, I STILL FIND IT ODD, THAT PEOPLE CLICK ON OTHER PEOPLE, WHO HAVE A HEART, FOR DATING, WHEN THEY'RE JUST BEING SOCIAL.
How dare people who came here for community actually seek out that community?!?!? Don’t they realize they are getting in the way of your dating prospects (of which you lament there are none, so&hellipsmile009.gif

FINALLY, I'M NO BIGOT, AT ALL, WHATEVER MAKES PEOPLE HAPPY, IS COOL WITH ME. AND, I GUESS WITHOUT SO MUCH RELIGION, IT'S A SAFE PLACE FOR VARIOUS GENDER IDENTITIES, AND SEXUAL PREFERENCES, TO BE HERE IN GREATER NUMBERS. BUT, WHEN PEOPLE PLAY GAMES, AND CHANGE THEIR STATUS FROM OTHER, TO NOTHING, TO WOMAN. THAT'S RUDE. IN MY OPINION. 1 PERSON, IN PARTICULAR, WAS MESSAGING ME, A FEW TIMES. AND ACTED INSULTED, WHEN I SAID THAT I WASN'T INTERESTED. BUT, THEY PERSISTED, AND TOLD ME TO ASK THEM QUESTIONS. THEN THEY MADE THOSE KINDS OF CHANGES IN THEIR GENDER, AND NEVER ANSWERED A SINGLE QUESTION, THAT THEY HAD ASKED ME TO ASK THEM, IN THE FIRST PLACE. FRANKLY, I SUSPECT IT'S THE SO CALLED NIGERIANS, THAT ARE MORE LIKELY RUSSIANS, AND CHINESE, WHO WANT YOU TO CHAT, THRU SOME EMAIL SERVICE, NOT ON THE SITE. UGG. AND HAVE 1 PICTURE. AND LITTLE BIO. JUST TO TRY AND SUCK YOU IN. "JUST ASK" THEY SAY.

There is so much stupidity here; I can’t even begin to address it all. Suffice it to say; when someone begins the rant with, “I’m no bigot” you can rest assured some bigoted shit is about to spewed.

ABOUT 12 YEARS AGO, WHEN I WAS NEW TO ONLINE SOCIAL SITES, AND DATING SITES, AND I ENDED UP BEING, BASICALLY STALKED, ONLINE, THRU SEVERAL PLATFORMS, FOR OVER 3 YEARS. FOR SIMPLY RESPONDING TO THESE PEOPLE, FOR MAYBE 3 MONTHS, TOPS. BEFORE I FIGURED OUT THE CON. AND THE 3 APPROACHES. THE QUICK ASK, IN DAYS, THE MIDDLE ASK, AFTER A COUPLE WEEKS, AND THE LONG CON, AFTER A COUPLE MONTHS. ALL FORM JUST 1 PROFILE REPLIED TO. WHAT A SUCKER I WAS, TO EVEN BE POLITE. SO, ANYWAY, THAT'S MY FRIST IMPRESSION. FOR WHAT IT'S WORTH. PEACE, AND A FIST BUMP.
Oh, so you’ve had negative experiences with people not leaving you alone on social media and yet you are offended that people don’t respond to you here? And why are you comparing scams you fell for 12 years ago to the way this site is (not) working out for you? Are you still falling for those scams?

Fist bump on the way out.

Cricket9 Level 5 Aug 29, 2018

Yup. You said it succinctly. Thank you.

Cricket!!
This has been such a GREAT "morning coffee" read! Thank you!!

@Donotbelieve agreed

Your response was a great start to my day.

Perfect!

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First, this site is almost just barely a year old. There are stats on the homepage to tell you how many people are here, how many joined this month, how many posted, etc. Last time I looked it had around 45,000 members. But, not all of those members are active people here. Sometimes people join a site and then never return, or don’t return for several weeks or months. If the site survives, and I hope it does, you will see greater numbers as time goes on.

Next, as was mentioned, many people are not here to date. They are here to socialize in a safe environment with those of somewhat similar thinking at least on one very important issue. If somebody is here for the community, they are not going to be seeking people to flirt with.

Next, there are a variety of reasons that somebody will view or hover on your profile. Only one of those reasons is that they may be checking you out as a potential date. As has been expressed over and over again throughout the conversations, many of us, male and female, and somewhere in between, view other members simply to get a feel for who they are, where they are located, and to read other things that they have posted or commented on. For me, if somebody shows in their writing characteristics that I like in other human beings, I will absolutely look at their profile just out of curiosity.

