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Whenever you egaged in an angry altercation with someone else, haven't you invariably thought that the other person was absolutely wrong, and you were absolutely right? Why do we think so?

Noyi 6 Oct 10
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Yes, because in those situations Im only ever angry enough to argue against racism, mysogyny, fascism, bald faced lies and personal attacks or bullying. You know, the values of the Republican party. If theres a possibility of either or both of us being right, I don't get angry and would seldom if ever argue.

Exactly right.

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Usually, but sometimes with my husband I know I’m wrong but I don’t want to give in.

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no, that is backwards. you don't think you're right because you're engaged in an angry altercation. you're engaged in an angry altercation because you think you're right.

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If it's not about right/wrong then the conversation moves along

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If you recognize the person as "the other" it's easier to fight with them -- easier to put up a wall than to build a bridge to work through misunderstandings.

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If you recognized that the other person was at least in part right, you would change your mind, at least in part, and would then see your new slightly adjusted position as right, therefore it is not possible to believe anything else.

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Not "invariably", because i enjoy a good Discussion but get angry if the other person starts throwing around disrespect instead of staying on topic.
I have been wrong a few times, like for example got married twice.....

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I used to. I began noticing when other people would use dirty tactics to make their point. Then I started seeing that I was using those same dirty tactics. I learned to start asking hard questions anytime I found myself being dodgy. I feel I'm much more balanced now but I still have my moments.

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Because if we didn't have absolute confidence that we were right, we wouldn't get into such a heated debate in the first place.

It doesn't mean we couldn't be wrong though!

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I think nearly all people believe they are right about what they believe, think, and feel. When we discover we are mistaken, we often change our beliefs to the revised or newly discovered paradigm which we have become to think is correct. When emotions become high, our defenses also kick in and we sometimes have difficulty behaving rationally much less a thinking rationally.

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naturally, otherwise why fight?

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I find that many times when people (including me) act in anger it is when they realize on some level that they are wrong.

MsAl Level 8 Oct 11, 2018

@Veteran229 That's why I said many times, not always. People get nastiest when backed into a corner. Being humiliated is infuriating.

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Because, I check my facts, double check them, and don't argue If I'm not certain that I am right.

JimG Level 8 Oct 10, 2018
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My sister keeps trying to pull me into these types of discussions going as far as telling me that I'm calling her a liar for not going along with her version of reality. I just tell her that we have different opinions and refuse to be sucked in. If she continues I remove myself from the situation.

Right now we haven't spoken for almost two months because of her demanding I do something because she is always right. She's not always right; she just want to be in control of EVERYTHING including my life.

That ain't going to happen.

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I rarely get involved in altercations, as I am usually easy-going. It is only when I feel that the other person has infringed on my rights, treated my very unfairly, or is treating other poorly that I get angry. that

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Not certain I can agree with this. I try very much own my part in most situations and don't mind apologizing when wrong. I think that because I do this I am rarely wrong, though.

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Self serving bias

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I am quick to admit when I am wrong and I constantly monitor myself to be sure. So if I am involved in an altercation, then I am in the right and they are in the wrong, or at least not in the complete right.

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jeez the amount of times ive had to apologise once the red mist clears but thats the point you are not thinking clearly in an argument youre in fight or flight mode

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Of course anyone and everyone can be wrong it is just how the individual brain works and functions.
If I am right I will strive to keep it right, If I am wrong I will strive to make it right.

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