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Is anyone else scared to death to start over?

pamb68 5 Aug 31
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Start over with what?

I would assume with "love and relationships" as that's how this post is categorized. =]

I get that. But with what types of relationships? Friends and family that are still religious, work relations with people that one used to have similar shared values that do not anymore, or starting over due to loss through death, divorce, or other means.

I was too vague and since I was the first to comment I was unable to go off the context of earlier conversations or comments.

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Nah...circle of life. It can be intimidating but it isn't like you have many options at that point. One foot in front of the other and enjoy the scenery

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I've done it so many times that I've completely changed how I look at it.
You really aren't "starting over". You're just moving on to the next thing.
Life is always moving. You have to move with it.
I don't think there's much worse than being "stuck".
So, try not to be "scared". You're just moving to the next thing.
You're going to be fine. 😉

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In a way, every new day is "starting over".

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Starting over has been a way of life for me.It has become more difficult as l have gotten older.

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I definitely am. Because of the way my husband of 17 years ended our marriage I now have all these TRUST ISSUES I never had before. I seriously do not want to start a new relationship while dragging old baggage. It may take me a while to get that sorted out.

Deb57 Level 8 Aug 31, 2018
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Don't know, but I hope this isn't the reward for how I performed in my last life.

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I kinda had no choice - but in the end I am glad I did.

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Change is always hard and can be scary. Wishing you the best.

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I was, it gets better

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Not at all.
nothing like more than learning something new.
And starting a new relationship is learning something new.
JMHO.

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I have before and even though I’m much older I would do it again. Life is what it is. I’m not ready to give up yet.

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Starting over; no. I was terrified of being alone which is why I stayed in bad relationships. I've been alone now for over 6yrs and (for the most part) love it.

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"Success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts." -- Winston Churchill

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I wouldn't phrase it quite that way, for me its about losing the ability to trust and then either not wanting to try and over come that or not being able to, not sure which it is.

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Ready for the adventure. Scary, yes.

A choose your own adventure with blank pages, I have a new box of pens. And so I begin......

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A great opportunity of life.

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I think it is kind of like base diving if you don't spread your wings you will fall like a rock.

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I’m not.

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No, not at all. After my 25 year marriage ended, I realized that I was finally free. I have moved to different states, alone and not knowing a soul and have made lifelong friends. I retired, leaving my beloved midwifery practice to a young midwife, and have loved being free again. I have done lots of starting over, and I love it. It is an exciting adventure. I have dated also, but I haven't felt strongly enough about any of the men to give up my precious freedom. Maybe someday.

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Scared and tired of falling flat on my face. This shit ain't easy!

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Nah, but I am getting a bit tired of the dating process. Not sure if it’s even worth the effort anymore since I’m pretty happy being mostly by myself with my dog and a few friends.

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No.

If you feel afraid of being vulnerable, I suggest you watch "The Power of Vulnerability" by Brene' Brown. This 20-minute TED Talk changed my life.

[ted.com]

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