On religious people sending you messages, I think it is a futile and silly behavior. I am an unabashed blocker and put up with absolutely zero bullshit like that. I also have a lack of patience for people who are constantly seeking attention, post prolifically without actually engaging in conversations, liberally inject sexual innuendo into every conversation, and who belovedly use snark and sarcasm as a primary mode of conversing. They also get blocked. Consequently, I truly enjoy my time here most of the time.

As to it being boring, yes, like life, it has it ebbs and flows with regard to stimulating conversations and such. I think you will see, if you give it some time, that you actually get to know some people, and end up looking forward to their input, insight, or wit. If you stay even longer, you will notice that some of the people you like reading become less active or disappear altogether and you may find yourself wondering how they are, why they left, and whether they will come back.

Finally, there have now been many people here who have dated other members, entered into relationships with each other, some have moved in together, and at least one couple announced the other day that they are getting married. They met here. So the idea that it is not a site for meeting potential partners is simply not true. And, in my opinion, it’s much better than everything else out there, because people can get to know each other’s personalities through conversations about virtually every topic imaginable and make a decision based on what is gleaned that way, as opposed to just viewing a profile and a picture and deciding to give them a shot. You may come across your dream woman physically and based on her bio, and then you may find, through innocuous conversations she is a lot of things that you find negative, incompatible and/or unappealing. Conversely, you may come across a woman who would not normally be on your radar physically, but, as you get to know her through conversations here, you might realize her personality and character is everything you have been dreaming of.

This site is not perfect and the people here are just human beings.

BlueWave Level 8 Aug 29, 2018

Well said!

I could not have said it better myself. Except I think we have 2 marriages.

@TheAstroChuck It really does!!! Best advice ever, Chuck!! Cuticles too! smile001.gif

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Ok here goes. In retail we have teach people to appreciate complaints because it helps us learn what we may be doing wrong and address those issues. I read your complaint and thought about it and truthfully can't see anything the site can do to address your problems with it.
You seem to feel entitled to womens time and attention. You are not. Try being pleasant or interesting or funny or something. Right now you're coming off as whiny and entitled. No one sane wants to date that.
We can't catch every theist on here trying to convert folks but we do a decent job of getting them out of here or converting them eventually.
Try just being friends with people. Men, women, trans folk, whatever. Having a bigger circle of friends increases your chance of meeting someone who you "click" with.
As for your past issues with dating sites, there is nothing whatsoever anyone can do to change the past or control what other sites used to do.
The thing about AG is that it is plastic enough that it becomes what you make it. Change the way YOU'RE thinking and acting and your experience will change.

THIS. Thank you.

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A summary:

Oh no!!! I didn't find the PERFECT mate just minutes from my front door in my first week on this site!!!!!

Obviously the site must be full of bots, scammers, and catfishers!!

+++++cough++++cough+++++attentionwhore+++++cough++++cough+++++

@Humanistheathen I'll signal the mothership to do a report and have him picked up for....er.....um..... "evaluation"................

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Perhaps you would be better suited joining a site specialized for your needs. One that assists Incels, in a positive way, to gain skills for traversing the world and overcoming a perspective which is likely blurring reality.

Be more like this man.

@Donotbelieve One that uses the perjorative incel? Hell, no!

@LimitedLight You support incels?

@Donotbelieve "Incel" is simply an abbreviation for "involuntarily celibate" and I think the term is ill-defined. Penny was joking when she said "We (all women of the world) had a meeting. It's not happening." It also implies any man not getting sex is actively seeking it. Quantify the intensity of that search? Yeah, like people do that. How do you support an ill-defined group of people? LOL!

@LimitedLight Clearly one of us isn't understanding the comment.

It could be me.

Incels are real and I took this man's response as derogatory towards such a group.

If you, in anyway, disagree with my clarified stance, we have no need for further communications.

@Donotbelieve His (@hankinohio) opening post is not good and I don't feel the need to go into a long rant about why (the way others have) because it would be just like him. @SeeBeneath42 's response was, on the other hand, very short but not helpful and derogatory.

@LimitedLight Your responses have been beneficial?

You're just muddying the waters with unrelated commentary.

@LimitedLight hahahahahahhahahahahahhahaahhahahhaa! Literally no one feels bad for a group that wants to turn women into involuntary sex slaves because they're pissed they can't get laid.Bahahahahah

@Donotbelieve Clearly, one of us is not understanding the comment (to quote you). Let me make it simpler. Both the original post and the sub-thread we're in suck. And now @OpposingOpossum is using sweeping generalizations and strawhuman arguments.

