FIRST IMPRESSIONS (from my first week, on this site.) i'm really not trying to be mean, maybe just a little dry, and analytical. maybe, you'll share your impressions, or experiences.
first: AS A POTENTIAL DATING SITE. of the 11 women i sent a friendly hello message to, or paid a compliment to, to test the waters, with nothing rude, suggestive, let alone sexual. just basically, hellos. only 1 replied. and maybe 2 a hovered, or viewed. even the women i've seen back online, since. the one woman was very nice. but, there was no flirting. oh, well. and, of course, no one local, wrote, viewed, or even hovered, on my profile. go figure.
of the roughly 60 people i viewed, or hovered, less than 6 even viewed or hovered me. that's 1 in 10. whatever. it's not like i expected more. it's an observation.
i imagine, that if you're a woman on these sites, like p.o.f., you get overwhelmed by the majority, which are men, who message, and such. but, to sit back, and only respond to incoming information, makes no sense to me. are you really trying to find someone, or just wasting time.
not a majority, or even most, but many, then turn around, and write their bio as some angry gross generalization about men, only looking for sex, and being dirty, aggressive, or working class.
that really ignores the majority of men that are polite. or much more subtle. like simply hovering or viewing, to see if you respond in kind. so, i gather, that like other free sites, people are passively shopping, not buying.
AS AN AGNOSTIC SITE: almost immediately, i had 2 religious zealots, follow me, and message me, about jesus. i blocked them. but, is there no where these people don't force their baseless beliefs on others. it figures.
as a dating site, or social site, i see the same page of people, everyday. there's not much to choose from. or not much variety. or more accurately, a wider area of browsing. but, i'll hang in there, and see how this goes.
i'm a bored bachelor. but, i have little hope that an overwhelming majority of people, on these sites. that are so called social, on any site, actually ever meet, in real life. yes, i can be cynical. it comes from over a decade of experience, online.
plus, there's still not very many people on here, overall. even with a high profile on facebook. and 25% of the population, that are not religious. so, it gets boring, fast, seeing the same faces, every time i log on. i blocked some people, just so i don't have to keep looking at them. yes, i can be an asshole.
even when i put the settings to 3,000 miles away. since i'm moving back to california, this fall. it doesn't seem very popular, and i don't see why. but, so far, i'm not very encouraged to take it seriously, for what i'm looking for. like, meeting people in real life, making friends, making friends first, for people that want to date. just date. remember dating.
it's embarrassing to admit, now, that i thought social sites online, would lead to meeting people, in real life. i don't understand the point, if that's all people want to do. i don't need fake friends, and surface networking, and flattery, and some people who don't even interact online, or just sit back and watch.
i guess, it's cool that men are social with each other on this site, and view, and comment. they're the majority gender that i've seen. and probably get as bored as i do. but, i still find it odd, that people click in on other people profiles, who have a heart, for dating, when they're just being social.
finally, i'm no bigot, at all, whatever makes people happy, is cool with me. i have an very diverse background, and life experience. and, i guess without so much religion, it's a safe place for various gender identities, and sexual preferences, to be here in greater numbers. that's cool.
but, when people play games, and change their status from other, to nothing, to woman. that's rude. in my opinion. 1 person, in particular, was messaging me, a few times. and acted insulted, when i said that i wasn't interested. but, they persisted, and told me to ask them questions. then, they made those kinds of changes in their gender, and never answered a single question, that they had asked me to ask them, in the first place.
frankly, i suspect it's the so called nigerians, that are more likely russians, and chinese, who want you to chat, thru some email service, not on the site. ugg. and they have 1 picture. and little bio. just to try and suck you in. "just ask" they say. even real people say, "just ask". ask what.
background. about 12 years ago, when i was new to online social sites, and dating sites. i ended up being, basically stalked, online, thru several platforms, for over 3 years. for simply responding to a dozen profiles, in maybe 3 months, tops.
before i figured out the con. and the 3 approaches. the quick ask after a few days, the middle ask after a few weeks, and the long con after a couple months. all from each single profile replied to. what a sucker i was, to even be polite.
so, anyway, that's my first impression. for what it's worth. i hope you find what you're looking for.
peace, and a fist bump.