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Should one bring/send flowers on a first date? Not a coffee. A real date. Dinner and a show, or lunch and a ballgame.

Donwhy 6 Sep 16
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I’ve only had that happen once in my life. It was so surprising and amazing! I loved it....doesn’t have to be an expensive bouquet. He brought pretty wildflowers. Still makes me smile even though we didn’t work out

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I vote "no", if for no other reason than one of you then have to carry them around. If you want to give flowers, send them the next day.

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This seems to me a bit old fashioned however, given the age of your date this may be appropriate. I do think that if you get on well and decide to continue to date each other that you could do this on the 3rd or 4th date to show that you are really into them.

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Someone brought me a bunch of ripe wheat once...it was beautiful and I was impressed!

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It's a lovely gesture. If the impulse is genuine, do it.
Just keep it simple, and make sure she can put them in a vase before
you head out. No one wants to tote around flowers for the duration.

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Should? There is no such thing. It just doesn't matter. If she's into you she'll love it and if she's not it's a waste. Follow your gut. I sent 50 roses to a woman AFTER our first date because it felt like the right thing to do. She might however be allergic to flowers, hate flowers, own a flower shop etc. so you might want to do some research first if you don't want to make a wrong decision.

lerlo Level 8 Sep 16, 2018

@CoastRiderBill Not a waste, an amazing woman and it was like $20 more than a dozen. If I was worried about waste I wouldnt have done it at all

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why not i think any thoughtful gesture should be viewed for what it is flowers chocs beer wine beer whisky beer rum really anything

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Lunch and a ball game, the beers would be my flowers! Anyway a ball game would be fun, you can actually talk with one another in a relaxed atmosphere, low key and laid back

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Well, I wouldn't be displeased, but you do risk that the lady is allergic to flowers. Then there is the issue of where to put the flowers if you do something else after dinner.

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I had my first date in a really long time a few weeks ago. He brought me flowers, which was sweet, but awkward because I had to carry them around since we met at the restaurant. I echo no if you aren't meeting at one's house before the date.

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Bring babies. If she's a proper heathen, she'll know just how to cook them.

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not if she has cats or allergies. find out if she even LIKES flowers! likewise a bottle of wine -- she may not drink (or she might love it). try to find out what she likes before you decide.

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I never messed with flowers on a first date and have done alright.

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I personally feel it's a little over-the-top. Also, they are a little inconvenient to deal with during the date. I would save that sort of thing for after it has progressed to the next stage and you have become an item. But that's just me.

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Sure! It's a lovely gesture. Yes it's old fashioned and rarely done these days. That makes you unique. Allergies? I suffer through the allergies

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Not on a first date. A first date is all about getting to know one another, not movies, or even dinner in my oppinion. Save the flowers and all the other stuff for after you are dating.

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I think it's sweet, and it keeps you on her mind with a smile when she sees the flowers in her home for the rest of the week. If you have the idea to do it, then do. Even a $5 bouquet from Safeway adds a splash of color. If she's allergic, perhaps she can keep them out on her patio.

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Flowers aren't a good idea for a first date..better to find out if she's allergic, what her favorites are, and it's better to be far enough along in your dating that you can deliver the flowers to her door so she can put them in water before you leave on the date.

The ball game is a great summer idea..except that in my case, I love any kind of informal ball game; community, church potluck game, local women's league, even Little League, etc. since the professionals spend so much time grabbing their crotches and spitting tobacco juice it makes me feel nauseous.

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Chocolate is probably the best thing as long as she's not allergic or a fun heart necklace.

Notes on seduction - Ogden Nash
"Candys dandy, Liqueurs quicker"

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A resounding no! I think you shouldn't act overly chivalrous on the first date. Women say they like it and that it's "sweet", but they secretly hate it (trust me on this), and later use your sweet behavior as a weapon against you ("but you weren't always like that" ). A reasonable combination of courtesy and genuineness should work out fine for you. Just be yourself and don't be afraid to show the masculine side of you.

Wrong. I think a gentleman should be a gentleman and not show up empty handed.

@SkotlandSkye
Yeah? And what should "ladies" bring to the table? I should not show up empty-handed just because the other person has a vagina between her legs? I thought we were all equal.

@Darius77 I generally give books on the first date....but I also prefer to COOK and stay home to have a conversation. Therefore, I am providing food and professional skill. Thanks for showing you are a TYPICAL man who goes straight to sex. You do know that women have brains too, right? And, seriously dude, do something about that chip on your shoulder. It makes you look ugly.

@SkotlandSkye
Thank YOU for playing the victim card. I have NO problem giving my date a gift as long as I know there is reciprocity. But if someone EXPECTS me to automatically bring something to the table just because she happens to be the one with the vagina, then I have a huge problem. This is the exact opposite of going straight to sex! It shows I'm not willing to get laid through any means.

@SkotlandSkye
And just because I express opinions that you don't approve of doesn't mean I have any chip on my shoulder. I get along fantastically with women. I'm just not willing to bend over backwards to please them. That's against my dignity. You are free to interpret it however you wish to.

@Darius77 hahahahahaha YOU were the one "playing victim"
Oh, poor me...it's good manners to bring a gift and I don't want to because why should I just because she's a women....men are sooooooooooo taken advantage of......

ugh. Men like you are gross. I'll be blocking you now for being an asshat.

@SkotlandSkye
Class act by deleting all your comments!!

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I have gotten a good response from a single rose on the first date. Classy but not overdone. Really though it depends on the person, use your best judgment.

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Notes on seduction - Ogden Nash
"Candys dandy, Liqueurs quicker"

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I would say that's your call but it would be better than a set of wiper blades

@Omen6Actual I use Rain-X

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It really depends on what kind of people you two are and where you are going on the date.

  • If you like bringing flowers on the first date; if that's your thing, then go ahead. But be considerate of your date and the place of the date.
  • Your date might not like the flowers (could be allergic or have a specific flower he/she likes); do research before buying your date flowers.
  • Don't bring flowers to a date where you or your date can't set the flowers aside; you don't want someone holding a bouquet of flowers the entire time, do you?
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I don’t by flowers for anyone anymore, twice in my life I had woman break up with me the day I a got them flowers... I’ll by you dinner, I’ll cook, pay for drinks, hell, I even braught a girl a ukulele, if we are together what’s mine is yours but if you want flowers you will have to buy them yourself.

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