[agnostic.com]

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Bro, you are coming off way too needy and demanding and entitled and controlling to appeal to the relatively high quality of women on this site. I say relatively high quality, as they are tending towards being free thinkers.

Is this site totally free of scammers or asshats? No. No site is. But it's better than average, and if I were wanting to meet women for dating or romance, I'd give it a shot. Although honestly the participation is too low and too geographically spread out to have very high expectations of it at this point. eHarmony, this site isn't. But I'd use it as an adjunct to other tools for meeting new people.

Also, a word of advice: use paragraphs in your posts. People generally won't read a "wall o'text". I've heard some people have difficulties inserting line breaks on some mobile devices, but a lengthy post like this (apart from needing the critical eye of an editor to make it more concise) is probably better entered on a laptop or desktop computer anyway.

mordant Level 8 Aug 29, 2018

Overuse of commas is another persistent problem. I tried to read OP, only made it about 1/3 of the way. That took real effort too.

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Unrealistic expectations often go unmet.

Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.

Or don't.

KKGator Level 9 Aug 29, 2018

I love the padded walls.

@maturin1919 Me, too! I thought they were a nice touch!

@maturin1919 they're so comfy!

@memorylikeasieve They just make you want to nap. smile009.gif

@KKGator ? They do!

@maturin1919 I like hugging myself!

@Davethecave Okay?!?!

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you don't know what you're talking about. all Bluster no substance. as far as first impressions go, you have blown it.

hankster Level 9 Aug 29, 2018
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  1. Too Many Words!
  2. Extremely negative, critical words!
  3. "Pursued by 2 religious zealots"??? Fake words!
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Cannot read your post. Need paragraphs. Sorry. bad eye sight

Spinliesel Level 8 Aug 29, 2018

My thoughts too.

@hankinohio Thanks. That is easier to read. Will give it my full attention when i return from the oil change experience.

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My 1st impression - you sure have a lot of time on your hands!

Krish55 Level 7 Aug 29, 2018
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Can’t read that solid block of text...won’t even try. Where were you educated? Your teachers failed in their jobs, my grandsons know about paragraphs and they are still at Primary School. I have glanced down at the replies below so have the gist of what your complaints are, and I would suggest a lowering of expectations and an injection of humility and humour might bring you more success. I am an old dame and not here for dating, but if I were your neediness would be a complete turn off. I get the feeling you won’t take my advice but I am going to give it anyway....there are a lot of very smart ladies on this site so show them something scintillating and witty and funny, and you just might be in with a chance,

....elsewhere. He’s blown it in spectacular fashion here.

@AmiSue I thought so, but wanted to see his reaction!

@Marionville I don't think we're going to get any reaction, very trolly.

@hankster Too bad it might have been fun! ?

@Marionville maybe, but often these types are a waste of time.....cry babies, whiners, and usually to daft to realize it.

@hankster Yes we’re better off without his type...he will take one look at this barrage of replies and run for the hills!

@Marionville we might think of that as the preferred outcome......yet, the combination stupidity and arrogance can be amazingly persistent.

@hankster Or as we say here in N.Ireland....he may just be thick as champ!

@Marionville perfect!

@hankster INCEL

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You poor guy. From your uncapitalized and paragraphless post, I gather things aren't going the way you want. And none of it is your fault. How is that fair, am I right? A quick tip - anytime you want, you can stop digging The hole you are in is deep enough as it is. Good luck turning things around.

zeuser Level 8 Aug 29, 2018
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Did you use paragraphs in your messages? This may be the problem.

indirect76 Level 7 Aug 29, 2018
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Sorry for being a religious zealot. If I don't pass on the one true carbohydrate based religion, the Flying Spaghetti Monster will flog me with His Noodly Appendage. ?

davyjones Level 6 Aug 29, 2018

r'amen!

Pass the colander.

At last, another Pastafarian ! Now I can come out of the pantry!

@Wearschaoswell - I sure hope so!

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If you are interested in someone after reading their bio, send them a message. Just viewing someone’s page doesn’t imply interest.
I promise the world isn’t out to get you or against you in anyway. Try to focus on the positive and be optimistic. Ask for help if you are having a hard time navigating this as a dating site. I’m afraid most ladies will find your harsh critique and pessimism a bit off putting.

BeccaVa Level 7 Aug 29, 2018
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I don't really want to pile on but I hadn't seen it stated already, my bad if it was; It's not anyone else's fault or responsibility that you're single. If you don't want to be, find out how to attract the mate you want instead of trying to berate everyone in hopes of finding anyone.

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It's a Global Site with 45K people and growing. Just over double the size of my hometown.

Think of the odds?

And we actually have couples.

And one marriage coming up.

And friendships like you wouldn't believe.

RavenCT Level 9 Aug 29, 2018

Two marriages. Sadoi and her fiancee and fearless freep and his fiancee. Two AG weddings and the sites only been up a year. Whoot!

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Okay Hank, I think that Bluewave said it all but hers my 2c worth.
Firstly, you were shocked be only a 10% response to msgs. That is the usual odds in online dating. Contrary to all the adverts, there are not 100s of local women either gagging for it or desperate for your company, just waiting for your msg and if there are any? They will have been snapped up very quickly. If you havent figured that out by now, then you havent been many online dating sites.
Which brings me to secondly, It took you 3 months to see though a scammer! My giddy aunt, these people are so obvious. If it seems too good to be true it probably is. Real women are cautious not sycophantic, they will want to know you better before they open up. They will not say they live close on their profile but live elsewhere. Then send you an extensive biography via email. If they continue with msgs then they will want to friend you on FB at least or meet up in a neutral place. Really 3 months? I have a bridge in Brooklyn I can sell you cheap.

273kelvin Level 8 Aug 29, 2018

@hankinohio It seems you were unlucky. Ive been on here since October and only had 1 scammer.
We have had a debate on whether to ban god botherers from the site. The consensus seems to be no. Many might be having doubts about their faith and looking to test the waters. The more serious ones don't last long, too many lions.

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This is a dating site?
I thought it was a discussion site where you might also find someone with similar interests.

16classic Level 5 Aug 29, 2018

Me too. I'm very happily married. Did I miss something? ?

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I don’t message or respond to anyone who a) doesn’t post a photo; b) doesn’t complete a bio and questions; c) hasn’t participated in conversations on the site. Before reaching out, try getting to know people through chat group threads. That builds trust.

UUNJ Level 8 Aug 29, 2018

@irascible I do check to see whether the person has posted other photos, at least a few of which have to be of themselves. Have been approached by too many scammers who fill their profiles with scenery and pets

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MY advice, delete your profile, set up a new one with a new name and new photo, then enter in to this site with a little bit of realistic expectations, accept the site for what it is, enjoy it for what it is and quit complaining. As far as engaging people as people and conversing, it is a great site. For dating, it works for some, some of the time and not for others the rest of the time, just like every other social site on the inter net. YMMV (your mileage may vary).

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Quite a diatribe you’ve made there. I can see you are frustrated. You will always encounter assholes wherever you go. I lived in southern California for thirty-five years. I assure you, there are more assholes and egotists there, per capita, than anywhere else in the country, so you are definitely not positioning yourself for success in the relationship department. Might I suggest that you sit down and figure out what, exactly, it is you are looking for? Make a list. Include age range, life experiences, communication skills, interests and hobbies...whatever it is would make you say yes or no to a person. If physical attractiveness makes a difference, admit that to yourself. Then Browse/Members and search using the available parameters. When you have the results, contact every single one of them that appeals to you, telling them what you are looking for and what you think YOU have to offer. At the end of that exercise, you will know whether this site is a good fit for you. If it isn’t, move on. Whining and complaining never solved a problem, ever. Proactiveness almost always does. Good luck! There are a lot of really good people here. One or more of the women may be “the one”. Few of the women are just looking to get laid, so if that is your objective, you are likely wasting your time. But if you are looking for a genuine relationship, look carefully. If she is not here today, she will be...next week, next month or next year.

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Wow, first week and you have this much to say already. A bit of a rant, yes? Time to take a chill pill, methinks. This is not a traditional dating site by any means, but anyone with a lick of sense with other sites knows the rules - block trolls and adjust your expectations. Just hang out and enjoy the conversations. And - I can't be clear enough about this - adjust your expectations. Peace out.

poetdi56 Level 7 Aug 29, 2018
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Not everyone is here for dating. I've sent messages to women here and for the most part I get answers. No flirting. Maybe it's my age and maybe they are not dating. Maybe we are just to frigging far apart. I used to live in Texas but I'm not going to be "dating" someone that lives there now. I'm on here for community. Religious and political views through discussion.

DenoPenno Level 8 Aug 29, 2018
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